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twinkle_eyes83
04-06-2005, 21:38
How old were you when you had your first child?
pinkles14
04-06-2005, 23:39
I Was 18
I feel like the old mum.. I was 29 when I had my first.. 32 (nearly 33) on my second one now.. All my sisters had children around age of 20
brenda1971
06-06-2005, 11:49
i was 32
I was 27 when I had my first, and 29 when I had my second. I was the first one of my school friends to have kids and now out of a group of 6 girls only 2 have kids - and we are all 40!
I was 27 when I had my first, and 29 when I had my second. I was the first one of my school friends to have kids and now out of a group of 6 girls only 2 have kids - and we are all 40!
the year I had my first.. 3 other girls I went to school with were all having their first child too.. My daughter was 1st to be born, 5 days later another girl, 2 weeks later a boy and the last girl had a boy 2 weeks after that
I was 24. My sisters just had her daughter though and she's only 15. I think it's harder the younger you are.
I was 24. My sisters just had her daughter though and she's only 15. I think it's harder the younger you are.
15 is really young.. my sister had my nephew at 16.. i was only 9 at the time and I thought she was really old.. then 10 years later, my brothers girlfriend had a baby at 16 and I thought she was so young.. it is amazing how you think when you are younger too
I was 24. My sisters just had her daughter though and she's only 15. I think it's harder the younger you are.
Depends what you mean by harder,what kind of situation you are in,i was pregant at 16 but had him at 17.it bugs me when people assume you arent with the same bloke anymore.i was with my bf 4 months before i got pregnant and 7 years later and one more son later,another on the way we are still together.we bought our own house at 18,bought our own car out right,have hols abroad and all the other perks in life and the great thing is he is the same age as me!
we have been very lucky and i realise some people arent as lucky,but im glad i proved everyone wrong.Harder as in harder to be a parent at such a young age depends on the person,how mature they are and if they arent how quick they grow up.Im not blowing my own trumpet here but considering the age i had my first i think i have done a marvellous job,no different to a women of 40 doing it.
Good for you Chance! I am glad that everything has worked out so well for you. Unfortunately, though some kids are not so stable or level headed.... I guess it depends v. much on the person and their relationship.
People can meet at 35, have kids and split up just the same.
Well done Chance.. it is a shame that people look upon younger people having children like that... My brother had a baby at 17 and his girlfriend at the time was only 16.. they split up 4 years later but they are great parents.. she is now married to my brother friend and they have 3 other children.. my brother babysits for them when they want to go out.. they say themselves that they were a lousy couple but great parents.. All the children are happy..
Good for you Chance! I am glad that everything has worked out so well for you. Unfortunately, though some kids are not so stable or level headed.... I guess it depends v. much on the person and their relationship.
People can meet at 35, have kids and split up just the same.
Exactly age doesnt really matter in some cases.
Well done Chance.. it is a shame that people look upon younger people having children like that... My brother had a baby at 17 and his girlfriend at the time was only 16.. they split up 4 years later but they are great parents.. she is now married to my brother friend and they have 3 other children.. my brother babysits for them when they want to go out.. they say themselves that they were a lousy couple but great parents.. All the children are happy..good for them,its good it was all worked out amicably sp) some people wouldnt be able to handle the fact there ex is now with there friend etc.
good for them,its good it was all worked out amicably sp) some people wouldnt be able to handle the fact there ex is now with there friend etc.
I know, my brother is just a really good kind person.. His ex lost her baby last week and he took care of all the kids when she was in hospital so it would give herself and her husband time together. They all get on really well and her other kids adore my brother...
awww thats a really nice thing to do,he sounds really nice.
awww thats a really nice thing to do,he sounds really nice.
Yeah.. Looks like Curly Watts but has a heart of gold...
twinkle_eyes83
07-06-2005, 15:55
Depends what you mean by harder,what kind of situation you are in,i was pregant at 16 but had him at 17.it bugs me when people assume you arent with the same bloke anymore.i was with my bf 4 months before i got pregnant and 7 years later and one more son later,another on the way we are still together.we bought our own house at 18,bought our own car out right,have hols abroad and all the other perks in life and the great thing is he is the same age as me!
