Congratulations great Aunt Shiv. Abigail give him a wide bearth before you get too hurt. If he's stringing you and another girl along he's not worth it.
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Congratulations great Aunt Shiv. Abigail give him a wide bearth before you get too hurt. If he's stringing you and another girl along he's not worth it.
I think he knew he did something wrong as he went into the spare room at about 6am. I can't stay away from him as he comes over a lot, its impossible to avoid him. I don't know if he even remembers some of the stuff he said, he was so drunk. I know I shouldn't get involved with him but it's hard, I really like him and he's actually a great guy. Its just when he's drunk that he changes. *sigh* We'll see what happens when he comes over later.
Abigail.. get out now... seriously.. He might be a great guy sober but can you really handle been heartbroken when he has a drink??? You are worth well more than what he is offering you... don't let him do this to you... Get your heart broken now by walking away, it will be best in the long run.. trust me
I swear im going to fail this essay, Ive been sat here for ages just lacking motivation I feel like ive already given up and im counting down the days til the easter hoildays.
2000 words due tomorrow by 12pm, Ive wrote 81. Ive never been like this before, I feel like im really finding it hard to get typing and its almost like im not that bothered cos im not feeling even that stressed just...........nothingness
you can do it Abbie! Keep at it and itll come...i remember having days like that at uni, my second year especially was one big countdown to when i could go home.
Abigail, I'd say that you also have to get rid of Rob because in the long run, you'll just get hurt.... HOWEVER, I am in the exact same boat, and I totally understand how hard it is to get rid of someone because people are telling you too, because it's not what you want, as much as you know you should do it. I would just ask him where you stand when you next see him, because if there's one thing I'm learning from my situation, is that we don't deserve to be kept in the dark by them, and we deserve answers so that we don't go completely cuck-oo! You need to speak to him, and... no matter what he says, being drunk is NEVER a good enough excuse. Was he very vocal about the girl he was texting? Rubbing it in?
Thats exactly what Im like at the moment, counting down the days, cant wait to go homeQuote:
Originally Posted by Katy
When he was texting her he talked about what they were talking about, he asked me what questions he could ask her and told me what she was like. She went to sleep about 3am so he talked to her on the phone for 5 mins in the other room then we got into bed about 10mins later. He didn't mention her at all after he spoke on the phone. He hasn't mentioned her since. I saw him yesterday, I was a bit upset because I'd had some bad news a few hours earlier so I wasn't really interested in talking to anyone. We were fine later though, it was as if nothing had happened. He was very complementary though, he kept saying I was wonderful for doing this and amazing for doing that, even making him a drink. It wasn't over the top but it was definitely noticeable, he's not been like that before that I remember. He didn't mention this other girl at all.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kirsty :]
I've finished the first draft of my dissertation :) Proof reading tomorrow then final copy and binding on Monday in time for my interview on Thursday.
Was his conversation with the other girl one that suggested they were in a relationship, or that he wanted to have a relationship with her? Has he indicated that he wants a relationship with you, or it all at a very early stage?
He told me he met her the week before on a night out. She's 18 and has to ask her parents first before they can go on a date... Yes, you did read that right. I asked him what he wanted to happen with her and he said nothing long term, maybe 6 months to a year at the most. Have lots of sex and see what happens.Quote:
Originally Posted by Trinity
I actually haven't figured out what he thinks of me. I don't know how to bring it up without making things awkward. I did send a drunken email to him the other night which he hasn't acknowledged so I don't know if he's read it or not. I said something like "I've been having dreams about you" which probably freaked him out!
Abigail from one mug who's been there, wrote the book, wears the t-shirt ect. Give this guy a wide-bearth. If he's texting or phoning another girl and thinking about having sex with her casual or not he's a sh1t cut your losses and blame sleeping with him on the beer goggles but don't fall for his charms again. If he tries it on with you tell him you're not going to be anyones bit on the side. Your worth more than that.
