Kathy emailed Phil when she heard Ben had been convicted of Heather's manslaughter, so it was several years ago. I think the evening of the live episode was the first time they met in person.
Yes, it's a very popular fan theory that Gavin is Sharon's biological father, and the writers seem to be hinting at it with Sharon's remark about Ian being like a brother to her (they'll be step-siblings if she is Gavin's daughter).





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