Sorry to hear that, Shiv. You'd have found plenty of table tennis clubs in China. It's their national sport.Quote:
Originally Posted by Siobhan
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Sorry to hear that, Shiv. You'd have found plenty of table tennis clubs in China. It's their national sport.Quote:
Originally Posted by Siobhan
Awww, sorry Shiv :( But we prefer you here rather than other side of the world anyway :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Siobhan
Yeah.. it would have been fun..Quote:
Originally Posted by parkerman
if you ever get a chance to go to Germany.. go visit this club: TTC Zugbrücke Grenzau.. in a beautiful location and they were runners up 2 years in a row... I go there when I am on vacation...
A great start to the week; my new book has just arrived: http://www.thehistorypress.co.uk/pro...sh-Museum.aspx
Well done Norman
Congratulations, parkerman, well done :cheer:
Congratulations, Parkerman! How does it feel to have your name in print?? I am going to buy this for my Husband's christmas as he would love it!
That looks a really interesting book! Is it on sale in the British Museum?Quote:
Originally Posted by parkerman
Just when I thought everything was going so well...
Before the book went to the printer, the publishers told me that I had to get permission from all the people in the photographs to allow them to be printed in the book. I got hold of all the people I could and all of them - except one - agreed. I told the History Press and sent them a replacement photo . They said that was fine and had sent my replacement photo to the printers.
When I received my complimentary copies, I naturally opened the book there it was...the photo of the woman who'd said no! They hadn't changed it at all. I got straight on to my editor, who said it was all the printer's fault, which doesn't help me very much. They said I should contact the woman, apologise, and ask her what she wants to do about it. She said there were three options. 1. She can just agree for it to go ahead now it's done. 2. She can let the first edition go and they will change it for any subsequent editions or 3. She can ask for it to be re-done now, which will mean at least a four week delay while they reprint the book.
I have emailed her and am now waiting to see what she wants to do...
If she says no again, which I suspect she will, it could be another four weeks before it can be put on sale.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rggggggggggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hope you get it all sorted soon parkerman.
Im joining a band again, im looking forward to picking up the old cornet again! its getting rusty upstairs in its box!
Awww parkerman, I would not have objected to the printing lol, sure you will get it sorted sure :)
Norman, Hopefully this woman will see its not your fault and renege. Is she someone whose photo would be in the public domain anyway.
What a shame Norman, it's not your fault, I hope things get sorted soon!
GoodLuck with the band Katy.
Thanks, im really looking forward to it, ill let you know how it goes. It does feel like starting school as i wont know anybody but im sure ill settle in. Im just really looking forward to getting back into the brass band world. Its been a long time and i forgot how much i missed it when looking though my mates photos.
My cousin had a little boy today! im soo proud of her. he was 9 pounds but is still nameless. well shes not my proper cousin, shes my second cousin once removed but family all the same and were quite close because we have grown up together. Her grandad my dads cousin lives round the corner. I cant wait to meet the little fella, he looks gorgeous!
Sadly, she still won't agree, so the publishers have to print the book again without her photo. It could take another four weeks.Quote:
Originally Posted by alan45
Her photo would not normally be in the public domain, no. She was my secretary for a couple of years at the BM, that's why I wanted to have her photo in the book. Quite frankly I have no idea why she is so anti-having her photo published. It's a nice photo of her I think.
Well, us ladies very rarely like photos of ourselves. Don't understand the publishers though, I thought they would need to obtain permission from all people who are going to feature in a book before it goes to print?
As long as reasonable efforts have been made to contact the person and there is a disclaimer in the book to such an effect, they can go ahead and print it.
Norman, would this woman have noticed that her photo was in the book had you not told her?
Getting permission is something I've never done before. I've had a number of books published with photos of living people in them and no-one has ever suggested before I should get their permission and no-one has ever objected or complained before.
I'm fairly sure she would have seen her photo. Actually I would have told her about the book myself and invited her to my book launch. But even if she didn't come I expect someone would have mentioned it to her.
Marley came home with a letter from school yesterday about the possibility of going to Paris with the school in June. There is only 40 places available and if she is selelcted I have to pay £200 before Christmas. Anyone want to buy a kidney.
£200 is tough for any family to find in seven weeks at this time of year, let alone single parents! The school is being unreasonable to expect parents to fork out that much.
Does she want to go?
Is there any easy option payments? I know our school asks for 150 at the start of each year but you can pay 50 quid a week.Quote:
Originally Posted by Chloe O'brien
Or perhaps if you explain your financial situation to the school (not that I know anything about it, but I guess being a single parent, running a home, childcare and working isn't easy) you might be able to come to some sort of arrangement to pay a proportion after Christmas.Quote:
Originally Posted by Siobhan
My parents are coming down on Sunday for the day. I'm not really looking forward to it; I've been struggling recently with the decisions my mum made and the sort of parent she was when I was growing up. We've never been close and I wouldn't say we have an ideal relationship.
