can you ever be just good friends with an ex?

yeah.... i think you can!! providing the relationship doesn't come up because it just goes stony cold then

I'm not sure about this. i'm not mates with any of my ex's. two of them are total idiots and the others i havnt seen in ages. I think if you have feelings for the person still then its harder to just be friends beacuse its alwasy at the back of your mind that you like them. it also depends on how you broke up i think. if it was a messy break up and caused argueing then its bound to be the same as your both still the same people (your selves) and it could happen again which isnt great from friends as well as people in a relationship. (if that makes sense)

i think there will always be something between you if you've previoiusly had a relationship, because at one time you would have felt strong feelings for each other and as you get to know each other again as friends the things you fell in love with in the person are still going to be in their character and they could form again. I'm completely sure on this as its never happend to me. lol, so these are only my guesses.

If you said you had a boyfriend beware he could become jelous!

I'm really good friends with one of my ex's (theres only been 2) we go out for a drink every now and again and talk on the phone lots. It was difficult at first but I hated that you could be so close to someone and then it could just be over in an instant.

My boyf doesnt mind, well he didnt have a choice as I've said from day one that I was friend with my ex and he had to take it or leave it.

He's also good friends with his ex and now she's a friend of mine as well.

I think it depends...as long as you both think of it in the same way it shouldn't be a problem. if one of you is still attracted to the other then it's more likely to be a problem! i think the fact that you've been intimate and know each other that well may help you as friends as you already have that foundation.

Scrapp what I said about the boyf not minding, apparently he does. But apparently its different with his ex. The old one rule for one, another for another rule? dam men!!!

Lol Jade - Dam men! talk about double standards! I take it it won't stop you being mates with your ex?

Nope, at the end of the day, he knew what he was getting into 6/7 years ago he cant change the tune now. Well he can, but if he starts getting all posessive, i'm off and he knows that.

Good for you.. you'd think after 7 years he'd have got used to you being mates with your ex!

Yep you'd have thought so. Think he was just looking for a fight, and thats the only thing he can find. Its strange casue its the first time he's made an issue of it.

what a weird species men are!