I'm glad you've accepted who you are to yourself. I found 'coming out' to be the worst part so if you ever want to talk about it, feel free to PM me if you like.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tori
I'm glad you are happy with who you are Ladypink :)
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I'm glad you've accepted who you are to yourself. I found 'coming out' to be the worst part so if you ever want to talk about it, feel free to PM me if you like.Quote:
Originally Posted by Tori
I'm glad you are happy with who you are Ladypink :)
Have you told your dad yet Dave?
Yeah, I told him a month or so ago. His reaction was "Oh right cool, well are you making a cup of tea?" lol I can't believe I worried so much over how he would react. I count myself lucky as I know some people aren't so lucky when they tell their parents.Quote:
Originally Posted by Abigail
Thanks Davey :)
I must of been the only person who wasn't worried about coming out. I think because I knew what my parents and friends were like and their views to same sex relationships that I felt at ease. Not all friends were easy going some panicked thinking I would make a pass at them. Until I drummed it into their heads that I don't find ALL women attractive. I'm not a predator and don't make passes at ALL women! I have friends that have not been so lucky and have had to hide who they are. For religious reasons and through fear which breaks my hearts.
I am not one to go in for labels and when I meet people I don't introduce myself and then blurt out what I am. I hope when I meet someone that they meet and accept me - if their is a need for me to reveal my dating preference I do sometimes I don't. I hate to feel like I am forcing my views on someone else.
It's interesting you say that. You wouldn't try it on with all your male mates if you were straight so why should it be different if you're gay?Quote:
Originally Posted by ladypink
It's good that you weren't afraid to come out. That's a reaction I find irritating "Oh I don't mind as long as you don't try it on with me or anything" - this is what one of my friends said :rolleyes: as if I suddenly fancy them!Quote:
Originally Posted by ladypink
I am the same as you. I don't tell anyone my sexuality, unless it comes up in a conversation and they ask me then I will be honest. Aside from that, what's my business is my business. However, I told my friends and family as they deserved to know and I was comfortable sharing it on here.
One of my so called friends thought had such a HUGE ego that when I came out she asked me did I fancy her?. I said NO and she was like - why not?:lol:
I really felt the need to tell my family as I didn't want them to find out from someone else. I felt it was my place to sit down and tell them. I even made a joke of it and said it was their fault for sending me off to an all girl school!
well the time has come for me to come out to my family. i have found love and i am happy, and this is the last stage of coming out for me.
it is impossible to do it face to face, becuase of the way my family are. so it looks like its going to be a letter (cowardly i know), but im finding it hard to find the words to tell them :(
good luck hun, im sooo glad you,ve found someone great xxxxx
thanks, once ive sent that letter i will be so free, then ive got to wait for the call to hear what they have to say! :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Debs
if its good then i will be on top of the world, out and proud with the best guy in the world with me forever
if its bad, i still have Nick, and we can face it together, and see what happens
i just pray they are fine with it, after all im their son and i still love them. my sexuality shouldnt come into question, but i know with my dad at least it will do! :(
good luck bryan :) i hope it goes well with your family
good luck bry
Hope everything goes well xxxx
Good luck Bryan.
I don't think writing a letter is cowardly at all - it's how you best cope with it. I wrote a letter addressed to my mum but only because I find it easier to express my feelings through writing as everything just flows out of my mind, hence why I keep a diary from time to time as well.
The advantage of writing a letter to them is it gives your parents time to absorb what you have told them and come to terms with it, then it's up to them to take the next step and make contact when they are ready.
If you told them face to face, they would be forced to act on their feelings in the spur of the moment. At least a letter will give them time to think about what you've written down. They will be able to think before they act.
I really hope it goes well for you.
Good luck Bryan, I think you're so brave and have every ouce of respect for you :)
...I can't even tell my family I'm seeing a guy!... I just don't do relationship talk with them, but it's getting me into really bad bother lately.
So yeah, good luck and I'm sure everything will be fine :)
Good Luck Bry, im sure it'll all be fine honestly.
Good luck with the letter Bryan, I'm sure both parents will support you, have taken the biggets step and they will see that.