we have been very lucky and i realise some people arent as lucky,but im glad i proved everyone wrong.Harder as in harder to be a parent at such a young age depends on the person,how mature they are and if they arent how quick they grow up.Im not blowing my own trumpet here but considering the age i had my first i think i have done a marvellous job,no different to a women of 40 doing it.i know what you mean i was 13 when i found out with my first baby and had her at 14 but not everyone has support but i had my mum and boyfriend how was in a good paid job he is 3 years older then me low but when people say to you that is really young they should not judge cos everyone is differnt but we have been together for 7 years and we are exep our 4 th baby and still as happy as we were back then
i know what you mean i was 13 when i found out with my first baby and had her at 14 but not everyone has support but i had my mum and boyfriend how was in a good paid job he is 3 years older then me low but when people say to you that is really young they should not judge cos everyone is differnt but we have been together for 7 years and we are exep our 4 th baby and still as happy as we were back then
Wow.. well done you.. How do you cope with all those kids?? I am expecting on my second and I find it hard... go you :thumbsup: :clap:
twinkle_eyes83
07-06-2005, 16:03
it does get easier as they get older but to be honest i would not change them for anything and they all have there differnt cacharters about them aswell but it does help with being with there dad still aswell
Depends what you mean by harder,what kind of situation you are in,i was pregant at 16 but had him at 17.it bugs me when people assume you arent with the same bloke anymore.i was with my bf 4 months before i got pregnant and 7 years later and one more son later,another on the way we are still together.we bought our own house at 18,bought our own car out right,have hols abroad and all the other perks in life and the great thing is he is the same age as me!
we have been very lucky and i realise some people arent as lucky,but im glad i proved everyone wrong.Harder as in harder to be a parent at such a young age depends on the person,how mature they are and if they arent how quick they grow up.Im not blowing my own trumpet here but considering the age i had my first i think i have done a marvellous job,no different to a women of 40 doing it.Completely agree with you Chance....I had my first at 17 and although I was in a relationship and had been for a while, all of my then school friends disowned me and called me the usual names......he is 12 this year and we are really close, talk about everything, hide nothing. I don't think age makes a difference, though it does help to have a good support network around you. Whether you are 16 or 40, anyone can be a loving mum.
I feel like the old mum.. I was 29 when I had my first.. 32 (nearly 33) on my second one now.. All my sisters had children around age of 20
I wanted to wait till a decent age Siobhan but ended up pregnant when I was 24.
flipflop
21-06-2005, 23:28
I was 21
I can't understand what possesses anyone under 20 though! Must be harder surely? My god I wanted to die and I was 24 let alone being in labour in me teens.
not really, i had my first at 18 and second at 26 and i found the labour easier second time, but i got postnatal depression with the second and i have found it harder juggling work and home and kids and thats with the help of a partner something i did not have with no1. but we are all different and our coping mechanisims are all different what works for one might not work for another
I wanted to prove to everyone that I wasn't going to screw the state for money, so went back to work full time when eldest was 3 months old. Cost me missing out on a lot of the early years, but at least I proved I wasn't doing it just for a house. Wouldn't recommend it as a sensible option in life though!!!
I pay enough taxes if I ever went to sponge off the state I feel perfectly entitled to. I've worked for years and paid tax, atleast I'm not somebody who's never worked and is claiming it. If I'm ever out of work, I am going to sponge off the state because I feel entitled to but hopefully I won't find myself in that situation :)
I pay enough taxes if I ever went to sponge off the state I feel perfectly entitled to. I've worked for years and paid tax, atleast I'm not somebody who's never worked and is claiming it. If I'm ever out of work, I am going to sponge off the state because I feel entitled to but hopefully I won't find myself in that situation :)Problem was, at that time I was 17 and only been working for a year in that job, so didn't feel I had paid enough in.....definitely paid in enough now though, thats for sure.
Yes I see the point. No way would I want to claim had I not put enough into it.
Yes I see the point. No way would I want to claim had I not put enough into it.I felt really guilty about it all, went back to work too quickly, and then suffered guilt trips that I hadn't been there for my son, missing out on his first steps etc. Thats probably why I am glad that I can now work from home. Best of both worlds then.
I felt really guilty about it all, went back to work too quickly, and then suffered guilt trips that I hadn't been there for my son, missing out on his first steps etc. Thats probably why I am glad that I can now work from home. Best of both worlds then.
I didn't miss out because we have a maternity work package and they kind of gave me less hours. Plus you can have 18 weeks off on full pay from 2 weeks before your baby is born.
I didn't miss out because we have a maternity work package and they kind of gave me less hours. Plus you can have 18 weeks off on full pay from 2 weeks before your baby is born.Unfortunately, there weren't so many rights when Stephen was born (nearly 12 years ago, blimey that makes me feel old!!) Certainly not missing out on Ciaran and this one when it arrives though. Staying at home, yet still paying my taxes, best of both worlds :cheer:
I may never work again. I'm signed off on health reasons. Am on full pay. Only working the odd day or so here and there. Got that until atleast after the baby is born. They won't let me go from the job though until I've been off for 12 months but I don't quite know what's going to happen yet or whether I'll go back. I've had enough of bathing pensioners and having the randy ones grope me.
