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Hmm good few weeks but gosh, so not knowing what to do with some things.
Staff party last week, and this Weds just gone... and got wit the same boy both times.. and apparantly he fancies me, I don't know.. but truth is, I'm just not that in to him lol. I still really like this other guy I work with. Which I told I liked, and he said something like "give up smoking for a start", and that's all I remember of what he said to me about it all lol. He's still been treating me normally, and kinda flirty and all that, so don't know whether he likes me or not.. everyone thinks he does though.. but I dunno.. and if the other guy asks me out or something, do I say yes, even though I'm not that in to him, but I do like him etc... but would I just be settling for second best? I dunno lol.. ahhh :p
And am I a bad friend for still liking the girl who kind of had an affair with my mates fiance.. I love all my mates, and I have tried to hate her for what she has done, but I can't! I value her friendship too much, she's been there for me a lot this year. So I don't know, am I being a bad mate to the other girl?
AHH... and I dunno I have been REALLY snappy this week! Like the slightest thing and I'll just snap! And a proper bad mood.. towards the start of the week I understood.. cos I was on.. and stuff lol.. but I'm not now, and I'm still being snappy and constant bad moods lol!!!! Any ideas why ??
ANDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD still got some college work to do :crying: even though college is officially over. Meant to be in next week.. hmm we shall seeeeee!!!!
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Leah don't go out with the first guy if you don't really like him it's not fair on both of you, and no it's not wrong to be friends with a girl who had affair with another girls guy, it has nothing to do with you why should you have to choose between friends when this girl has been there for you. Yes she did wrong but so did the guy and IMO she was single he wasn't so why should you be made to choose between friends.
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Well done Katy thats brilliant :D
I feel ill :( oh well i'll get it out of my system somehow!
Lea... don't settle for second best, you have to settle for what you want. But if you feel liek you could give it a go then go for it.
You're not a bad friend at all... in fact you're a good friend. I've been in this situation (me and my mates went out for mine and this other girls birthday and this girl and my best friends boyfriend kissed... big palava over it) but they're all my friends, at first yeah I was angry and both the guy and the girl for hurting my friend that way, but you get over it and I don't turn my back on any of my friends... and it's got to the poiint of stupidness now anyways and quite frankly, my best friend is being an idiot over it all by basically getting back with the guy, but still making things difficult for the girl and is getting attention from it now, so in my opinion, no I don't think that's being a bad friend at all.
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HmmI know, but I don't really know how I feel about him to be honest. He's a really nice guy, and he is really cute, but I just don't know.. why am I so hung up on the other guy, who's not exactly shown any interest lol!? Strange.
And thanks, that's made me feel better about my mates. I feel sorry for her kinda, because her best mate went off with her boyfriend.. so I think she's just not herself at the moment.. and doesn't care about much, and I hate how the other girls are hating her! Especially one, who is a hypocrit, as a few weeks ago she told me that she kissed her boyfriends best mate! And now she is judging this other girl..
I know though if they findo ut I'm still talking to her, then they're going to go on at me, and I am not looking forward to that, but I shall use what you said Kath haha. I like it. Thanks
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At the end of the day Lea, you're not responsible for your friend's actions. What she did might have been wrong but you shouldn't have to choose and you shouldn't drop your friends because of what she's done. If she slept with your boyfriend it would be different (obviously).
Don't feel bad for being friends with this lass. You have every right to be friends with her, she was there for you when you needed her (was the others?). Ignore what your other friends say, if they can't accept that you're sticking by her then that's their lookout. Tell them to go screw themselves, especially the one who kissed her boyfriend's mate.
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hopefully im gonna get my room tidied today, im feeling motivated so thats a good start!
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Me niece helped me with the housework this morning. We put some music on and danced then I hung the washing out and she washed some cups (made a HUGE mess in the kitchen but she was only trying to help).
We're going to a street festival soon. Nothing flash apparently.
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Having a real lazy weekend as I have worked way too hard this weekend as this past month I have worked an additional 40 hrs on top of my contracted 160 hrs and I feel exhausted. I woke up this morning and every part of me was aching.
I really need to slow down before I do myself some damage.
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Lea - I would echo what others have said. If you don't fancy this guy and he is serious about you, don't go with him because it will end in tears. I would just let him down gently. It's best if you try your luck with this other guy you really like.
I don't think your a bad friend either. The affair that happened is between your two friends and you shouldn't be dragged into it. It sounds like this girl has been good to you by being there for you.
Hannelene - put your feet up :)
I'm still in a weird mood.
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I agree with the other posts, Lea, try to move on from the guy who does not seem interested in you, let the other guy down gently and stay friends with the other girl, she has been there for you. Was not right what she did, but we all make mistakes, who knows what the guy told/promised her.
