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The Spice Girls thread didnt turn into an argument. You and others thought one thing about them somme of us thought differently. You gave you point of view but nobody criticised you. They may have disagreed. In fact I posted a lovely link on it just for youQuote:
Originally Posted by Amber
There have been a lot of threads going off topic recently (I'm definatly guilty of that) and quite a few people have been getting into heated debates (me included).
In the grand scheme of things though, there are lots of people in the world worse off than ourselves. There is so much evil and bad things happening in the world and its so nice to come on here and have a bit of light-hearted chat and banter. Can we not all agree put our differences and opinions aside and get back to how we were before the bitchiness began? I know we're all entitled to our own opinions etc and thats great, after all it would be really boring if we all thought the same, but there's a difference between a healthy debate and an argument.
I've had a thought. Maybe we can have a "Gripes" thread where we can post messages if something in another thread is annoying/upsetting us. We can post exactly what is on our mind (without mentioning members) and... I dunno, just something where we can vent and try to avoid/resolve all this bitchiness before it gets out of hand.
That is a brilliant idea JB. Atleast if any disagreements or offensiveness did occur, it would be raised all in one place and dealt with in a much more organised way...instead of disagreements etc being spread about here, there and everywhere around the board.
I think peeps on here are not posting as much for a number of reasons, such as D1 (most entertaining member 2006) have moved abroad, or peeps like Little Mo have gone to uni, or maybe because the 'big soap' storylines which peeps posted frequently on are over (the Bradley and Stacey thread use to be particularly active last year).
IMO there use to be alot more debating/arguing threads last year. I remember some getting closed down because they were deemed to be too heated! So I dont think that its due to this at people havent been posting so regularly. I think its just the way things go. Hopefully there will be an up surge again in posts.:)
Ok I am sorry, I apologise if I offended anyone.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rob
Sorry - I've just re-read what I said yesterday and it didn't really make sense. All I was trying to say was that some things are bound to make people take sides - it's understandable - but not everything that gets posted should cause a heated debate.Quote:
Originally Posted by alan45The Spice Girls thread didnt turn into an argument. You and others thought one thing about them somme of us thought differently. You gave you point of view but nobody criticised you. They may have disagreed. In fact I posted a lovely link on it just for youQuote:
Originally Posted by Amber
That doesn't really make much sense either... :rolleyes:
JB - that's a great idea. I think it would work alot better than having all of these arguments spread everywhere and that way everything gets resolved quicker and everyone stays happy (hopefully). I guess it'd be sort-of like the diary room only better :)
Also, it means that people can carry on posting relevant comments in the thread instead of getting embroiled in something else.Quote:
Originally Posted by Amber
I have another idea, maybe there could be a debate section in the general discussion forum. Thats very popular on another forum i'm on, they discuss everything from politics to that really awful 2012 logo thingy. It could work. By having it as the debate section there is evidently going to be constructive agreement and disagreement.
I dont see the need for another section on here for debating/arguing, Everyone has their own opinions and is entitled to argue their point of view. After all thats what a forum is about. Obviously some people get more emotionally involved than others and may get carried away in the heat of the matter. I feel as long as it does not descend into open warfare with name calling then this is fine. If someone makes a post which I disagree with I feel that I should be allowed to make my point and argue and dispute any counter argument with my own views.
If the Mods decide that a matter has gone to far and issue a yellow card that should be the end of the matter, whether or not you disagree with their decision. (Thats what the PM system is for, you can then discuss you views and reasons with them without getting into an argument with them in an open forum drawing others into another argument or taking sides)
All in all this board is well moderated and everyone gets a great deal of freedom of speech. Obviously we will never all agree on all issues but lets not that stop us from putting forward our views.
i used to be on, but this year everything has got a lot more hectic, and i have had to do stuff, but i haven't been posting much because i don't really watch the bill that much anymore meaning that i can't post there, and then in some threads i've felt inclined not to post in case i get lynched for my views. but hopefully i'll be around sometime soon for longer.