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Have a great time, parkerman :)
Have a lovely holiday Parkerman, Don't forget the duty free.
As if....:DQuote:
Originally Posted by Chloe O'brien
Have a great time Parkerman, don't forget the suncream!!
Hope you're having a good time Parkerman. Don't forget to send us a postcard.
I didn't get the job. I wasn't expecting to, everybody else was far more qualified than me. There were 107 applicants and I got down to the final 12, so I didn't do bad. I was a bit upset that they said I didn't appear to know what I want. I've been thinking about it today and I actually think they're right, I don't know what I want. I've been all over the place this past month. I've seen another job advertised, same company different site, testing explosives. It's more related to my degree so I'm going to apply.
In other news, I handed my dissertation in yesterday. I didn't feel the sense of relief that I probably should have done because I still have a massive pile of work to get through. I worked out when I finish my degree though. I have an exams on the 3rd and 6th May then a court appearance on the 16th and that's it. Finished. My lectures finish 7th April which isn't far away.
I've decided I'm not going to my graduation. My mum really wants to go but I don't want her there. She never wanted me to go to university in the first place, she told me I would fail and I would never graduate so I find it hypocritical that she wants to come to my graduation because she's "proud of me." I want my sister to go but I just can't deal with the fallout from not inviting my mum. I'm hardly talking to her at the moment anyway. Our relationship has really deteriorated over the past year and I've now reached the point where I can't deal with her behaviour any more. I never know what mood she's going to be in when I ring or go to her house, my parents don't talk about anything except my nephew which annoys the hell out of me when I try to talk to them about what's going on in my world. It's very easy for Victim Support to say I should cut her some slack but they didn't have to cope with a manipulative, often aggressive mother who was never there growing up. I dunno. Sometimes it's easier for me to imagine she's not a part of my life. She's said so many hurtful things, I spend half my life trying to prove her wrong but it's never good enough for her. She just chooses another angle to belittle me on.
Well done, Abigail, for getting the interview, to be chosen among 11 others from 107 applicants is a great achievement, even if you did not get the job in the end. Seems only like yesterday I remember you talking on here about going off to uni and now you are talking about your dissertation and graduation, another brilliant achievement :)
Sorry about the family situation but maybe you should go to your graduation though, say good-bye to your tutors, friends and chapter in your life, you might regret it later if you don't.
Well done Abigail. sound like you have worked really hard at uni. I wish you lots of luck for your next interview.
You should not let your Mother stop you from going to your Graduation with your sister. You have worked hard. She is probably jealous of you life. If you are hardly talking to her now it cannot get much worse. If she falls out with you. she will soon forget and make friend again. I had a up, down relationship with my Mother as long as I can remember. Your Mother sound similar to mine. No mater what happened she would never apologise for anything wrong she did to my sister and I. We would fall out for months then make friends, She never had much time for me or my sister. Our brother on the other hand could never do no wrong. Yet it was me who looked after her, when she got old.
Live your life for you and not for your Mother. Have a happy life. I have with my husband and children who I adore.
Well done for doing so well at your interview, Abigail, and good luck for the next one.
I'm another one who's had a terrible relationship with my mother for most of my life. Now that I'm 40, we've finally come to understand and appreciate each other more and have a good relationship, so there's hope for you and your mother yet.
I really need to get a job. £10 a week budget isn't that much fun... and the people from downstairs have just spent their time moaning at me over the amount of people I've slept with over the past couple of months. "Dave, none of your relationships last more than a week" "Dave, you've slept with everyone" "Dave, you slept with him but did you even know his name? Have you spoken to him since?" I've slept with a handful of people since September, hardly loads... and what they say is really inaccurate and not true. I just feel like people are judging me and it's boring.
Abigail, Davey I'm sending you and everyone else who's had a crap time of it lately a great big cuddle. Abigail go to your graduation you have worked really hard to get this far and it would be a shame that you feel you can't attend because of arguments with your mum. It's your day and it's your choice who you want to take with you. I know it's hard when you don't get on with a parent. I never got on with my dad. I am the youngest of five kids but my dad said for years that he was only the real father of the oldest two. Until the day he died I was always the runt of the litter in his eyes and that's putting it mildly. Hard luck on the job interview but there are positives to take from the interview, it has given you some experience for future interviews.
Davie student funding is rubbish getting a part-time job could be good idea just don't let your studies suffer be realistic on the amount of hours you can work a week. As for your little Stuart Jones antics be careful. Your right it's your business not the neighbours but have your friends shown any concerns on the number of partners you have had lately. Mud can stick and if your the talk of the uni for all the wrong reasons. It may stop a really nice guy wanting to get to know you because he's heard horrible rumours about you.
Abigail, getting to the last 12 is a great achievement, you have learned something from the interview and now you have possibly found something more suited to you - all good.
I don't know anything abut your relationship with your mum, so I cannot comment on you not wanting her at your graduation. What you need to be sure of is that YOU don't want to go to your graduation, because if there is any doubt you should go, you really only get this one chance to graduate with your peers and get your photo taken in your gown etc.
Davie at the uni I work in we recommend a maximum of 12 hours per week part-time work during term time. To be honest a Saturday job would probably be ideal, 7 -8 hours would give you around £45 per week and still give you plenty of time for study and socialising. To me it sounds like your neighbours are being a bit homophobic - they are assuming that you sleep with everyone you have round at your flat. Everyone is allowed friends for goodness sake. I would put them straight, or Chloe is right, your reputation will be mud.
Thank you all for your, as usual, wise words of advice, I always appreciate you guys replying. I think Trinity, you've raised something that I hadn't considered. It's something I need to think about, do I not want to go to avoid upsetting people or do I not want to go full stop? I don't actually know although I've thought for a long time that I wouldn't be going.Quote:
Originally Posted by Trinity
For the past three weeks I've put Rob to the back of my mind, we've seen each other often but I'd gotten rid of any romantic ideas. Today he starts flirting with my again. I know what you're all thinking, I'm thinking it too. I couldn't stop those feelings surging again though. Don't worry, nothing happened! I have caught him staring at my booms during conversations though. I think I'm going to get one of those shirts that reads, "Talk to my face not my chest" :p He did say though that if I need somewhere to stay when my tenancy is up and I'm in-between places, I can stay with him. That's a very generous offer but obviously a recipe for something to happen again. I'm not suggesting that's what he wants but it's what will happen. Hmmm.
Today is my 6th birthday. Happy SB birthday Chloe xxxx
Happy SB bday Kath (I missed mine doh!)Quote:
Originally Posted by Chloe O'brien
Happy SB Birthday, Kath, hope you are celebrating with a slice of cake and a glass of bubbly :D :thumbsup:
I nearly missed mine's I couldn't remember if it was February or March I joined but something click in my brain so I checked and I noticed it was today.
forget the bubbly.. slice of cake and a bar of chocolate.. feck it.. I will celebrate for you! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Perdita
I guess I missed mine too (25/2) but hey, we can all act like 6 year olds together!
That was my bday too!! we should have a post Bday celebration with Ice cream and cake and balloons and lots of other stuff!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Trinity
and mine was the 25/2!!
My how long ago! its scary how much changes in six years!
Im in ui...very very bored...then going to watch the local gang show later so that should be fun.
Oh I missed my 6th birthday by a week, can I still have the bubbly, cake, choc, sweeties,etc????
Course you can, will even come to Gib to help you celebrate ;o) :DQuote:
Originally Posted by moonstorm
Well the sun's out. So it paint the kitchen, or do some gardening. I think the latter.
Anyone got any hints/tips on dealing with stress.. my levels have gone through the roof.. Found out that I am due to have another audit starting mid may and going into July. Also during this time I have to training 2 new people (2 of my team going on maternity leave) and pack my house up for moving to Germany by end of July... while still trying to do my regular job.
