Okay Ian has Peter Lucy and on occassions Bobby aswell who could provide a nice family for Ben but you cant fault Phil he loves Ben and he thinks his doing the right thing by spoiling him, we know his not but Phil thinks that by buying Ben the video shop thats love and thats what his doing "loving" his child, maybe yes in reality Ian would provide a nice home/family for Ben but Phil does love Ben just a little differently to what Ian and most other people would call love.