sorry to be a bit late on this post, but good on you dave for standing up for your feelings. I hope that this lad has feelings for you as you are a wonderful young man and we will always adore you on here.Quote:
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sorry to be a bit late on this post, but good on you dave for standing up for your feelings. I hope that this lad has feelings for you as you are a wonderful young man and we will always adore you on here.Quote:
Originally Posted by DaVeyWaVey
lol talk about dragging up an old post!
erm yeah, dont really know how to put it, i'm curious i suppose, and i have to admit i find some men attractive. couldn't imagine myself being in a relationship with a man at all, that's just not for me really. so dunno really wouldn't know if i should say im bisexual, don't really believe in labels and all of that
I Think women are beautiful and sexy, but i am only sexually attracted to men.:cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
Well, how things changeQuote:
Originally Posted by hannah-mj
I must've wrote this message over a year ago i assume, from the way i typed lol.
"I doubt it highly" I now far from doubt it highly.
It just goes to show that one person can really change your view on things, whereas some people are born bi/gay/lesbian, some peoples sexuality can be altered from what happens during there life.
Last year when i wrote that, i think it may have been even longer ago, but yeah, i had never even kissed a girl, and didnt think i would. I didnt see anything wrong with it, and was willing to try it, but just didnt think id ever 'get round to it'. But now some time on, i have definately kissed a girl, lot of girls infact, and so on..
But I still would not define myself as Bi, but as during the course of the last 1 or so years, i fell in love with a girl, totally out of my control. My experience truly does define the quote ''its not the gender you fall in love with, its the person'' and ''you cant help who you fall in love with''. I became very close to a friend, we fell in love, well i fell in love with her, not because she was a girl, but because i loved everything about her personality and who she was, i still do, but we are now no longer friends, i am not entirely sure why, heartbreaking it was/is, though. But i know that without meeting her i wouldnt have questioned my sexuality as much as i have done. Now i think is it just her? Or is it girls that i like? I know that i like boys, well i think i do. But i do question whether i like girls also.
The reason i would not class myself as bi though is because, I see being bi as more of a ''i like boys and girls'', whereas i would put myself in the open-minded category as i am more ''if it happens, it happens''.
well im sure alot of you already know about me, lol dunno why ive actually never said it on here just never felt the need to i suppose. seeing a guy at the moment and its going well, early days tho lol
Good luck Chris, hope it goes well for you.
That sounds really sweet Hannah. I'm sorry she didn't feel the same way, but I think it is true that people feel they can't be labelled.. as you say, some people fall for the person because of who they are and their personality, and gender doesn't come into it. For other people, gender does come into consideration which is why these labels exist.
Hope things go well Chris with this guy. :)
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Yeah.. i reckon she did feel the same, it was just getting i dunno.. too much i suppose, and she really didnt want people to know atall. I reckon thats why we ''fell out'' she thought of a friendship related reason to fall out, because she couldnt handle her feelings towards me. This is what everyone thinks anyway! I kind of hope she did have feelings towards me, if she didnt, god she lead me on.
I hope things go alright too with Chris and your Guy :)
How are things going with you and your boyfriend Davey? Have you told your parents yet?
the problem i'm facing atm is whether or not to tell my friends that i also like men, becuase it feels like im not being entirely honest with them. then again i dont want them judging me any differently, i dont know if i should becuase i'm not sure anything would ever happen with a guy anyways, so it might just all be unecessary to tell them
dont think i'd ever tell my family unless i actually was in a relationship with a man, just becuase my family are very traditional in a lot of ways, and it's not worth all the drama unless there's a reason for it. dunno really...
don't tell anyone until you are ready.. but also remember it is nothing to be ashamed of either. You are who you are and people will like you for you and not your sexuality.Quote:
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Originally Posted by bondboffin
If they are real friends hun, they will take it really well, your still you no matter you are attracted to.
i recently had a friend who i went to school with tell me she was gay, it was a big thing for her and i think now she feels a lot better its all out!
Good luck hun xx
Bry - you don't have to tell anyone anything until you WANT to! Its your life, your decisions and unless you are in a relationship with someone, why worry about telling anyone? At the mo, it seems you are curious more than anything, which I think is something pretty much everyone goes through in life (including myself).