I know this is happening mid May but I currently have the most laziest person on my team.. doesn't ask question about how to do anything so when it come to the deadline she then said she can't do it and take sick days.. she has had about 12 since January... This leaves me covering her work.. The other guys on the team don't mind helping but they too are getting sick of having to do her work for her... She is one of the girls who is leaving so I just keep getting told "oh she is leaving soon" but that doesn't help me now.. I am still pretty new to this job (only here 6 months) and have so much work to do it is unreal. (yes I know I am on here but this is my escape. .if I didn't come on here I think I would totally crack up)..
So there you have it.. tough job, home to kids who are typical brother and sister and can't be in the same room together for more than 2 mins before they start fighting.. so any hints/tips (that doesn't involve much effort :lol: ) is very much appreciated
You could try breathing exercises. The best one I have been recommended (by a life coach) is to breathe in for a count of 7 and then out for a count of 12. You really expel all the air from your lungs and can feel yourself deflating. You are supposed to repeat this about 5 -10 times, and I find it best to be in a room alone.
I have tried transcendental meditation, but it didn't do anything for me at all, was blooming expensive too. Yoga, is okay but it isn't always easy to get to classes. Pilates - I just wobble too much, but it works for some people. A walk at lunch-time is also good - sunlight and getting away from the root cause of the stress.
Personally, one that I wish I had done a long time ago (before it was too late, which it is now for me) is to train your kids to help in the house, i.e. not to leave everything at their backside, to keep their room tidy, put their dishes in the dishwasher etc etc.
Shiv your really getting it from all ends aren't you babes. Both work and stress at home need to be sorted out sepratley. We'll start with work. If the staff you have working for you have been in the office longer than you then they should know the Audit process and should know what needs to get dbe doone unless they're are trying to be awkward. Make a list of what has to be done before May and alocate jobs to your team don't try and do everything yourself. DELEGATE!!!! Firstly start with Miss Lazy Ar$e, if she is hopeless give her the crappy office junior jobs nothng to complicated, but don't give her them all at once, give her little piles of work to do at a time. When she is finished one job praise her and say nicely can I ask to do this wee job for me now. With the capable members of your team if you can give them more responsibilites to free your time to train new staff or ask them to help with the training while you organise the Audit.
As for home (Ignore this piece of advice) Lock kids in room let them knock 10 bells out of each other. They'll stop when they get hurt. Joking :D Trin is right try and get them involved with attempting to tidy their mess. If you tell them how work is making you really tired and it would be a big help if they could help you by trying to play nice and not fight all the time. because you hate yelling at them all the time. Good lick.
Now does someone want to come a sort out my stress I'm great at giving advice but rubbish at taking it.
You have both been great... Trinity, yeah I think I left it too late with the kids too.. I am forever telling them to clean up, tidy their room.. Kath, locking them in a room might be a good thing (joking)... Like you.. I am probably better at given advise than taking it.
As for work.. Thankfully that girl is leaving before we even start the audit so one less headache to worry about. I will be getting the new guys training in on the audit so the rest of the others will be doing normal job.. Those guys are great and will do anything I ask... For now I just have to put up with that lazy ass cow.. Ok, she is pregnant and I have made allowances for her at the start until I saw a pattern develop.. she was only "sick" when I took a vacation (only 2 days this year) or just before a deadline was due.. for past 3 weeks I have only given her 1 thing to do.. just 1 thing, nothing too hard and she still hasn't finished it.. I had to extent the target date on her project.. surely, even when pregnant you can manage 1 thing???? It is not like I have involved her in any of the other work that can't have extension.. The other girl who is pregnant has been helping me there and she manages it fine... Actually, the lazy cow tried to get her to do the 1 thing I asked.. now that is bloody lazy...
I think I just need a rant, a scream and a kick in the **** to get me back motivated.. I do love my job and every day I come in with a smile on my face and a positive attitude.. by end of the day I just want to crawl under a rock.. I have told the kids that I may have a big rant and rave but it due to work and not them so if they can help anyway they can it would help.. fingers crossed for all this kicking off...
