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Aww, Kirsty, perhaps the heat is getting to people and they are less sensitive to other people's feelings (your's in this case) but I am sure they don't mean it in a bad way. I appreciate your feelings though, must be frustrating to get treated like that by a guy but that is the difference between male and females. Has always been and will always be like that, I guess. Hope you are feeling better when you get up today :)
finished cleaning out my house yesterday. i was so hot by the end of it but at least everywhere was really clean and sparkling so we better get all our deposit back!
today im gonna go and help at the playschool, the little kids there are so sweet, although im not looking forward to spending hours out in the garden in this heat!
My bank account just got hit by a bill from my garage, a service and a minor repair cost me £360 :crying: Got to take the car back on Monday as the water pump is leaking but that will be done under warranty, phew.
I've been offline for a week due to Virgin being silly billies. Its been a very long and boring week with no internet and only terrestrial tv channels.
I finished watching season two of 24 then got up this morning to find the bulldog puppy has chewed a corner off the box and broken the plastic inside :rolleyes: I told her off and she gave me a stroppy look.
I'm full of cold so I've been asleep all day. Time to decimate my bank balance on amazon :D
I can get soapboards on my phone but I can't reply to threads .
Hope you, Virgin and bulldog puppy are feeling better soon and behaving like they should :D
I am getting better now, from this horrid flu bug, it is in my chest now though and I am struggling a bit, but I will be back at work tomorrow.
I hope your ok today Kirsty - people can be extremely harsh sometimes. To me, society seems to have a set of expectations, such as going to uni, having 2.4 children etc and if you don't conform to them, you'll get some weird looks and be judged, which is completely and utterly wrong. It really isn't very nice and you have my sympathies.
I hope your feeling better today. :)
I'm glad your getting better now Trinity.
It's absolutely boiling today! I am off to a gathering with some friends later. We are all going to be playing Guitar Hero over my friend's house on the PS3 - bring it on :D :D I've been practicing these past few days. I get a bit too carried away though and start jumping up and down on my sofa with the guitar when nobody is around. I feel like a rockstar :cool:
That made me laugh, you jumping up and down on the sofa playing guitar hero :lol: Enjoy
Thing is, he's always like it and then says "he's joking" but you know full well there's some degree of truth in it. I know it's not true anyways because I work hard in that place.
I don't feel much better today, I have work later and I'm just not in the mood.
I'm sort of mad at myself, I'm 18 now and I jsut feel like maybe I should grow up and be more mature.
Just feel like I'm looking for everything in the wrong place.
It is really hard being 18.
If you go to uni then you get to put off making any really hard decisions for 3 -4 years. If you don't go to uni then for some reason people expect you to have a plan.
Noone changes between the last week of school and the next week.
Kirsty, it is normal to feel lost. You have left school, you are officially no longer a child. You have grown up and discovered what noone tells you.
Adults are really no different to children.
You do not automatically know what to do, there is no 'right path' to take
From my life experience noone knows what they will eventually end up doing at 18.
Perhaps it is not so much a case of looking for things in the wrong places but rather looking for the wrong things?
That kind of sounds strange, but many people are so caught up with looking for something that they don't always see what is there.
I think that you need to give yourself a break, think about what you want think about the many paths that can take you there. Remember that in life there is only one final destination - and that what it is really about is enjoying the journey.
And as for the guy at work - you know he is a jerk.
I wish that were true Trinity about going to uni means I get to put off making hard and bog decisions for another 3 years. Cos even though Im going to Uni my dad wants me to have a plan. Hes been annoying me for the past year now. hes the most irritating little man I have ever met! He asks me the other day if I had started to look into jobs yet!!
And on my birthday he brought up what I wanted to do and so we argued a bit. My mum spoke to me later that night and we both had a bit of a cry. She told me just to make up anything and lie just to shut him up and get him off my back. Hes so annoying. And then he says he doesnt want to argue and well he shouldnt bring it up! Hes doing my head in and its only going to get worse the next couple of years, at least I'll be at uni away from him
I don't know what your plans are Abbie, or what your degree is going to be in, but you need to tell your dad that your priority right now is to get as good a degree as you can.
When you are in your final year you will have to apply for jobs - right now that isn't and cannot be your priority.
A good degree can open doors.
There are many jobs available to people with good degrees, regardless of subject:
graduate trainee in large companies such as M&S
civil service
accountancy trainee etc, etc
I could be wrong but it sounds like your dad didn't go to university himself, and perhaps he cannot see a career path from whatever subject it is that you are studying.
