Abigail I know what your going through and it's no wonder your emotions are all over the place. It's once of the hardest things to face in life finding out that loved ones have suffered abuse. The verman infected my family 21 years ago and although the beasty b*****d is now six feet under he was never taken to court or charge with any offences, because his victims innocent children were too traumatised to tell anyone as he threatened to murder family members and make the kids watch while he did this. How's a 9 year old and a 6 year old supposed to cope with that.
It all began in 1989 my sister was pregnant with her third child and I had arranged to take her eldest two away to Butlins for a holiday to give her a rest. My sister didn't keep well during her pregnancy because she suspected her husband was having an affair with her so-callled best mate, which they denied but hey guess what my sister was right. At this time my sister's husband used to take the kids to his father's house and they were all alcholics and druggies. this is when the abuse began. sometimes my nephew and neice would be late home and my sister would be frantic. They would say they were in the liabary but they weren't. In September of 89 I took my nephew and niece away on holiday, while we were there a lot of money was going missing from my bag. I asked the kids if they had taken it but both denied touching it. When we got home I spoke to my sister about it and asked her to keep an eye on them and her money. My nephew's behaviour became very violent,but my niece became very withdrawn and used to wet herself a lot. In the October my sister was at the doctors for a check up and to get my youngest neice checked over. She was only 3 months at the time. My sister broke down at the doctors he then examined her two oldest kids and she was told he believed that her kids were being sexually abused. My sister had 5 nervous breakdowns over 4 years,
From that moment it was like someone sticking a knife in your heart. My nephew and neice were taken into care. After a few days my sister got my six year old neice back but my nine year old nephew was put into a secure unit until he went to foster parents. My sister never got him back. He remained in care until he was 16 and all three kids were placed on the at risk register until they all reached the age of 16. My wonderful nephew and niece are now 30 and 27 and too this day they have never said who the beasty *******er was but it is believed by the police and doctors that it was there Grandfather.
Abigail I would love to say you will get over this but we have been friends on here for a long time and you know I'd be lying. You don't get over it. It's like death you just get used to living with the pain Having this vermen infect my family has made me more terrirtoral to my family and to kids in care. In my job we have to deal with a lot of students who maybe in care and a lot of people think that if a kid is in care then they've got a screw loose that is not the case. You and your family can survive this with love and support for each other. There will be tears, lots of tears. I know I still shead tears to this day but now it's tears of pride and joy at how wonderful my nephew and neice have coped with life.
How come I've been taking my meds"
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