And if you fall in love with another guy, then be proud and shout it from the rooftops - true friends will always be there for you no matter what. Those that aren't - they aren't worth it and they certainly aren't friends x x
I agree with Jojo, talk about it when you are ready and don't worry about those that will judge you on your sexuality rather than personality.
Things are going alright. He seems to think it's working out but our relationship is very awkward as we only see each other on weekends or once every few weeks, plus he lives a fair distance away and we are having a relationship behind our parents' backs. I still haven't told them and I feel quite upset about that. I feel guilty for not telling them about me or my relationship and going behind their backs, but I have tried telling my mum numerous times but I just can't tell her. I don't want to hurt my parents because I love them both and I really want to tell them, but I just can't. :( I have wrote a letter though as I feel that might be easier, and I might leave it somewhere for my mum to find and go away for a few days, so she can take the news in.Quote:
Originally Posted by Abigail
Bry - I echo what everyone else says. I can really understand and empathise with the difficulties you face trying to tell your parents, but with your friends, I personally found it a lot easier, because you can choose your friends and not your family and if your friends disown you for who you are, then they aren't really friends as your sexuality doesn't make you who you are. It's only a small part of you and doesn't change your personality or your overall individuality at all.
I came out to my mum today - she was fine with it. I am so happy. I was starting to get stressed bottling it up but now I feel free in a weird way.. :) She told me she doesn't care who I am but to not label myself too quickly as my feelings may change or I will just feel these things forever... I told her I am sexually attracted to men and think I always will be and she said she couldn't give a monkeys. :p so yay. :cheer:
Well done! :D
Awwww nice one Dave! I'm really glad sh was good about it! So proud of you hun xxxxx
I think we can all relate to telling somebody something we are not sure about how they are going to take the news, so very well done Dave. :thumbsup:
Well done Dave. I'm proud of you for finding the courage to talk to your mum, and proud of your mum for her reaction.
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Well done Dave, and great to hear your Mum's reaction was good! :thumbsup:
That's fab Dave!
Bet that was a huge weight lifted! :D
Woop woop Dave, well done huni. If only we could all have some of the courage you do
Like everyone here, Im both proud and happy for you! I think your mum gave some sound advice too...don't be too quick to give yourself a label....just be you, and see how things pan out!!! :)
well done davey!
well done davey, and im glad your mum was so supportive :)
Well done on crossing that huge hurdle in telling your Mum Davey. I like everyone else is proud of you and so glad that your mum was so understanding.
i think i might be a lesbian/ bi ?
can someone give me some advise on how i can be sure ?
thanks
I think there's really only one way to find out: have a same sex experience. I don't think there's really any other way of findong out!
Do you have the same feelings for both sex?
Or do you just think women are more attractive?
Have you ever had an experience with both?
I think as said above you can only be 100% sure from experience.
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Well done Davey you must be really pleased now :D
:searchme: please someone help me i think i might be a lesbian but im not sure, i have been having feelings for one particular girl recently, what shall i do ?
How old are you? It could be a passing phase but if you have had feelings for girls in the past or you feel really deeply about this girl, then you could be a lesbian. Have you felt anything towards men before?
Don't be sooo keen to give yourself a label......just cause you have feeling for one girl doesnt mean you are going to be gay....when you are young its easy to get all those feelings and emotions muddled up, and trying to define yourself/sexuality isn't helpful....just be true to yourself (ie, be yourself) and everything else will start to slot in to place...:)Quote:
Originally Posted by soap-lover-xx
I'm straight, and I intend to stay that way. :D
I'm a lesbian, I don't hate men as some people think most lesbians do just for the chemistry is not there for me to fancy a man :(
I get along with men on a friendship level and most of my close friends have and are men.
I'm out to my family and friends - it's no big secret as at the end of the day I am just me living my life as I want to hoping to one day to find love just everyone else out there.x
Ladypink, it is amazing how many old threads have been resurrected since you joined the boards!
I am glad that you are happy in your own skin and that your family accept you for who you are.
I have recently stopped fighting against my own feelings and trying to hide them. So, yeah, the endless hiding has stopped: Just coming out is the worst part of all I feel!
I have been going through the boards and I have come across so many interesting topics that have been dormant so I decided to reply to a few.
Thanks for your comment :) Really appreciated
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