I didn't plan it at the time, but in my last year at Uni I applied to the civil service as a graduate. At twenty one I had a team of people working for me who had up to 35 years service.
Maybe he just needs to know that you will have options?
Your half right and Im not surpirsed youve managed to nearly understand my dad cos hes so flaming obvious and he wont back off
Apparently his dads advice to him was to work in trade of some sort so he did. BUT he got his degree when I was about 6 and the started to teach part time, and then we moved here so he could teach full time at the college I just left
The fact that hes a teacher at a college I think is part of the problem cos he thinks he knows it all and hes all like what kind of path are you going to go down? you need to start doing some research, what jobs are out there? I just feel like he puts too much pressure on me and its not in a dead mean way but I dunno its just the way he does it which makes it even worse than if he were a mean dad.
So he did get a degree but later on in his life and oh god I really dont know its like just cos he teaches and has some students that know what they want to do, but the thing is he makes out like all his students know but they dont! I have loads of friends who have no idea
Ive said to him, I have friends who dont know, I know people at uni who dont know, I know that unis help with things like this with jobs and all sorts, and after this speech I did throw in - will that shut you up. Just cos I was so annoyed and even after all this explaining and trying to get him to back off he wont, he still is nagging me to look. Its like he wants me to pick out a job now. theres no point, I may change my mind and I wont get my degree till like 3 years down the line.
I just dont know what to do anymore.
It is hard being a parent, and the hardest bit is when you have to let go and let your child make their own decisions in life.
Your dad changed careers majorly midlife, and possibly wants you to think seriously about what you want well in advance so that you don't have to.
Unfortunately this won't work. People change, technology changes and jobs change. I have had 3 separate 'careers' in my life and few of my friends are still doing what they thought they wanted to do at 18. The only exceptions are the vet and the.. nope, sorry, the only exception is the vet.
I can kind of identify with your dad a bit, I have a son who is just about to go into his last year at school. I want him to think about what he wants to do really carefully, because I fell into the degree I did at Uni and didn't enjoy it at all. What I mean is I don't want him to make the same mistakes I made. I nag him a lot, too.
Unfortunately, people only seem able to learn from their own mistakes.
I would say that you are lucky because your dad obviously cares very much about you.
Maybe what he really means is he is finding it hard to let go of his little girl, he really wants you to be happy and safe and if there is anything he can help you with just ask?
Sometimes it just all comes out wrong. And thanks for this Abbie because you have shown me how I probably appear to my son - I am going to try and learn from this.
Oh god im sorry ive probably come across as really mean, I dont mean to its just the way my dad doesnt he doesnt try to be dead obvious, its this tone in his voice I cant describe
my mum understands more who didnt go to uni, she knows I'll figure it out cos Im a pretty sensible person really
And they both know I will enjoy the degree im doing to do, Animal Behaviour, because Ive gone out of m way to do work experience at the RSPCA plave near me which I started on monday. I mean I did it all on my own I didnt ask my parents I organised with no help just me and emails so I would have thought that the fact Ive shown to be sensible, organised and interesting the subject as it realtes to me degree....I thought he would have understood this and well this would have shown he can leave me alone but he hasnt. I dont seem to be mean but hes the one person in my life who I feel under pressure from which sounds quite bad, he doesnt do it in a typical evil teacher way, its odd I cant describe it.
I know he cares but then why wont he leave it, my mum has. I know they are people my age that needed to be nagged, I have friends like that but I just would have thought I have proved I dont need to me.
I think he has a problem with my degree tbh, the way he says it and he was like - is that the actual name? He want it to be a biological sceince, as in thats what my degree should be called. But its not, so I know he doesnt really like it.
Im sorry I dont mean to sound harsh but I know, and my mum knows unless I state the exact job he wont let go
Abbie you have the sense to know that you have to study something that interests you in order to do well.
You may end up working in this field, and you may not, but as I said before now is the time for you to concentrate on your studies - and on enjoying uni.
If you dad has a problem with your degree tell him that you can study animal behaviour at over 30 universities in the UK - it would not be as popular in todays climate when people have to pay fees etc if noone could gain employment at the end of the course.
http://acunix.wheatonma.edu/kmorgan/...r_careers.html
He sounds like a nightmare Abbie; I have no idea what I want to do after uni either. I have had ideas but I've changed my mind a lot in the last year.