I've been thinking of the right time to post this, and I guess there never will be a right time. I consider all you regular posters as good friends that I've come to know over the past three years or so. In February this year, my uncle (mum's brother) was arrested. Without going into great detail - that would take too long - he has been charged with 17 counts of rape, 13 indecent assault and 3 incest. All against three of his sisters, my mum included. A fourth sister has refused to give a statement about him raping her and the fifth has denied anything ever happened to her, which several people know to be false. The fifth sister was arrested and charged in May for sexually assaulting my oldest sister and two cousins (not her children). The trial is in November, trial for my uncle is early 2011.
I do understand why my mum had a breakdown, why she swings from depressed to hyper several times a day and why she's always been touchy on the subject of sex. What I don't understand is why she put me and my elder sister (not the one above) in situations where we were potentially exposed to abuse when she knew what he was capable of. I realise she finds it impossible to talk about and that's why she kept it a secret for 30+ years but her erratic behaviour throughout my childhood has had a negative effect on me and my sisters, she was always emotionally distant, always starting an argument for no reason. I just wish she told somebody when it happened and she got some help back then. I definitely don't blame her; I honestly don't think she was in a position where she could tell anyone, partly because of the taboo of sex outside marriage in the early 70s, partly because he's always been my nanna's golden boy who could do no wrong.
I guess the biggest thing I've learnt through all of this is that secrets destroy lives and one day, no matter how long it takes, the truth will come out and it will have an even greater effect than it did at the time. You can never fully understand how serious crime affects people until you're in that position. Its always devastating to lose a child, parent or sibling to murder and from the outside, you think you can feel that person's pain but you can't truly appreciate what it does to a person until you're in that position.
With the first trial being a matter of weeks away, I'm starting to think about it all again. I've had to tell a few of my lecturers, both ex-police officers, and they were really understanding. I had to change my dissertation subject because all the case studies involved an element of sexual assault which I found difficult to deal with. Rape is always a hard subject to read about, I never had any real issues with it, but when one can truly relate to it, it seems so much more real.
Hmm, that wasn't supposed to turn into a long ramble. I'm sorry if I've upset anybody or poked a sore spot.
No unfortunately there is no easy option. The cost of the trip in June is £495 for a week. At the moment there is 250 pupils in S1 (1st year of high school) but only 40 will be allowed to go. Everyone that is interested in going has to take a £95 deposit to school by Wednesday. If they get more than 40 requests the names will go into a hat and the first 40 pupils picked willl get to go. If she is one of the 40 I will have to pay an additional £100 by 13 December then the remaining £300 in monthly enstalments in Jan, Feb and March. I knew they would be given the chance to go to Paris and it would cost around £500 but I didn't think for a minute that they would want £200 7 weeks before Christmas. :angry:Quote:
Originally Posted by Siobhan
Abigail I know what your going through and it's no wonder your emotions are all over the place. It's once of the hardest things to face in life finding out that loved ones have suffered abuse. The verman infected my family 21 years ago and although the beasty b*****d is now six feet under he was never taken to court or charge with any offences, because his victims innocent children were too traumatised to tell anyone as he threatened to murder family members and make the kids watch while he did this. How's a 9 year old and a 6 year old supposed to cope with that.
It all began in 1989 my sister was pregnant with her third child and I had arranged to take her eldest two away to Butlins for a holiday to give her a rest. My sister didn't keep well during her pregnancy because she suspected her husband was having an affair with her so-callled best mate, which they denied but hey guess what my sister was right. At this time my sister's husband used to take the kids to his father's house and they were all alcholics and druggies. this is when the abuse began. sometimes my nephew and neice would be late home and my sister would be frantic. They would say they were in the liabary but they weren't. In September of 89 I took my nephew and niece away on holiday, while we were there a lot of money was going missing from my bag. I asked the kids if they had taken it but both denied touching it. When we got home I spoke to my sister about it and asked her to keep an eye on them and her money. My nephew's behaviour became very violent,but my niece became very withdrawn and used to wet herself a lot. In the October my sister was at the doctors for a check up and to get my youngest neice checked over. She was only 3 months at the time. My sister broke down at the doctors he then examined her two oldest kids and she was told he believed that her kids were being sexually abused. My sister had 5 nervous breakdowns over 4 years,
From that moment it was like someone sticking a knife in your heart. My nephew and neice were taken into care. After a few days my sister got my six year old neice back but my nine year old nephew was put into a secure unit until he went to foster parents. My sister never got him back. He remained in care until he was 16 and all three kids were placed on the at risk register until they all reached the age of 16. My wonderful nephew and niece are now 30 and 27 and too this day they have never said who the beasty *******er was but it is believed by the police and doctors that it was there Grandfather.
