desperate to be a mum

[*-Rooney-*]

my friend is single after a string of bad relationships, and despite this she is desperate for a baby of her own and shes considering using a sperm donor, (not sure if she can do that in our town) but im finding it hard to support her, i know she would be a brill mum but dont children deserve to have a dad. she thinks she is too old to meet someone and settle down to have a family she is only 25 same as me, and im as maternal as her, but i would like to believe if i have a baby ill know the dad.

what should i do, try to support her even though i dont agree with what she wants to do, or tell her how i feel and why?

[alan45]

OMG she is only 25. She is still young enough to meet Mr Right. If she has a kiddie now her nights out to look for a decent man will be curtailed. Besides a lot of fellas will not want to take on someone elses kid whether conceived by Turky baster or intercourse

[*-Rooney-*]

how do i try to get that message through to her and still keep her as a friend, i dont believe i can support her in this - that makes me a bad friend eh

I mean if she does do this what is she gonna tell the child in years to come about its dad, we met through a test tube

[samantha nixon]

if this is what your friend really wants, then if it was me in your position i would support my friend, as if this is what she really wants then she probably wont change her mind.
And if your obviously feels that she will be able to cope on her own with a baby, or she wouldnt be thinking about this and as long as she has love to give a child does it really matter where or who the dad is

[*-Rooney-*]

yeah i realise that, if push comes to shove and if she does go along with this ill try to bite my tongue and be there for her, im just wanting her to think about it long and hard, make sure this is definately the way she wants to do things because its not like she can change her mind once shes started, and shes a very impulsive person,

[Pinkbanana]

She is only 25. I agree with Al, that having a baby could hamper her chances of finding Mr Right - her nights out will be curtailed for one!

I cant believe she would really want to have a baby on her own and by choice become a single parent. Think she needs a reality check...bringing up a baby on her own is going to be very hard!

Also what is she going to tell her child in a few years time about the father? I personally think she is being selfish and needs to think about the long term implications..not just for herself, but for the child.

[*-Rooney-*]

thats exactly what i think i mean normally people try to be in a 2 parent family and its still hard work and expensive

[Chloe O'brien]

If she thinks she is over the hill at 25 god help her when she hit's her 40's. It's all fine and well saying ooh I'd really love a baby but guess what they don't stay babies they grow up fast. Yeah she maybe lucky and be blessed with a child that sleeps 16 hours a day, then again it may cry 16 hours a day. Once a baby is born it's parents priorities change whether that child is born to a 1 or 2 parent family. She won't be able to go out dancing and boozing every weekend or buy new clothes every week.
So she has been treated badly by a few guys sorry to be blunt but hey welcome to the real world. As it has been said she needs to have a reality check before she starts opening her legs to any Tom, Dick or Harry. Not only is she in danger of catching god know's what kind of diseases but she will be living on state benefits for years which is paid by Tax Payers.

If she is serious about becoming a parent why doesn't she foster or adopt a child there is thousands of kids in Scotland that would love a secure home.