Working relationships

[Perdita]

I have a problem with a colleague at work who refuses to communicate with me unless he absolutely has to, although we are meant to work together. I even initiated a "Let's air our differences and move on" chat with the boss around a year ago, this has not made the slightest difference and the boss is not really interested, he says we need to sort ourselves out. I just don't know what else to do, I have apologised for any possible upset I might have caused in the past, although it was he who was extremely rude and never has apologised to this day. I just can't stand the atmosphere but don't want to leave the job. :crying: Any ideas please?

[Siobhan]

Cupid.. it is really hard to work in a place when that happens. I have had someone like that in an old job.. I had to leave. She was really nice when the boss was around but the minute boss left she was nasty and spiteful. She would sit with me for hours not saying a word but would bitch about me, loudly to customers.. She was right beside me saying horrible stuff like I was not there. It got to a stage where it was just to hard to work with her and it made me miserable. As it happened, 3 other girls left the job for the same reason.

If this guy is not willing to "air your differences", keep it strictly professional. Only work with him when you have to and only discuss work. You have made an effort and he is not willing to accept anything. Leave him be if that is his attitude but don't let it affect the work you do and make sure you both get credit for work you have done together

[Trinity]

Unfortunately in life there will be always be people who don't like you for whatever reason, or even no reason at all.

This person sound awful, and you have done as much as you can to rectify a difficult situation. Don't toady any more. He is at fault not you, you have done your best and he is not worthy any more consideration.

As Siobhan says deal with him when you have to and otherwise ignore him. Don't let him see that he is upsetting you.

I would give serious consideration to moving to another job. You have spoken to the boss it hasn't helped and your options seem limited.

[Abigail]

Is there a reason why he is like this or is this his attitude to everybody?

[Chloe O'brien]

I would bring the matter up with your boss again. Tell him how unhappy you are that he has not helped to resolve the matter and that you are considering invloving Human Resources. you cannot work in this enivornemnt especially when you have done nothing wrong.

[Perdita]

Thank you all for your advice, changing jobs is not really an option as I would lose out financially, which I can't afford as there aren't too many jobs around where I live, certainly not within my present wage group. I shall keep things strictly professional and work with him, when I have to and will keep it to work only. Thanks again, your comments are most welcome and much appreciated. :thumbsup: