Your sexuality?

[hannah-mj]

Right, Ive just read this whole thread, Just for emmie!

And right, Dawn I didnt know you were bi!! For starters lol.

Right, I have no problem ATALL with bi or gay people, I have 4 bi girl mates, 2 bi boy mates, who i suspect are just gay... [so camp] and i love them all to peices.

Im not bi..whatever emmie thinks! Lols.
Some people think i am bi, because when im with lads [yes even my boyfriend] and bi girls, i dont mind saying if a girl is nice looking or whatever, so some people think that weird, but im just comfortable with my sexuality. =]]

Emmie says i have whats called 'girl crushes'. I dont think i do...can someone explain what this is lol?


I dont know, one day i may be bi.. i doubt it.. Highly, but if i was, i wouldnt mind =]] T'is cool x

Well, how things change
I must've wrote this message over a year ago i assume, from the way i typed lol.

"I doubt it highly" I now far from doubt it highly.
It just goes to show that one person can really change your view on things, whereas some people are born bi/gay/lesbian, some peoples sexuality can be altered from what happens during there life.

Last year when i wrote that, i think it may have been even longer ago, but yeah, i had never even kissed a girl, and didnt think i would. I didnt see anything wrong with it, and was willing to try it, but just didnt think id ever 'get round to it'. But now some time on, i have definately kissed a girl, lot of girls infact, and so on..

But I still would not define myself as Bi, but as during the course of the last 1 or so years, i fell in love with a girl, totally out of my control. My experience truly does define the quote ''its not the gender you fall in love with, its the person'' and ''you cant help who you fall in love with''. I became very close to a friend, we fell in love, well i fell in love with her, not because she was a girl, but because i loved everything about her personality and who she was, i still do, but we are now no longer friends, i am not entirely sure why, heartbreaking it was/is, though. But i know that without meeting her i wouldnt have questioned my sexuality as much as i have done. Now i think is it just her? Or is it girls that i like? I know that i like boys, well i think i do. But i do question whether i like girls also.

The reason i would not class myself as bi though is because, I see being bi as more of a ''i like boys and girls'', whereas i would put myself in the open-minded category as i am more ''if it happens, it happens''.

[Chris_2k11]

well im sure alot of you already know about me, lol dunno why ive actually never said it on here just never felt the need to i suppose. seeing a guy at the moment and its going well, early days tho lol

[Jessie Wallace]

Good luck Chris, hope it goes well for you.

[DaVeyWaVey]

That sounds really sweet Hannah. I'm sorry she didn't feel the same way, but I think it is true that people feel they can't be labelled.. as you say, some people fall for the person because of who they are and their personality, and gender doesn't come into it. For other people, gender does come into consideration which is why these labels exist.

Hope things go well Chris with this guy.

[hannah-mj]

That sounds really sweet Hannah. I'm sorry she didn't feel the same way, but I think it is true that people feel they can't be labelled.. as you say, some people fall for the person because of who they are and their personality, and gender doesn't come into it. For other people, gender does come into consideration which is why these labels exist.

Hope things go well Chris with this guy.

Yeah.. i reckon she did feel the same, it was just getting i dunno.. too much i suppose, and she really didnt want people to know atall. I reckon thats why we ''fell out'' she thought of a friendship related reason to fall out, because she couldnt handle her feelings towards me. This is what everyone thinks anyway! I kind of hope she did have feelings towards me, if she didnt, god she lead me on.

I hope things go alright too with Chris and your Guy

[Abigail]

How are things going with you and your boyfriend Davey? Have you told your parents yet?

[Bryan]

the problem i'm facing atm is whether or not to tell my friends that i also like men, becuase it feels like im not being entirely honest with them. then again i dont want them judging me any differently, i dont know if i should becuase i'm not sure anything would ever happen with a guy anyways, so it might just all be unecessary to tell them

dont think i'd ever tell my family unless i actually was in a relationship with a man, just becuase my family are very traditional in a lot of ways, and it's not worth all the drama unless there's a reason for it. dunno really...

[Siobhan]

the problem i'm facing atm is whether or not to tell my friends that i also like men, becuase it feels like im not being entirely honest with them. then again i dont want them judging me any differently, i dont know if i should becuase i'm not sure anything would ever happen with a guy anyways, so it might just all be unecessary to tell them

dont think i'd ever tell my family unless i actually was in a relationship with a man, just becuase my family are very traditional in a lot of ways, and it's not worth all the drama unless there's a reason for it. dunno really...

don't tell anyone until you are ready.. but also remember it is nothing to be ashamed of either. You are who you are and people will like you for you and not your sexuality.

[Debs]

the problem i'm facing atm is whether or not to tell my friends that i also like men, becuase it feels like im not being entirely honest with them. then again i dont want them judging me any differently, i dont know if i should becuase i'm not sure anything would ever happen with a guy anyways, so it might just all be unecessary to tell them

dont think i'd ever tell my family unless i actually was in a relationship with a man, just becuase my family are very traditional in a lot of ways, and it's not worth all the drama unless there's a reason for it. dunno really...

If they are real friends hun, they will take it really well, your still you no matter you are attracted to.

i recently had a friend who i went to school with tell me she was gay, it was a big thing for her and i think now she feels a lot better its all out!

Good luck hun xx

[Jojo]

Bry - you don't have to tell anyone anything until you WANT to! Its your life, your decisions and unless you are in a relationship with someone, why worry about telling anyone? At the mo, it seems you are curious more than anything, which I think is something pretty much everyone goes through in life (including myself).

And if you fall in love with another guy, then be proud and shout it from the rooftops - true friends will always be there for you no matter what. Those that aren't - they aren't worth it and they certainly aren't friends x x