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Generally, I think yes, but a few treats are fine. It's better to have a child that gets a few treats every now and again than one that misbehaves and doesn't get anything.
I don't see anything wrong with having a lot of expensive things either, as long as the child saves up for them or they were bought as birthday and/or christmas presents.
I only got (and still do!) big presents like a camera for birthday and christmas. The rest of the time, if it's something I really want, for example a pair of hairstraightners that's not essential to me, I have to save up for it.
I think that kids who are given big things all the time don't value and look after their stuff as much.
Hmm I don't think children are spoilt. They do get more than what they used to, but I think it's needed. Everyone I know, has only ever gotten big presents for birthdays, Christmas. Like everyone else, they have to save up if they want/wanted something non-essential. Is it wrong to buy things for your child when it isn't a special occasion? I don't think so. It's up to the parent. As for mobile phones, it's come to a point, where these days children NEED them. As sad as it it. I would much rather a child of mine to be considered spoilt for having a mobile phone, and me to feel safe when they go out to play or something, rather than something horrible to happen to them.
Other technical things such as laptops - in a way it may be considered spoilt. But like someone said earlier, things have moved on, many children now learn in school on laptops, if you don't top them up with too many games then I think they are useful for children, and it's good to get them learning how to use one early on in life, as these days EVERYTHING is done via a computer.
iPods and what not.. why not? Children like music. It makes them happy, shouldn't children be happy?
I do think there is a limit to when you should have them throughout the year, as the child may think they could get anything anytime. But overall, no I don't think kids are spoilt.
Personally.
I'm not sure, some are but i don't think thats all the kids.
For instance, my baby cousin he is 5 months this month, he has been bought so much in the 5 months he has been born (mainly clothes) but i don't think that makes him spoilt, i think alot of new borns have alot of stuff (though do feel free to correct me if i am wrong, i don't know many babies :lol:) but no i don't think it is all children just some and they are more to do with how parents bring them up
Yeah I think newbons do get quite quite a lot, but I don't see the problem with that as they're not going to get used to being spoiled at that age as long as it doesn't go on for too long.
Depends how you define spoilt, and if its the child wanting/pestering for things and getting them, or adults lavishing material things on the child.
I personally think that children are no more spoilt now that say twenty years ago....I think compared to the 40s/50s when things werent so ready available children werent therefore as spoilt - but that could be down to the country rebuilding itself after the devastation of WW2, meaning there wasnt the material things readily available...
Anyway is it soooo wrong to lavish things on a child? :hmm: As long as it isnt as a replacement for the adult/parent spending time with the child, or to bribe the children into behaving (I hate that, what kind of society are we creating, and message are we sending out to children? Misbehave and you will get a reward....:mad: )
Anyway, I think its down to the parent to decide....no one else.
I'll shut up, hope the above makes some sense, this is what happens when you only have had 3 hours sleep and a stressful day - full of spoilt brats!!! :lol:
Compared to what I got when I was 9 years old then I would say Marley is spoilt rotten though if what she gets compared to what some of the other kids at school get Marley would be on the phone to childline given half the chance, but as it has already been said society and technology has changed over the last 30 years.
Marley doen't get spoilt she get's a small gift once a month if she behaves. As for big presents she only gets them at birthday's and Christmas. Her birthday is in September and once her birthday has passed she get's no more until Christmas. That is just my opinion because I'm on my own I can't afford to lavish her with gifts every other week and if you start to give a child gifts when its not a special occasion then they expect more the older they get.
Marley has a phone and a DS lite they were presents for her birthday and christmas last year she also has an Ipod and the only reason she got that last year was the Working Tax Credit had made a balls up of my payments and I got a pretty big sum back dated last August so I treated my self and her to a new Ipod otherwise she wouldn't have got it.
People class me as spoilt....
I don't think I am... My dad doesn't give me anything... we're on benifits.... I claim EMA...
I've got a contract mobile, laptop, internet, sky in my room... I go to the theatre a lot...
But compared to some of my friends that's nothing...
To me a spoilt child is someone who doesn't lift a finger has parents who do everything for them... and get everything that want when they want.
I think there's two types of spoilt children. The first is the one that knows he/she can twist their parents' arm and emotionally blackmail them into buying them something.
The second is the child who's parents work full time and they never get to see them so they make up for it by buying gifts every week.
In some respects children are spoilt. One of my friends dads told him he would get £50 for each pass in GCSE and £75 for each A*/A :eek: Maybe an incentive but when you're doing 13 GCSEs that a heck of a lot of money for doing the same amount of work as anybody else.
I don't think its wrong for parents to buy their children things now and again. I do think parents who buy their children the latest phone or games console or iPod as soon as it comes out are silly. Whats the point in spending hundreds of pound on the latest model when the previous one works just as good?
It depends on how you define spoilt....
A parent that works their backside off in order to buy the things they want their child to have, whether that be a 50p car each time they go to Tescos shopping, or that occasional Wii game throughout the year, not to make up for the work they are doing, but to spend some of the hard earned cash on the people that mean the most to them in their lives, or... the parent that allows their child to make demands on them for different things, no matter what the cost, and make the parent feel that they HAVE to buy that child those items to prevent them from tantruming on them (which to me, is the parents own fault in the first place - tantrums get you no where my children have all learned.)
My children have had far more for them than I did when I was younger, but they aren't spoilt. They don't get what they want, when they want it and know that if its a choice between the 50p car at Tescos or the £6 car at Tescos, they are going to get the cheaper one (a car is a car to me). My boys all know the value of money - we don't give them pocket money each week to save, but they tidy their rooms each week and the eldest does the dishes each night - if he refuses (which I promise is a very rare occurence), then he knows he gets nothing.
As a footnote, JB, my mum has promised my eldest son that for each A/A* he gets in his GCSE's, she is going to give him £50, with each B earning him £25. Incentive, maybe, but I don't think spoilt, especially when he is on the gifted register, yet is stuck in a school where there is under a 50% A-C pass rate and thats considered good and improving each year :eek: My son is more than capable of gaining A grades, IF he wants to. At the end of the day, only he can make that choice and put the work in that he needs to to attain those grades - spoilt though, I personally wouldn't say so. I think it depends on the reasons why.
Times have changed, moved on. Like I say, it depends on how spoilt is defined in essence.