O hate to be the devil on the shoulder, actually... I won't be, I will tell you to please not make the mistake that I'm making now, because I feel nothing but hurt everytime I hear Phil talk about other girls he "would ride"... yes... that's right, purely because even though we agreed that what we're doing is fine for the both of us, deep down he knows how I feel... and I bet Rob knows deep down how you feel too, do you think he could be doing it to make you jealous??
Abigail, no. Just no.Quote:
Originally Posted by Abigail
I was prepared to give the guy the benefit of the doubt until I read this.
If you are content to be someone he sleeps with while he waits for someone else then you are seriously undervaluing yourself. I know that the term for this is **** buddies - and if you are both happy with that then I suppose that it would be okay. But you are not happy with that, you know that you are never going to be happy with that so I have to echo the comments above.
Get out of there before you get seriously hurt.
I too have T shirts from way back when before I met my husband, and I have to say this. The difference when you meet the right person is huge. You can be yourself, you feel happy without worrying about it, you can trust your partner totally, you know that they would never hurt you deliberately - there is a peace there as well as a passion.
TMA 05 results in .... 80%.
I know that it is a good score, but I am disappointed. This course has a pass mark of 40% and then there is a distinction at 85%, nothing in between. It looks like I am heading for an average of 82%, so near and yet so far...
At least it doesn't count towards my final degree. Roll on second year and Art and its Histories.
Well done, Trinity, even if you are a bit disappointed, it is still a very good achievement and you can be proud of yourself :)
Hi Abigail. I don't normally like to butt into threads like this, but can I say, speaking as a man myself, your Rob sounds like a pure unadulterated **** (sorry about the language!!!). If he truly wanted to be with you why on earth would he wnt to spend "six months to a year" having sex with another girl? When he says "Have sex and see what happens", what does he mean? Six months to a year of sex is plenty of time for the other girl to become pregnant for example. And even if she doesn't (let's assume they're careful) supposing the something that happens is that he decides he enjoys it and wants to carry on? And what about this other girl, I presume she knows nothing about you; it doesn't seem very fair to her either, to be led on like this. Or maybe she does know about you and he's told her the same story about you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Abigail
Take it from a man, Abigail, he's only after one thing with you as he is with the other girl and he's laughing all the way to the bedroom. I can understand if you have deep feelings for him that it will be difficult for you to end the relationship, but really it's not going anywhere and it will end sooner or later anyway. Better to do it on your terms and not wait till he walks out on you for his next "six months to a year" experiment.
Thanks Perdy, I know - that is exactly what I would tell someone else :)
I guess I am a bit harder on myself!
This course is all history, art, music, philosophy, classics and English lit - it is quite different to anything I have ever done before, my first degree was in Biochemistry and I have worked in accounting and finance for a large portion of my working life. When I move on to the second year in October it will be purely history of art which is my main interest, but I don't think that I can put anymore effort than I am already.
Aw Trinity it must be hard to be so close to that distinction. I put too much pressure on myself too. I find I do better in the modules I'm really interested in so hopefully you can get that distinction next year.
I have an anomaly in my results. First in individual essay and third for group assignment :lol: for the same module. Overall 2.2. How I wish we were allowed to ask for someone to review the marking, from what I've heard this guy's given out nothing but thirds. Got firsts in the rest of my modules for last term, so shocked with accounting as I scraped 2.1's in 2 class tests worth 25%. By some miracle I'm averaging a first despite the anomaly as I got over 80% in 4 modules.
Non-results wise it's not going so well. My flatmate stole my food on three occasions and said some nasty things to other flatmates, so I didn't think twice about telling the residence tutor that he was responsible for some damage. He's not impressed at having to pay the fine by himself. I certainly wasn't paying for something I saw him do. It seems to have started a war; yesterday he took to banging on my door for a laugh at 2am. (I was asleep) :nono:
3pm start today but I pay for it with the 7pm finish and 9ams tomorrow and Thursday.
