Counselling?

[Xx-Vicky-xX]

I think this is the correct place

Anyone had conselling? or know anyone who has? Did it help? Is it worth while? just general help with this would be appreciated
Thank you
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[Abigail]

I saw a psychologist at CAMHS in 2006/7. It didn't work for me because I wasn't ready to talk about why I was there. I didn't really want to go in the first place, it was my parents and doctor who thought I needed to go.

It does work for some people but you need to be at the stage where you can talk about whatever you're gettting help for.

There are lots of different types of therapy. If/when you decide to go, the person you see will decide which form of therapy would most suit you.

The waiting lists are very long if you go through your GP. I was referred by a hospital so I was only waiting four weeks

[Xx-Vicky-xX]

Thanks for your reply.

Dont very much know if i am ready for this at all

I will go though GP it is the best i got, if it takes ages then least i can prepare myself in the time i have to wait

[Abigail]

Think about why you want counselling. You don't have to say on here if you don't want to.

Its not easy, I found it incredibly hard to sit there for an hour and talk about things that I didn't want to talk about.

Like you say, go see your GP and get on the waiting list. If after a few sessions you don't think its working then just explain that to the therapist.

[Jojo]

I had counselling after my godmother committed suicide - I needed it although I didn't see it at the time, but after a while, I opened up to the counsellor and it really did help. But like Abigail said, depending on what you want the counselling for, if you want it or someone else thinks you need it etc, then depends on whether it will work for you or not.

[Perdita]

I had counselling for a couple of years after several failed relationships, being in a wrong relationship and not wanting to accept this, I just did not know what to do and after initially being nervous, I managed to open up to the counsellor and got myself sorted. You should be able to change counsellors if you feel you don't get on with the one you are seeing.

[Xx-Vicky-xX]

Thanks guys, yeah i think that will be a big problem with me (not wanting to talk about stuff) dont really help neither that i am not totally sure what i need help with or even if i really need help

[Jojo]

Sometimes its far easier to talk to someone who doesn't know you at all, than to speak to a friend or relative. Thats one great thing about it - you could even go to the counsellor saying that you aren't about stuff and you aren't a great talker. Its surprising what can end up coming out.

[Xx-Vicky-xX]

Sometimes its far easier to talk to someone who doesn't know you at all, than to speak to a friend or relative. Thats one great thing about it - you could even go to the counsellor saying that you aren't about stuff and you aren't a great talker. Its surprising what can end up coming out.

Yeah it is hard talking to people i know aswell so hopefully this will prove to be a good idea in time

Thanks for your help x

[pookie1968uk]

i was referred for councelling through the doctor but didnt want to wait so i paid for some instead which was quicker. as it was i was contacted after about 2months for the NHS councelling which wouldnt have been long to wait anyway.
i found it really beneficial. i was happy to talk, in fact i probably didnt stop talking for the hour i was there each time! it is easier to tell your problems to someone you dont know i think, plus they are not judgemental and you can say anything about anyone and anything and you know it will go no further than the room.
i wouldnt say all my problems are solved but it was definitely a help.