Your sexuality?

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Originally Posted by di marco

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Originally Posted by Kirsty :]

...I can't even tell my family I'm seeing a guy!... I just don't do relationship talk with them, but it's getting me into really bad bother lately.

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lol im the same! i dont lie to my parents about it i just dont tell them, my sis does the same. i dunno why its just always been like that

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Well when we go out for the evening, or after work and we jsut sit in my car for hours, they ask where I was... so instead of telling them "oh yeah I've been sat in my car with my boss for God knows how long getting up to no good".. I just tell them I've been with my friends at Spoons or the Bowlplex.. but my Nan is cottoning on to the fact that something doesn't seem quite right.. btu I now feel like I'm in too deep to tell the truth ...:searchme:

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Originally Posted by Kirsty :]

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Originally Posted by di marco

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Originally Posted by Kirsty :]

...I can't even tell my family I'm seeing a guy!... I just don't do relationship talk with them, but it's getting me into really bad bother lately.

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lol im the same! i dont lie to my parents about it i just dont tell them, my sis does the same. i dunno why its just always been like that

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Well when we go out for the evening, or after work and we jsut sit in my car for hours, they ask where I was... so instead of telling them "oh yeah I've been sat in my car with my boss for God knows how long getting up to no good".. I just tell them I've been with my friends at Spoons or the Bowlplex.. but my Nan is cottoning on to the fact that something doesn't seem quite right.. btu I now feel like I'm in too deep to tell the truth ...:searchme:

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hmmm if you dont wanna carry on lying to them just tell them the truth (although tbh id probably just carry on lying!) or wait til it gets serious before you tell them. just say you didnt wanna tell them to start with cos you didnt know what was gonna happen with it so wanted to make sure first?

Hmm, I could, but thing is.. I don't quite know where it's going myself. I don't think it will get serious, he has this thing about commitment, not sure why... but I think it's quite deep. Anyways, I don't know.. I think it's just a phase... but it's been a 3 month phase already! So I'm all confused.. and I don't need my family on my back about it all too lol

Sorry its late but good luck bryan!

well i have the letter written now, and im going to post it once i get back to uni the end of next week. i do feel bad not telling them face to face, but there is no way i have the strength or courage to and its impossible to find the words when your telling them and theyre breaking down in tears or going mad. plus dont really fancy the aftermath with my dad treating me like a lepper.

I think its really brave letter or face to face writing it must have took courage and strength. Hope it goes well for you.

Relationship talk with parents is always difficult, especially for me, i just don't like talking about things like that. my sister can, but i can;t. Its just the way i am i think.

There's nothing to be ashamed of by writing a letter bry, your not doing anything wrong.

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Originally Posted by Bryan

well i have the letter written now, and im going to post it once i get back to uni the end of next week. i do feel bad not telling them face to face, but there is no way i have the strength or courage to and its impossible to find the words when your telling them and theyre breaking down in tears or going mad. plus dont really fancy the aftermath with my dad treating me like a lepper.

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Bry, you have to do what feels right for you.. if you can't handle telling them face to face then you are doing the right thing with sending the letter. This will give them both time to listen to what you have to say, without interuption and they can then think about how you are feeling. Best of luck Bry and try not to worry about it when letter is sent, you are doing the right thing and what is best for you. So glad you are not been someone you are not just to please others.. xxxxx

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Originally Posted by Bryan

well i have the letter written now, and im going to post it once i get back to uni the end of next week. i do feel bad not telling them face to face, but there is no way i have the strength or courage to and its impossible to find the words when your telling them and theyre breaking down in tears or going mad. plus dont really fancy the aftermath with my dad treating me like a lepper.

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I would do exactly the same in your situation Bryan. I always find that when I'm put under pressure, it doesn't matter how many times I've rehearsed something; it never turns out the way it was meant to. At least with the letter you could write it as many times as you wanted until it was exactly as you wanted it. Good luck :)

I am a lesbian and 'came out' to my friends and family just after my 16th birthday after my parents inital shock they are gradually coming to terms with it all.