Good Luck Bry. But the most important thing is you have found love, nothing else matters. I'm sure your parents will be ok with it but if they are not please leave communicatons lines open becuase as time goes on they will be harder to re open. What I'm trying to say is if your parents do freak out then give them time to come round, please don't stop speaking to them because they don't understand straight away.
All the best with your parents Bry, you have to be honest with both yourself and with them. It isn't right to have to keep such an important part of yourself secret.
As a mother I know that I would love my boys no matter what. Your sexuality is not something that you choose, and it is not something that is optional and I am sure that your parents know that.
(TBH, I would also be a bit sad that it was not something I had noticed - perhaps your parents already know?)
Bry.. they probably already have an ikling and just waiting on you to tell them.. you're still the same Bry and they will love you just the same.. Best of luck and let us know how you got on... So happy you found love!Quote:
Originally Posted by Bryan
lol im the same! i dont lie to my parents about it i just dont tell them, my sis does the same. i dunno why its just always been like thatQuote:
Originally Posted by Kirsty :]
Well when we go out for the evening, or after work and we jsut sit in my car for hours, they ask where I was... so instead of telling them "oh yeah I've been sat in my car with my boss for God knows how long getting up to no good".. I just tell them I've been with my friends at Spoons or the Bowlplex.. but my Nan is cottoning on to the fact that something doesn't seem quite right.. btu I now feel like I'm in too deep to tell the truth ...:searchme:Quote:
Originally Posted by di marcolol im the same! i dont lie to my parents about it i just dont tell them, my sis does the same. i dunno why its just always been like thatQuote:
Originally Posted by Kirsty :]
hmmm if you dont wanna carry on lying to them just tell them the truth (although tbh id probably just carry on lying!) or wait til it gets serious before you tell them. just say you didnt wanna tell them to start with cos you didnt know what was gonna happen with it so wanted to make sure first?Quote:
Originally Posted by Kirsty :]Well when we go out for the evening, or after work and we jsut sit in my car for hours, they ask where I was... so instead of telling them "oh yeah I've been sat in my car with my boss for God knows how long getting up to no good".. I just tell them I've been with my friends at Spoons or the Bowlplex.. but my Nan is cottoning on to the fact that something doesn't seem quite right.. btu I now feel like I'm in too deep to tell the truth ...:searchme:Quote:
Originally Posted by di marcolol im the same! i dont lie to my parents about it i just dont tell them, my sis does the same. i dunno why its just always been like thatQuote:
Originally Posted by Kirsty :]
Hmm, I could, but thing is.. I don't quite know where it's going myself. I don't think it will get serious, he has this thing about commitment, not sure why... but I think it's quite deep. Anyways, I don't know.. I think it's just a phase... but it's been a 3 month phase already! So I'm all confused.. and I don't need my family on my back about it all too lol
Sorry its late but good luck bryan!
well i have the letter written now, and im going to post it once i get back to uni the end of next week. i do feel bad not telling them face to face, but there is no way i have the strength or courage to and its impossible to find the words when your telling them and theyre breaking down in tears or going mad. plus dont really fancy the aftermath with my dad treating me like a lepper.
I think its really brave letter or face to face writing it must have took courage and strength. Hope it goes well for you.
Relationship talk with parents is always difficult, especially for me, i just don't like talking about things like that. my sister can, but i can;t. Its just the way i am i think.
There's nothing to be ashamed of by writing a letter bry, your not doing anything wrong.
Bry, you have to do what feels right for you.. if you can't handle telling them face to face then you are doing the right thing with sending the letter. This will give them both time to listen to what you have to say, without interuption and they can then think about how you are feeling. Best of luck Bry and try not to worry about it when letter is sent, you are doing the right thing and what is best for you. So glad you are not been someone you are not just to please others.. xxxxxQuote:
Originally Posted by Bryan
I would do exactly the same in your situation Bryan. I always find that when I'm put under pressure, it doesn't matter how many times I've rehearsed something; it never turns out the way it was meant to. At least with the letter you could write it as many times as you wanted until it was exactly as you wanted it. Good luck :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Bryan
I am a lesbian and 'came out' to my friends and family just after my 16th birthday after my parents inital shock they are gradually coming to terms with it all.