I have an almost opposite problem with my dad; he doesn't want me to go to uni. Both he and my mum didn't go to uni but my mum's ok with it; she says as long as I'm happy in the place I go to and with the course I do then it's fine with her. But he keeps saying my school are pushing me into going, degrees are a waste of time and not worth the money it costs to get them and that sort of thing. Yesterday I went with the school to a UCAS convention and got some prospectuses. I got one for Winchester and he now seems to have decided that if I go to uni I'm going there. He keeps finding ways to slag off the unis that he doesn't want me to apply to but I'm not so sure about the course at Winchester.
when i was looking at unis, my mum wanted me to do a maths degee, i wanted to do drama, so she told me i should look at unis where i could do a joint maths and drama degree (which isnt many!), i didnt really wanna do maths but i thought it wouldnt be as bad if i was doing another subject as well and my mum said it would be a waste if i didnt do it. she only listened to me when we sat through a maths talk which was so boring that we sneaked out halfway through when the lecturer went to get some information sheets! im glad as i felt like i was under pressure to do a joint degree as thats what she wanted as i didnt wanna let her down. i didnt know what i wanted to do after my degree, but just thought it was the only one i would enjoy that i was good at. i still dont know what i wanna do (which a lot of my lecturers disapprove of) but it has given me some ideas, and has also made me realise things which i really dont wanna do. my parents only wanted what was best for me and were concerned that my degree would be a waste of time (so im guessing your dad feels the same). but at the end of the day you have to do what you want to do, even if at the end it doesnt work out or you decide to do something else, otherwise you will end up resenting your dad if you do what he says and it doesnt work out or you dont enjoy it. good luck, im sure your dad will warm to the idea given time :)
today i sorted out all the final bills for my house so hopefully they will be sorted in a few weeks. then i went to help at the playschool in the afternoon, the kids there are so sweet and i really enjoyed being there :)
also my grandad came out of hospital today. he phoned us up at about half 10 saying he was coming home this morning and we phoned the school my mum works at asking if she could bring him home. they didnt get home til 6pm cos they hadnt sorted out this medication! :rolleyes: they still dont know what is wrong with him, but they were sending half the ward home without finding out/even if they were meant to be staying in there longer! the hospitals useless!
i know what you mean. my laptop broke while i was still at uni and my tv signal was so bad that i could barely watch the tv, i was so bored for weeks. you dont realise how much you rely on the tv/internet and that theres nothing to do without them! glad youve got it sorted now though :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Abigail
glad youre feeling better :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Trinity
That's some of the problems I have at the moment. I want to do something along the lines of Business and Psychology, which doesn't leave me with that many options. With the grades I'm predicted I feel like I'm wasting my potential/grades if I go for too many courses that are too low. I've found one around the same requirement as the Winchester one that I prefer the modules on so I feel like I should apply for that and go for higher ones for the rest of my choices. Winchester isn't that far away though and I hear it's a nice place. I hate decisions :hmm:Quote:
Originally Posted by di marco
i got an offer from winchester. i turned it down cos the course wasnt one of the better ones but the place itself was nice. i found that with the grade requirements. the lowest one i applied to only needed the equivalent of 2 Cs and cos i got 4 Bs and an E i thought it was probably too low, i only really applied to it as my 6th choice! but the other ones i applied to ranged about 100 points between them. my mum said i should try and go to the higher ones cos it would probably be better, in the end i did choose the highest one but only cos it was the better place to go. my second choice was a lot lower but its course was better than some of the higher ones wereQuote:
Originally Posted by KimThat's some of the problems I have at the moment. I want to do something along the lines of Business and Psychology, which doesn't leave me with that many options. With the grades I'm predicted I feel like I'm wasting my potential/grades if I go for too many courses that are too low. I've found one around the same requirement as the Winchester one that I prefer the modules on so I feel like I should apply for that and go for higher ones for the rest of my choices. Winchester isn't that far away though and I hear it's a nice place. I hate decisions :hmm:Quote:
Originally Posted by di marco
Was back online for an hour then it started thundering. Cue big flash of light, a bang and the tv and internet went down. Finally got back on about an hour ago.
Now I can finish my order on amazon. Got cut off when I was at the checkout.
