How Was Your Day? VII

Just thinking back to the topic of depression which seems so common and on the increase. I remember when I was so down I rang my friend/ hairdresser and her husband picked the phone up. I struggled to speak to ask if his wife was available. She spoke to me and I just wanted her to keep me in her prayers. After 15 mins she turned up to my house for the first time with her husband .i was shocked. She said her husband was concerned about me after hearing my voice. He spoke to me and said I needed to get out and do things. i said I did'nt want to do things or go out. He said he would do a barbeque for me the next day and that all my family should come including my mother and sister.
Anyway in the morning I woke up and it was snowing heavily. I rang him as the barbeque was obviously not going to happen. To my surprise he said he was out there in the snow and that i should get myself ready quickly. It was an amazing barbeque and a turning point for me as I was so touched by it all. He did this for me as I helped him out once when he got stuck with a legal case a while back and could not afford a lawyer. Although I am not a lawyer I did his case and won it for him. So the message is show kindness to each other it really helps especially when you are down

Just thinking back to the topic of depression which seems so common and on the increase. I remember when I was so down I rang my friend/ hairdresser and her husband picked the phone up. I struggled to speak to ask if his wife was available. She spoke to me and I just wanted her to keep me in her prayers. After 15 mins she turned up to my house for the first time with her husband .i was shocked. She said her husband was concerned about me after hearing my voice. He spoke to me and said I needed to get out and do things. i said I did'nt want to do things or go out. He said he would do a barbeque for me the next day and that all my family should come including my mother and sister.
Anyway in the morning I woke up and it was snowing heavily. I rang him as the barbeque was obviously not going to happen. To my surprise he said he was out there in the snow and that i should get myself ready quickly. It was an amazing barbeque and a turning point for me as I was so touched by it all. He did this for me as I helped him out once when he got stuck with a legal case a while back and could not afford a lawyer. Although I am not a lawyer I did his case and won it for him. So the message is show kindness to each other it really helps especially when you are down

What a heartwarming story! :)

I'm impressed that you won the legal case. :thumbsup:

Thanks for sharing your lovely story swm66 xx

Thank you its the one I remember clearly from when I was ill. Still makes me feel emotional x

Very heartwarming. I love acts of kindness and fell sad it doesn't happen often but are beautiful when they do. I hate the work culture of saying when people are depressed they are just been negative and need to be avoided. This is when they need help most.

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Originally Posted by Siobhan

Very heartwarming. I love acts of kindness and fell sad it doesn't happen often but are beautiful when they do. I hate the work culture of saying when people are depressed they are just been negative and need to be avoided. This is when they need help most.

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Its especially difficult at work - now a lot of
large employers "monitor" sick absence after
only a few days. Things will be done under the
letter of the law but it increases presssure
and thats when person needs friends.
It costs less than redundancy for an emplyer
wanting to cut costs.

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Originally Posted by Siobhan

Very heartwarming. I love acts of kindness and fell sad it doesn't happen often but are beautiful when they do. I hate the work culture of saying when people are depressed they are just been negative and need to be avoided. This is when they need help most.

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Its especially difficult at work - now a lot of
large employers "monitor" sick absence after
only a few days. Things will be done under the
letter of the law but it increases presssure
and thats when person needs friends.
It costs less than redundancy for an emplyer
wanting to cut costs.

Good employers will be supportive. As long as they understand mental health. I have appointed people in senior positions that have had a mental illness knowing their History. The sickness rules are there really for the ones that play the system. Genuine illness has to be supported if not you could be dragged through the courts.

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Originally Posted by swmc66

Good employers will be supportive. As long as they understand mental health. I have appointed people in senior positions that have had a mental illness knowing their History. The sickness rules are there really for the ones that play the system. Genuine illness has to be supported if not you could be dragged through the courts.

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I wish all employers were as understanding as you. The sad fact is that most won't even look at someone with a history of mental health problems. :(