Abigail I would love to say you will get over this but we have been friends on here for a long time and you know I'd be lying. You don't get over it. It's like death you just get used to living with the pain Having this vermen infect my family has made me more terrirtoral to my family and to kids in care. In my job we have to deal with a lot of students who maybe in care and a lot of people think that if a kid is in care then they've got a screw loose that is not the case. You and your family can survive this with love and support for each other. There will be tears, lots of tears. I know I still shead tears to this day but now it's tears of pride and joy at how wonderful my nephew and neice have coped with life.
Abigail, Kath is right, it is something that you don't really get over, it is always there but with love and support it becomes easier to handle... Your mum probably doesn't know how to love properly and a reason she was distant with you. You can only learn from this, to be a better parent if and when you have kids and protect them at all times. Most kids won't speak out about it cause the abuser gets into their head, makes them believe that they deserve this or that if they say something, they will be in more trouble...
This goes for all abuse, physically, mentally or sexual.. and the hard part is that the people who know about the abusers refused to believe it cause they are related to them and just can't see them been that but it is everywhere..
I only hope now that you know about this abuse in your family that you can support your mum and help her through this. Kath, so sorry to hear about your niece and nephew and hope they can get through this.. The positive side for me in all this is that I tell my children that nothing bad will happen to them or anyone else if this happens to them. I tell them not to keep secrets and that they can come to me if they need help. No child/person should feel scared or bullied by these monsters (yeah that is the only word I can use to describe them).
Haven't been around in a while. How are we all? I broken down on Tuesday, finally had enough of everything, the amount of college work is becoming far to much to handle, I can never seem to get any "Me" time in this house without having to do something. Apart from that I'm good, got Lauren coming up today, going to see Marina and the Diamonds on Monday and Paloma Faith on Tuesday :D! Been with Aarron for four months now, how he can handle me I'll never ever know cause I'm a right pain in the bum!
Tannie i'm sending you a big hug from across the bridge. Have you spoke to anyone at college about helpng you cope with the course work. There should be someone from student support who ould maybe help you manage your study time , don't let it get on top of you. Glad that things are going well with Aaron and stop being so hard on yourself. Your a lovely girl and Aaron can see that.
happy halloween!
Im off to alton towers today, minus my voice. bit of a session last night in the local! was a great night though, much worth my sore head, dread to htink what it did to my bank balance!
eek, i got my advocacy assessment in 30 mins! im bricking it! hope it goes well, ive already failed my first two assessments, hopefully third time lucky!
Good luck Katy!! I'm sure you'll do fine!! x
I might be going to Salisbury next week - my boyfriend works there.
I'm going be so bored in the days :p He works from 7-4! Ha
Anyone know if there's anything interesting in Salisbury?
Got some great news today.. my mum has had a bleeding eye for the past 10 months and all her scans came back negative today for cancer.. so a big worry of our minds...
That is great news and must be such a relief to you all.
Aw Siobhan that is great news! :)
Aw man, I haven't been on here for a while, but everyone seems to be having a rough time of it lately, so I'm sending everyone big big hugs, keep smiling :)
I finally decided to leave College and I am now working full time at Spoons until next year when I can go back to College and finally do the childcare course I really want to do so that I can finally focus on a career of teaching, I would love to specialise in Autism or something, since we suspect my 2 year old cousin has some form of Autism. It's amazing the potential he has, yet, it's not recognised, and thats how I feel lately, kids aren't getting the help and recognition they deserve. I'd love to change that in the future. but that's the future.
It wasn't that I hated College, I just really hated my course and the way I was treated by my tutors.... or tutor, should I say.
So all I do at the moment is work, but I love it.
I worked Saturday 6-2, got in at 6 in the morning and back in work Sunday for a 12-6, then one of the girls phoned in that she couldn't make her 6-1 shift that night, so I stayed on... not realising I had a 9-6 the next day, coming home to bed last night was amazing lol, so yeah, I'm extremelyyy shattered, but it's totally worth it :)
Fantastic news, must be such a relief for you :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Siobhan
I always knew you'd one day you'd be a Spoons employee!! :lol:.
Well done on the decision you made Kirsty. Sounds like you finally know what you want to do, and you have a great attitude towards it! Hope it all works out for you :p
Well I used to spend most of the time there anyways... haha, I honestly haven't been happier in ages. I'm not 100% happy, there will always be some sort of problem with me... usually guy related haha, but at the moment, I don't actually care as much as I would, i'm thinking of me for once :)
Of course, it also gives me the opportunity to save money for a holiday or even justa weekend away next summer somewhere... cos I am sooo craving a Mr.Wongs!!
I am glad you are happier :D You seem a little more happier (on FB). You always sounded quite unhappy before. But you seem to be cheering up :D Leanne is very glad :p
Ooooo do come visit Mr Wongs! There will be a Leanne standing outside to see you too ;) :p