poop on the toilet help please

Has something happened when you were toilet training him chance. the reason I'm asking. I had a terrible time with Marley when she was 3. Marley started going to a childminder when she was 4 months old. there were around 10 kids between the two childminders under the age of 3 and Marley settled in fine. She was off nappies at 15 months old. When she was three the childminder was on holiday for a week, I was at college and had arrange for the nursery that the college used to look after Marley for the week. On the monday I dropped her off at 9am. when I went to collect her in the afternoon she was sitting on a bean bag alone playing with a doll. The nursery assistant told me she didn't eat lunch as it was lentil soup so all she had was a roll and some fruit.

On the Tuesday I took her back to the nursery but it was different staff. Marley got upset but I promised her I would be back before dinner time. I went to collect her at half-past eleven and she was sitting in a toilet. The reason being she had need to go but her button on her trousers was stiff and one of the nursery staff tried to undo the button, well the poor lamb just freaked, and she refuse to come out until I came for her. I put in a letter of complaint and didn't go to college the rest of the week.

When I took Marley back to her usual childminder she was so clingy to me and her, which was so unusal and she would play with the other children she had known for three years. She would just sit alone crying and she also began wetting herself instead of asking for the toilet, which is something that Marley never did when she was first potty trained. It took almost 3 months for Marley to go back to using the toilet again.

The reason I'm asking Chance is that maybe he has had a fright, perhaps someone has walked in to the bathroom when he is using the toilet and frightened him without realising.

Has he got a friend that poo's on the toilet? normally toddlers never want to be the baby of the group

when were potty training my class of two - 3 year olds, at the nursery i work in we often find most of the parents have the same problem as this. my manger always tels them itll come in time but to help it she also tells the parents 2 let them run around home wiv no big boy/girl pants or nappy on so when they need 2 go they have nothin to catch it (sorry reads badly but im sure you get what i mean) but it does work even though u may find little surprises around your house. we found that for the first two weeks during nursery time wed work out the time they would usually go and then keep asking them for the toilet or we would watch them and gradually introduce them to doing it on the potty or toilet. i have one little boy in my class now who used to do it in the garden and try and bury it like a dog he now he takes him self to the bathroom nd does it on the pot. unless you have white carpets it has had some sucess.

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Originally Posted by xxloopylauraxx

when were potty training my class of two - 3 year olds, at the nursery i work in we often find most of the parents have the same problem as this. my manger always tels them itll come in time but to help it she also tells the parents 2 let them run around home wiv no big boy/girl pants or nappy on so when they need 2 go they have nothin to catch it (sorry reads badly but im sure you get what i mean) but it does work even though u may find little surprises around your house. we found that for the first two weeks during nursery time wed work out the time they would usually go and then keep asking them for the toilet or we would watch them and gradually introduce them to doing it on the potty or toilet. i have one little boy in my class now who used to do it in the garden and try and bury it like a dog he now he takes him self to the bathroom nd does it on the pot. unless you have white carpets it has had some sucess.

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Oh god that reminds me of a really funny story when my niece who's now 24 was being toilet trained, she would use the toilet in the house to do a wee no problem but she would not poo in it, she used to hide behind a curtain or the sofa and you would here her squeezing. Her big brother who was 5 at the time used to go and find them and yell Cherie's done a POO! We used to call him the poo hunter :D

On a serious note up in scotland if a child is three years and older they go to council run nurseries, which are free, and the rule is that every child must be fully toilet trained. If they still require a nappy or have any incontience issues they are not granted a place and they have to go to private run nurseries.

gosh scotland really are harsh. surely thats not to fair on thoses who are unable to afford private nursery educations.
back to the main problem though. the worse thing to do is not make a big deal with it by keeping him on the toilet because hel see it like a game all children see it as fun, but dont give up by putting pull ups on itll make it harder. i know it cruel because he gets a tummy ache but he will go when and if he really needs to. i hope this or any of the other sugguestions help for you and your son.

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Originally Posted by xxloopylauraxx

gosh scotland really are harsh. surely thats not to fair on those who are unable to afford private nursery educations.

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By the age of three every child should be toilet trained except in those cases where the child is disabled or has an illness so I don't think it's that harsh.

When my niece was in the 2-3 years stage at nursery the nursery insisted on putting her a nappy on after she went to the toilet even though she went in knickers in the morning and had spare trousers and knickers with her. Apparently, it's standard procedure because the staff don't have time to be changing clothes and cleaning kids up after an accident. Just laziness if you ask me and undermined all the work that was being done at home. She's moving up to the 3-4 section tomorrow and they don't allow children to wear nappies there unless in special circumstances.

Why don't you try a reward chart and he gets a reward at the end of the week if he has a poo on the toilet instead of his nappy?

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Originally Posted by jelly belly

By the age of three every child should be toilet trained except in those cases where the child is disabled or has an illness so I don't think it's that harsh.

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Why????

My number 2 son wasn't toilet trained at 3 when he started nursery and forcing a child before they are ready to be toilet trained isn't good for them or for the parents either!

He wasn't ready until he was 3 1/2 which might not seem a long time, but was the difference between being trained from the April when he started attending preschool, to being toilet trained by the September when he started going for 3 sessions instead of 2.

Down here, as far as I know, no child is forced to go to preschool toilet trained, and its not the policies for children to not be allowed to attend if they are still wearing pull ups or nappies.