Finally got everything sorted at work.. I will finish in Ireland on the 29th July (flying to Germany on the 31st) and they will let me work over there until 21st October (that is when tax law will kick in).. it took them 2 months to decide this.. It was not rocket science.. Now all I have to do is learn German and find work
oh Shiv it's finally happening how you feeling about uping sticks.
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Originally Posted by Trinity
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Originally Posted by Kirsty :]
Thank you all for your replies. Since this happened I've been thinking a lot and I've come to the same conclusions. I'm sure we'll still remain friends but anything beyond that is not possible. I do still like him but I know I would be a fool to let anything happen. He's a guy, and like he said, "guys are there to screw women over."Quote:
Originally Posted by Chloe O'brien
I have my job interview tomorrow. I'm getting a bit nervous, I'm not sure I can impress them enough but we'll see. My first ever interview.
Good luck for the interview tomorrow Abigail you'll be fine think positive, be yourself and knock them dead.
I've been looking forward to it for a few weeks but I feel so unprepared. I have to give a presentation, have two interviews and a tour around the site. I guess some nerves are to be expected and it would be abnormal to not feel nervous. I'll be fine, I can do this. I know all about my dissertation, I know about the company, I know what the job entails. I just need to focus and I'll be fine.
Good luck xoxoxo
Good luck :) xxxx
All the best Abigail, it sounds like you have done your prep - just keep calm, do your best and like Chloe says knock 'em dead.
An interview is all about selling yourself, a lot of people forget that. If they don't ask the questions you want to answer make sure that you give the additional info later when they you have the opportunity to add something. I once went on a 'springboard' course for women, they told us that if you have a man and a woman going for the same job and they have similar skills the man will (generally) sell himself at a higher level than the woman. There is nothing wrong with selling yourself - confidence is key - you can do it!
Good luck, Abigail. I hope it goes well for you.
I am really excited about it.. I have been at this place of 8 and half years and I am beginning to get a bit disillusioned about it all so it is probabaly best to move now before I start to hate it all.. Germany is a wonderful place and so much opportunities for the kids that they just won't get here in Ireland, even in Dublin...Quote:
Originally Posted by Chloe O'brien
failed my driving theory today :( by 3 marks! im gutted!
I am sorry, Katy, that must be disappointing. Need to get up and dust yourself off so you can pass with flying colours next time :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Katy
yeh i know! the fact it was by so little is whats really annoying!
Im going to book in for next week while most of its still fresh in my head!
Just doing loads of uni work now so i can have a weekend, its been a while since i had one with all the exams and that.
Love the MCFC for life. Katy I will agree hole heartedly with that. Good luck with the Exams.
Welcome to Soapboards, layla :D
welcome to Soapboards! thanks, a fellow blue thats nice to see!
Ive off to manchester for the irish festival tomorrow! mainly for old time sake, we have been every year since we were kids so it should be good. Just watched Taken, love that film. Liam Neeson is great.
Thank you Dazzle. How's the weather in Wales, the suns just popped it's head out here,
Hope you have a good time at the Irish Festival Katy, My sister in law loves the Irish festival and centre.
Well I will be watching the match with my husband later. Hopefully Silva, and Tevez will score for the blues .
The weather's dull and cloudy here in Wales, as usual. Glad you had some sun :)Quote:
Originally Posted by layla
great weekend! lovely seein some friends and family at the festival in town and also great result for City! We are going to Wembley for the Semi Finals
Today back to uni! was there till 8 working, and i have still not finished my work! but it was time to come home, i was hungry...just hope ive done enough work. Ill be so glad when its over.
Sorry to hear that Katy :( try just answering the questions and ignore the case study. From what I've seen it's the same questions with extra text added which can just mislead people. Someone from my sixth form failed his and then went on to pass the practical first time.Quote:
Originally Posted by Katy
thanks Kim!
I thiknk i know where i went wrong, there were three questions about trams and the environment and i dont think i got any of them right!
Off on a 12 day break today. To Lanzarote. See you all when I get back, suntanned and fit for Ronnie's revelations which will rock the Square......