Well, I am on strike today, second strike in two weeks...
I voted against the strike, but in favour of action up to but not including strike action.
I really hate the way the media portray the strike action, this is not about pay it is about pensions. University academic and academic related staff pay into the USS pension fund, this fund is fully funded and currently in surplus. We have agreed to increasing the pension age of women to 65 and to increasing contributions to 7.5% (from 6.35%). This should be enough to ensure that the pension fund stays in surplus.
The thing I personally am unhappy about is the linking of the pension age to the government old age pension age - this means that as things stand I will not get a pension until I am 66, but the gov website tells us that they intend to increase the old age pension age to 68.
My kids generation are going to find all the good jobs blocked by folk in their late 60s who would prefer to be retired or at least work part-time. Their Career Average Pensions will therefore be even lower than the ones the government are trying to force people to accept now.
This issue affects everyone.
Don't believe the 'gold plated public pensions crap'.
Local government and education staff pay into pension schemes that are fully funded.
Police and firemen etc pay high rates (over 11% of their salary) which the government takes -AND DOESN"T INVEST. this means that every policeman's pension is paid from general taxation -even though they have paid through the nose for it. This is hardly the policeman's fault.
Civil servants pay nothing, or for newish staff very little (3%) for their pension - they should pay the same as everyone else and the media should stop lumping all 'public service' pensions under one umbrella.
/end rant!
When is Mr Parkerman back from his holidays? i have a gripe. He needs to sack his PR team. I went onto the Waterstone's website to print out the title of his book as I wanted to buy it. It says on the website that his book can be found in the History/Transport section. So off I took myself into town to buy the book. Afterwards wandering around both the history and transport sections for 20 minutes I gave up couldn't find the book. So I went to the till to ask a very nice young Geordie girl. She checked on the system to see if it was in stock. And do you know what???? Waterstone's in Scotland are not stocking Mr Parkerman's book. :eek: What is all that about. They had to order me a copy personally I will get it next week. Why your book not selling north of the border Lord Parkerman. Anyway to console myself I bought a copy of Game of Thrones while I was there.
It really angers me when people go on about me having a ''Big Pension from the Police''Quote:
Originally Posted by Trinity
Not only did I risk my life and work unsociable hours but I also had to pay 11% as Trin says.
I'm back from hols and looking like a lobster.
Only had time to look at the last post from Alan so far and I couldn't agree more. I know the police and fire fighters are in a class of their own when it comes to bravery and hours worked and should be recognised as such but it also makes me mad when I hear about "gold plated" public sector pensions in general. The average public sector pension for a woman is about £2000 PER YEAR. How gold plated is that!!!???
Now to look through all the other posts I've missed while I've been away. Anything significant happened down Walford way or up on the cobbles?
Hmmm...just caught up with this one! Not stocked in Scotland!!?? I'll have to see about this. Thank you for ordering a copy anyway. I hope you like it. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Chloe O'brien
Welcome back Norman. Usual nonsense on the soap front. Doom and Gloom on deadenders with an upcoming explosive storyline involving a roof collapse which is set to rock the square.
I haven't got it yet. The girl in Waterstone's said it would take a couple of days to order it and took my mobile number. She said she would phone me when it arrived but haven't heard anything so I'll have to go back in tomorrow to see what's happened to the pidgeon post.Quote:
Originally Posted by parkerman
Been a long time since I felt this weak, got a chest infection and flu, can't breath WELL, pulled a muscle in my back with coughing and feel just crap. Hope to be able to sleep tonight with the medication I have been given :(
Oh you poor thing. Hope you feel better very soon. :)
Oh Perdy poor you. I hope you feel better soon. I'm sending you a big cuddle. Got a phone call from Waterstone's last night my book is in stock I'm going to collect it after work.
Get well soon Perdy!! Yuu poor wee soul. xxxxx
Great book, I am sure you will enjoy it as much as I have :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Chloe O'brien