Calling all mums.. I need help!!

[Hollie-x]

Shiv you have my sympathy you must be at your wits end. I don't think he needs to see a shrink as the creche are suggesting but can I ask is he having these bouts of tantrums at nursery because he is bored.

I don't mean to be cheeky but is he being kept active enough, I don't think he has ADHD but I do think he is more advanced than some of the kids at the creche and the toys and games they play he has got bored with and are not challenging enough for him. What age is Charlie now is there anyway you could take him out of this creche and put him in a pre-school nursery. My sister had a terrible time with my nephew and one of the things that set him of was pure orange juice so may be he has a food/drink allergy that you are not aware of.

My sister was the same with her son he is now 29 and he was forever bitting and kicking her. One of the main problems was he wouldn't sleep he would go to bed around mindnight and be up bright-eyed at 5am again. The doctor put him on valium syrup at 18months old even now he gets up at 4am and goes out to work or to take photographs.

I'm not a mum yet obv but my mum was a childminder for 13 years up until a few years ago and she looked after one little girl who's behaviour was a lot like the behaviour you're describing and in the end the doctor said it's because she's too advanced for her age. From being a baby she used to cry constantly because she wanted to be doing things. For example when she was about 9/10 months old it was near impossible to get her to sit anywhere because she wanted to be walking when she couldn't - it was as if she wanted to be independant and do things for herself and got really frustrated when she couldn't and would often lash out as she got older as a result because she wanted to find things more challenging - as Chloe said.

Now she's in school and going to year 1 after summer and already she is top of her class and they were thinking of moving her up into the next year because of how able she is for her age.

Hope you get sorted (: x

[Chloe O'brien]

As I said my sister had a terrible time with my nephew when he was a kid. He was not violent but was easily bored, at school he was always the first one in his class to finish any work and couldn't sit still he would end up rolling around the floor annoying the other kids. Even now he is an adult he can't sit still he constantly has to be doing something. All the teachers, health visitors said he was hyper-active but my Mum shot them down telling them that he was just a normal boy who was more clever than other kids and he needed to be simulated and supported more.

Shiv you have one very clever boy there. Who is going to make you proud, he is going to pass all his exams with flying colours and be a millionaire before he is 25 then you can turn around and stick two fingers up to the lot of them.

[Siobhan]

Thank you everyone... especially Kath.. it is nice to know I am not alone on this...

Went to Doctor on Saturday and she said he might need to see a behaviour therapist but not a shrink. He is a bright little boy and from an early age has been with kids a few years older than him. Doctor said that he will settle as he will have more to do and think about

I have asked Charley (who is nearly 8) to help him at creche but she says that the creche people won't let her.. Ben was brilliant this weekend so it could very well be complete boredom at creche... School starts in 3 weeks so hopefully we can see a change in him..

[Chloe O'brien]

Glad to hear you had a great weekend with the wee man. Hopefully once school starts you will see a big difference in him and that will bring new worries Kids.