Pretty much summed up my life at the moment there Kirst :lol:. It sucks, I know how you feel. But seriously, don't do something drastic like move to England, GOSH :rotfl:.. I am joking by the way, before I get lynched lmao!Quote:
Originally Posted by Kirstayyyy
Lol shush now Lea! :p
...How did you manage to change my name to Kirstayyyy in the quotes part?! :eek:
Omg, what a night. Went to work in such a bad mood, my driving was awful because everything else is on my mind, just wanted to cry in work but after speaking to one of the girls I felt a bit better.
Then I went and smashed up to 4 glasses by accident!
Then driving home I saw my friends driving so I followed them and ended up down this realllllly long lane, then I ended up in newport (about 15 minutes away) and lost them at a junction so I had to get them to come back for me haha and then we all went for a drive back to Asda :).. was scary, but definately an experience I'll laugh about in years to come.
Quote a post and got to advanced reply. It will say [quote='Kirsty :];123456'] 123456 is just the post number. You can delete anything between the first ' and the semicolon and put whatever you like.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kirstyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
Think I've got a throat infection :( No point going to the doctor, most throat infections are viral and I've had enough of them to know when its infected. I've still got cold too. I'm fed up of being ill, especially when its sunny outside.
im going to the chinese to have lunch in a bit. the food is so nice and so cheap during the day :) then i might do some shopping
I have to redo an assignment by 17th August. Really wish I'd gone to the lectures and made an effort first time round now. At least I've learnt my lesson. Doesn't help me now that I'm struggling and have no textbooks on the subject. Guess I'll have to go down to uni next week for a day or so to do some photocopying.
I passed the year but they say I have to complete all the credits :rolleyes: Don't understand why as the first year doesn't count towards the final degree award.
Its not like I can ask the lecturer for help as I didn't make an effort in the first place. I was also really ill around deadline time and didn't think about applying for extenuating circumstances. So the long and short of it is, it's my fault and I won't make the same mistake again.
thats like at my uni. it doesnt matter if you pass overall, you have to pass everything separately as well! :rolleyes: good luck with it :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Abigail
Thanks. I've got a new piece of software which is helping loads. Basically, you put all your ideas, quotes, little bits of info etc. down and then you can pull them about and reorder or change them. Then you click a button and it writes your assignment by stringing together all your ideas.
It's much better than having a dozen pieces of paper with scribblings on and words everywhere. You can even add pictures, draw, change font, add colours and loads of other things.
How hot is it?! It's crazy. took the dog out for an hours long walk and now he's lead on the floor panting like mad. Took a bottle of water out for him tho which he drank all of!
In a fab mood because my friend told me that Sally Jaxx played a song for me on the radio on wednesday! Sally came in the car with us to prom to interview us for the radio because my friend Kathryn won the 2BR (our local radio station) Prom Queen comp. And we were on our way and Sally was just talking to us before she interviewed us and she asked what music we like and I said Celine and kathryn was laughing and Sally went, oh I love Celine, I went to see her at Caesars palace when she was doing A New Day. <-- cue my jaw dropping to floor. I was sooooo jealous ha. So anyways, she has a slot on a wednesday on the station and she was talking about our prom and that, and saying about how kathryn took the mik for me liking Celine so Sally was talking about going to Vegas to see her and all this and then said - and this is for Hollie if you're listening - and played I'm Alive:cheer: :D well chuffed ha!
Sorry for the essay, was just well happy with that lmao.
I am pleased for you to have met Sally Jaxx and having the record played for you - you can consider yourself a minor celebrity now :D
Your post just made me proper cheesy grin Hollie haha. That just sounds really nice :)
Feeling better today, I had a letter through from college earlier and I have an interview on Tuesday.... I'm realy nervous :|
Just going to hoover like a good Grandaughter and go see my Mum because she and my Dad are off to Tenby for a few days tomorrow. Then later on a bbq at my friends :)
Haha thanks. Well tbh, I can't even consider myself that, I didn't even know who she was till I got home after prom and my mum told me who she was :lol:
It was only a little thing but made me smile :D
Good luck with the interview (:
Good luck with your interview Kirsty and have a pleasant bbq :)
Who is Sally Jaxx? Haha
If you had your name announced on the radio and a song dedicated to you you are most definitely a minor celebrity in my eyes :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Hollie-x
She was in Bucks Fizz for a bit after the girls left. And she does singing and all that. there's a few videos of her at Manchester Pride on youtube. And she has some songs on a few of the clubland cds and that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kirsty :]
Aww thanks Perdita :D
Ooo its werid been pink :p at least im not tangoed