Telling someone you dont like them

[Abi]

This is a slightly confusing problem!! Bare with me, lol! And i've changed all the names of people

Aggges ago, in like September, i went to the Red Bull Air Race with my sister, her fiance, my friend, and their friend Ian. On the way back, me an Ian were chatting about **** to be honest, and i didn't think anything of it. It was just one of those random conversations you have. Anyway, in December, Ian got my number from my sister, and asked me out. Bare in mind that Ian is 22, and i'm 17. Anyway, i said no (But nicely!)

Anyway, last weekend i went to his house with my sister and another of her friends. It was fun and everything. Now Ian has texted one of my best mates Charlotte (I've known her for ages, and her brother is engaged to my sister), asking loads of questions about me. Then he added her myspace, and kept asking about me. He said that ever since the Red Bull Air Race he knew i was "The one" (Whats with that?!).

So... As if that wasn't bad enough that someone i really dont like seems to be slightly too obsessed with me I've been half-seeing someone else for a while Its nothing serious, so Charlotte, my sister and Ian dont know.

Sooo... How do i tell Ian that i really dont like him without really hurting him? Bless him, i like him as a mate, i dont want it to be ackward whenever i see him now!!

[Jojo]

You are going to have to be honest with him hun. Its the only way. Try and explain to him that he is a great mate etc but thats where it ends. Thats what I'd suggest anyway. Not hugely helpful, but honesty tends to be the best way in the end.

[Abigail]

Tell him you're very flattered that he likes you but you're not ready for a full-on relationship just yet and maybe you're better off as friends/you see him more as a friend than a bf. If the age difference is a problem you could drop that in too.

[Chloe O'brien]

I Agree that you have to be honest with him that you don't want to get into a relationship with him, regardless if you are seeing someone else or not, As long as you have been yourself and not lead him to think that you fancy him, then don't feel guilty. At the end of the day his ego may be bruised but he will idmire your honesty that you are not stringing him along and giving him false hope.

[Pinkbanana]

Is he your sister's friend? Sorry, a bit dense tonight...

If so, you could ask her to have a quiet word or drop hints that you arent interested in that way or subtle mention you are interested in someone else...as maybe he thinks there's a chance he could be in there and that might give him a reality check...

Honesty is the best policy as JJ n Kath have both said...

Failing that I'd check out the laws on stalking, and take out an injunction against him! The less subtle approach! (sorry if that was a bad joke)

[Katy]

i think you should be honest, say you would rather be his friend. Say the age difference puts you off or something, but you think he is a nice guy.

[Dexaloff]

follow him out and start talking to him and hope for the best but dont get your hopes up too high.

you dont like guys just looking for a shag... you dont know this guy so that could be all it is to him... so be aware of that as well.

hope all goes well though.
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[Chris_2k11]

sorry but how old is this haha

[Abigail]

Hi Dexaloff, welcome to the boards.

This thread is over two years old so I'm sure Abi has sorted the situation by now


EDIT: Chris beat me to it by a few seconds.