You're not the only one, Glen. :oQuote:
Originally Posted by Glen1
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You're not the only one, Glen. :oQuote:
Originally Posted by Glen1
I can always start on the sequel if there's sufficient demand.:)
Need a big rant before I crack up. Not sure of people views on ADHD but I a sick of hearing that it is made up and just ba parenting. I don't think I am a bad mother and I definitely say no to my kids. My son has ADD with agression and some social issues. It is a real illness and is extremely difficult to live with. I have tried lots of things and even moved my son to a school that deals with these problems. However, it got so bad that the school can't teach him anymore and I had to admit him to a special clinic that provides therapy and testing to see if medication will help or not. My soon must stay over night andI only get to see him for 2 hours 3 nights a week and 4 hours on Saturday and Sunday. It breaks my heart to leave him there so "it is not real" is not great words of comfort to me or my son. What do you say to a child when they ask why they can't be normal and have friends? Sorry son,itis not real I'm just a bad mother.....
Sorry for the rant. I miss my son, am miles from my family and just feeling lost and stressed. Rant over
I am so sorry, Siobhan, wish there was something I could do to help. If ranting here helps, please feel free to do so. Hugs xxxx
What an awful situation for you and your family Siobhan! :(
Please feel free to rant as much as you need to. None of us who know you will believe for a moment that your son's illness is your fault. It's so unfortunate that there are still people who believe that, what an awful thing for you to hear! :angry:
I'm certain that in the case of ADHD there's absolutely NO blame to be laid at your door, Siobhan.
Is there any chance of you moving back to Ireland and your family in the future?
I can imagine you must feel as if your heart is being ripped out every time you have to leave him! Never mind what everyone else thinks, just as long as you know you are doing the best you can for you son xxx
A lot more needs to be done about raising awareness of ADHD. I knew someone years ago who had a child ill with it and not many people knew about it here and people just kept saying her child was just bad and it was an American newly defined illness that did'nt exist. She was an exceptional parent and we helped her establish her charity in support of children with ADHD. Not sure if it still is around. You sound like a good caring parent to me who has lots of love and time for her son. it's not easy for a parent to see their child have an illness. My daughter has been ill for years and you just have to find the strength to be there when they need you. My daughter feels she is loved and it gets her through and she is happy. So all you can do is love him like you already do and get through this together.
Big thank you for all your kind words. I just needed to vent. I have to say the help I am getting here in Germany is fantastic. They are looking to see if my son can be transfered to a day clinic so he can be home by 5 every night so it is a step forward. So much stress the last few days with meetings with social workers and therapist. I should stop reading english forums as that is where they say it is not real. What I didn't know is that a lot of people in uk claim their kids have adhd as they can claim benifits..... that's crazy and can understand now why so many claim it is bad parenting. These people who claim extra benefits just make it hard for real cases. My son has had testing done over 3 years before he was diagnose and thankfully is currently not on medication.
I'm glad to hear you're sounding better, Siobhan. :)
It's great that you've got a lot of support, and that your son might be transferred to a day clinic soon. Let us know what happens won't you?
That is good news.
Heard a true story today on the news which gave my faith in human nature a boost. Recently a young female uni student had been out for the night and wanted to get a taxi back home . She discovers she has lost her purse . As she was stood on the street wondering what to do ,in the knowledge she needed £15 for a taxi ,a homeless man sleeping rough asked her if she was alright. She explained what had happened and that she would walk back. The man now known to her as Robbie said it was not safe ,put his hand in his pocket and pulled out a handful of change , money he'd collected during the day. A few pounds I guess and offered it to her, all he had got in the world. She thanked him ,declined and managed to get a taxi and I suppose pay at her destination. She was so moved by Robbie's actions, decided to raise money for the homeless . thinking a target of a few hundred pounds. In the end she raised £29.000 and still continues with her mission. Brought a tear to my eyes hearing the story .So many lessons for us all to learn from Robbie and the young lass's actions....:)..:thumbsup:
Sure made me well up reading that, Glen ... What a kind gesture from the homeless man and w very well done to the young lady:bow: :cheer:
Hav'nt slept for two days have the investigation interview tomorrow with the second investigator they brought in after getting shot of the first one. This is after the organisation I work for whistleblew on the NHS with me as the main witness. Its all a farce if you ask me. They are determined to let people off scot free and cover up and somehow make me into the guilty party. Apparently they have got 10 witnesses against me. What a surprise ! I dont know why I am even bothering to go through the whole interview process again when it is such a stich up. Its been eight months now since the serious complaint went in. But i can't give up as its not my nature not to see something until the end. I live in hope that someone will see the truth for what it is at some stage. Now I will try and get some sleep.
I hope you managed to get some sleep Swmc.
I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. No matter how it goes, you can hold your head high knowing you did the right thing. :)
Good luck xxx
I will be thinking of you too, as Dazzle said, you are doing the right thing. :)
Thank you. Just got up so did get sleep finally. But i can't stop crying. Best to let it all out i think before I go. Your messages have meant a lot x
Swmc66, crying is good, gets rid of everything. Good Luck xxxx
I'm glad you got some sleep, Swmc. :)
Can you let us know how it went if you're able?
It went so horribly wrong. The investigator had made her judgement before she came. I was with her for over 4 hours and half hours with just a 10 min break still have not had any lunch and still at work. Cant go home for my kids to see me like this. i am crying at my desk. It was pure torture watching her dismiss a whole file of evidence and accept the 15 witnesses against me. My staff team said I should have walked out but I kept hoping she would believe me at one point. I don't know how I am going to get through this nightmare.
I'm appalled that you had to sit and endure the third degree for over four hours, only for the investigator to dismiss your evidence. It must have been an incredibly stressful experience and I'm not surprised you're tearful - anyone would be. :(Quote:
Originally Posted by swmc66
You'll get through this nightmare with the support of those around you - don't be afraid to lean on them! Also, please don't hesitate to continue to seek support from us (either on the forum or via PM). Going by everything I've learned about you, you're an incredibly strong person and have kept going where most would have given up. You'll get through this, I promise.
I hope now that it's some hours since you posted that you're feeling a little better. :heart:
Thinking of you and wishing you the best of luck in this horrible process Swm66
Thank you X
Thank youQuote:
Originally Posted by moonstorm
Thank you all for your kindness I am feeling better today but not fully recovered. Maybe on Monday i will be back in fighting mode.
Why did i leave everything to Christmas Eve! I have been so behind this year with everything. Plus decided to get the decorators in....not the best idea. They have finished and gone. Must post cards down the street now.
It's a nightmare leaving everything until Christmas Eve. I've been there myself a few times! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by swmc66
Hope you get everything done. :)
Sure most of us have been in that situation. But hopefully you can relax now and enjoy your decorations. Merry Christmas, try not to think about work but enjoy time with the family :)
My granddaughter's been born!!! She doesn't have a name yet and she weighed 6 lb 9 oz. She's a little angel! :)
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The birth went fine and mother and baby are both doing very well. :)
congrats nana dazzle
And from me. :cheer:
Great news X
Congratulations Dazzle :cheer:
Congrats Granny!! Glad everything went well xxx
Congratulations! Your new little grandaughter is gorgeous.
I can't see the pictures :(
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I get this message when I go on the link to the pictures:
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Sorry about that. :(
I'll look into another way of posting them.
I get the same message as Perdy.
Right, I'll try again!
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Can anyone who can't see them let me know?