I may never work again. I'm signed off on health reasons. Am on full pay. Only working the odd day or so here and there. Got that until atleast after the baby is born. They won't let me go from the job though until I've been off for 12 months but I don't quite know what's going to happen yet or whether I'll go back. I've had enough of bathing pensioners and having the randy ones grope me.I hope its nothing serious. Can't blame you about the pensioners though. Plus, I find that just because I am pregnant, everyone thinks they are allowed to touch me!! Straight away, hand on bump and "oh aren't you blossoming". What makes it different just cause I have a bump??? :searchme:
I hope its nothing serious. Can't blame you about the pensioners though. Plus, I find that just because I am pregnant, everyone thinks they are allowed to touch me!! Straight away, hand on bump and "oh aren't you blossoming". What makes it different just cause I have a bump??? :searchme:
That's why I like to wear big dresses to hide the bump. I've found a lovely collection of summer dresses that I can't wait to wear. Bit too big yet but it's getting bigger by the day. The bump is well and truly coming out of the woodwork now and about time too! I'm 5 months gone.
I wish mine wasn't so big sometimes. I keep getting asked when its due and when I say Christmas, they have a look of horror appear on their face!!
I wish mine wasn't so big sometimes. I keep getting asked when its due and when I say Christmas, they have a look of horror appear on their face!!
I'm really lucky this time. It's only just starting to show now. Before it was only small but it's getting bigger by the day now. Making up for lost time. I wake up in the morning and it's grown! It's so astonishing.
Thats what scares me, I'm still growing!!!! 2 days before I had Ciaran I was 51 inchs around the waist!! This time I am already 38 inchs and wearing hubbys jim jams for lounging in!! And they're getting too small :lol: I wanted to hold off of maternity wear until the colder weather started, but haven't managed to, though have only bought 2 pairs of cropped trousers and 2 tops from H&M, so will try to make do with them. When are you due WQ, if you don't mind me asking??
Around about the last two weeks in October. 22nd is what my midwife told me at my last scan.
Thats when I wanted to have this one, but now it seems as though it'll Christmas instead, or if its a week early, it'll be on my eldests birthday. I don't know which would be worse!!
My friend had her baby on christmas day, well it was ten past two on boxing day morning so at christmas he always asks her which presents are for his birthday and which are for christmas. She ends up spending a fortune combining the both.
my eldest was due on 30th nov but i had him on 9th dec and christmas has got really expensive!!!
I'm hoping he/she will arrive early, cause I know people who have ended up having both days combined which I don't really want to happen with this one. Although, I could be keeping up with a family tradition. I'm just not sure how they would work it if I needed to be induced though??
my eldest was due on 30th nov but i had him on 9th dec and christmas has got really expensive!!!
I'm glad none of my two are near christmas.
This baby will be the one that's nearest to christmas for me but still it's only October. My little girl was born on the 25th January so that's quite close but the other side.
i thought i would get away with it with my second and she is on 26th march right i time for easter!!!!
Eldest is 3rd Dec, Ciaran 2nd June (so clear of anything!!). This one - we'll see!
Eldest is 3rd Dec, Ciaran 2nd June (so clear of anything!!). This one - we'll see!
Eldest is still close to Christmas though.
i thought i would get away with it with my second and she is on 26th march right i time for easter!!!!
Well Easter is the less expensive one isn't it? Count your blessings lol.
I think I win - my eldest is 29th Feb. He only has a birthday once every 4 years, lol!
Well Easter is the less expensive one isn't it? Count your blessings lol.
except
mother in lwas birthday - 3rd march
sister in laws birthday - 22nd march
mothers day - somewhere in march!!!
but i do agree not as bad as christmas!!
di marco
28-06-2005, 08:14
my bdays 18 december so just a week before xmas. its annoying when people put my bday card in with the xmas cards, but its good if i want a bigger pressie as i can have it as a bday/xmas pressie
my bdays 18 december so just a week before xmas. its annoying when people put my bday card in with the xmas cards, but its good if i want a bigger pressie as i can have it as a bday/xmas pressie
luckily he has not had that yet!! he is only 9 so most of the family like to seperate hie bday and xmas, for the first time last year he had a combined pressie as he wanted a new bike and the one he chose was expensive!!
I think I win - my eldest is 29th Feb. He only has a birthday once every 4 years, lol!
So they don't really age like the rest of us either. You can't change their birthday :p
Eldest is still close to Christmas though.Stephen was originally due on the 16th Dec, but was induced 2 weeks early (lucky for him!!) At least it is far enough away to distinguish between the two. My dad is 29th Dec and that is bad enough. I kept forgetting it cause of concentrating on Xmas so much!
Stephen was originally due on the 16th Dec, but was induced 2 weeks early (lucky for him!!) At least it is far enough away to distinguish between the two. My dad is 29th Dec and that is bad enough. I kept forgetting it cause of concentrating on Xmas so much!
Well yeah 16th would have been worse :D
I think I win - my eldest is 29th Feb. He only has a birthday once every 4 years, lol!
i was paniking about that when i had niamh, i thought she might be 4 weeks early and be born then!!!
Hey it would be good lol.
di marco
29-06-2005, 08:13
id love to have my bday on 29 february, itd be so cool! :)
Yes it would. You would only age once every 4 years but you would get less presents.
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