I think it's probably inconsistencies in the writing that make Shabnam's current attitude inexplicable to me. She's been carrying a terrible burden since we met her again, and it's been made clear that guilt was caused by her abandonment of her daughter and not just shame at the pregnancy. She definitely cared for the child even though she buried those feelings very deeply.
Therefore, I just can't get my head around her instantly caring for her unborn baby whilst apparently being able to push thoughts of Jade aside (especially since the latter has a serious illness). I'd understand if she'd never cared for Jade but it's been made very clear that wasn't the case. As I said, the writing might be the problem for me.[/QUOTE]
Dazzle - this reply is probably a lot of rubbish
but put it forward for what its worth.
I think it is possible for someone to divorce
themselves from a past situation - as tho it
never happened.But that doesnt really tally
with Shabnams personality?? A form of
self-protection?
Im sure Ive read that there is a pyschological
condition where someone has not deal with
a past situation correctly and tries to rectify
things by dealing with a current one better.
Still not dealing with past!.
I read about it some years ago-if Ive remembered
it correctly. I thought it might be called
" tranference" but now dont think so.
Got visitors shortly so cant do any research
- and not sure what to look for.
Its just something at the back of my brain
that wont come forward!!
So just mentioning it in case it rings any
bells!!
MM
