poop on the toilet help please

[chance]

My son will be 4 end of feb,he has been out of nappys for a while now and weeing on the toilet,he just wont poo on the toilet!! Ive tried all the norm,reward charts etc bribary etc!! But no go he still wont go,he doesnt seem scared at all of sitting on the toilet ive sat with him for ages and waited but .. nothing.When he is desperate to go and ive given up waiting i do put a pull up on him and he goes in there.
Ive refused to put it on and he holds it and holds it until he has belly ache the next day,back on the toilet but no go,so i obviously dont want him to have gut ache so i put on a pull up,vicious circle.
He has never pooed his pants in public etc or at playgroup.He starts rising 4's at big school in sept (week and half) just morning but i dont like the thought of him at the bigger part of the school and maybe in need of a poo etc bu wont.
Help please,some useful advice appriciated.

[Jojo]

My friend has this problem with her little girl - she took her to the docs and the doc put her on some meds to make her looser as she was doing it no probs in her pants but refusing and actually screaming (not like yours I know but..) when she was to do a poo in the toilet. Sometimes she won't go for a week (even on the meds!!)

Not sure what to recommend, apart from doing what you are doing or maybe for you to have a word with your GP like my friend did and see if they recommend anything - sorry not more help.

[Chloe O'brien]

My Marley has been on meds since last november because she can't poo everyday, If she doesn't have the meds she is in agony. The doctor says she has a slow transition. My friend's son is now 12 and since he went to nursery he would not poo in the toilet, even when he went to school and new he won't poo at school he holds it in until he comes home. Maybe is a hygenic thing that they may think the toilet is not clean like the one at home. I would have a word with your doctor as you don't want him to suffer any pains. Also I'm not sure about the nurseries down in England but up in Scotland a nursery won't accept a child if they are still in nappies.

[Trinity]

Have you tried a clip on toilet seat?

My friend son was pertified that he would fall in the loo, once they go a clip on and a step he was fine.

[chance]

My Marley has been on meds since last november because she can't poo everyday, If she doesn't have the meds she is in agony. The doctor says she has a slow transition. My friend's son is now 12 and since he went to nursery he would not poo in the toilet, even when he went to school and new he won't poo at school he holds it in until he comes home. Maybe is a hygenic thing that they may think the toilet is not clean like the one at home. I would have a word with your doctor as you don't want him to suffer any pains. Also I'm not sure about the nurseries down in England but up in Scotland a nursery won't accept a child if they are still in nappies.

He doesnt seem to have any problems getting it out,he's fine with pull ups but just wont go on toilet,so i dont think he has a problem with pushing it out as such.He's already at playgroup and going to rising 4's sept,he doesnt wear nappies or pull ups to school as he is fine goin for a weeetc and he has never done a poo at school or had any accidents,he holds it in until he gets home.

[chance]

Have you tried a clip on toilet seat?

My friend son was pertified that he would fall in the loo, once they go a clip on and a step he was fine.

Yes have had the toilet seat and steps since i began training him but still wont go for a poop

[Chloe O'brien]

I think a trip to the doctors would be the best solution as it can be dangerous if he is holding it in for ages. As I said my friend had the same problem with her son he is now 12 and he still won't go for a poo at school. He is alright at home. My friend thinks its an issue to do with hygiene and the fear of catching germs as when he was at nursery they have to wash their hands a lot and I think the thought of him having to share the loo with lots of kids he was scared incase he caught anything, and he is still the same now. But you don't want him to suffer any bowel problems.

[no1abbafan]

Will he do it in a potty, if so, maybe you could make a big deal of him emptying it into the loo and flushing, I did that with my little girl, she wasn't as bad but didn't like the toilet to poo, after a while she was ok, I also had books that we read while she was sitting on the big loo.

[chance]

Will he do it in a potty, if so, maybe you could make a big deal of him emptying it into the loo and flushing, I did that with my little girl, she wasn't as bad but didn't like the toilet to poo, after a while she was ok, I also had books that we read while she was sitting on the big loo.

Nope he wont go on pot either,will have wee on it like on toilet but wont poo.

[Abi]

Maybe try getting him into the habit of using a pull up, but sitting on the toilet at the same time? Just so he gets used to needing a poo, and going to the toilet. Then after a few weeks, take the pull up away?