Do some people really think this?

[Siobhan]

I was reading articule on Sky news about child pagents and this was a comment

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Former glamour model Jayne Harris, who entered 11-year-old daughter Sasha and seven-year-old son Max, encourages her children's behaviour.
She said: "Looks are everything. No one is going to talk to you if you are ugly. If you've got it, flaunt it."

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Do parent really think that and actually force this on their kids??? Surely in this day and age people see beyond how a person looks? or has TV really give everyone an unrealistic expectation of how you should look to proceed in your life??

I find this disgraceful attitude to have and to pass to your children.. Old saying "beauty is only skin deep"

[Trinity]

What happens to these kids when they get older?

My guess is that they od on plastic surgery....

What ever happened to teaching your children self respect?

[DaVeyWaVey]

I actually watched the programme on this last night called Too Much Too Young and the mother's attitude was frankly disgusting. She's forcing this into her daughter's head, telling her that looks are the most important thing in a person, when it's not at all. She should teach her daughter some respect, because if she's giving her an attitude like that, she's not going to make many friends or go very far in life. It's the inner beauty and personality you should look in individuals, not the outer beauty.

[Jojo]

The problem is though, in all honesty, how many people are taken by someone at first by anything other than their looks? Its just a good thing that everyone likes something different, otherwise we'd all be undergoing surgery etc. Its only when you get to know someone properly that you really discover whether or not you would want to spend the rest of your life with someone or not. Initially though, for the majority, the looks are the first thing that attracts someone to the other.

Which is very very sad imo.

[Meh]

Is this not part of the celebrity culture they have been brainwashed into? I sometimes see kids dressed up as they are going out on the pull and I seriously have to wonder their parents thinking.

[Jojo]

Is this not part of the celebrity culture they have been brainwashed into? I sometimes see kids dressed up as they are going out on the pull and I seriously have to wonder their parents thinking.

I have to say, I am so glad I haven't got a daughter. Seeing some of the now fashionable clothes that children of under 10 wish to wear out these days, and also those of young teens, to be honest, scares me. Whilst the clothing that is worn should make no difference to the way these girls are seen, crikey theres an awful lot of "body" on show. I would be scared of my daughter going out dressed in the same manner, even though its the fashion these days.

[.:SpIcYsPy:.]

I read an article on this (might be another girl), this morning! I was so shocked.. I was going to post it on here but left it..

I think her mother is setting a very bad example.. She wants to be just like Jordan!

She said that if she didn't wear the make-up she did and sprayed tan herself she would be very sad because her mother would call her ugly and hate her! Wtf... and her mum didn't even respond to that!

[Kim]

I think there's far too much of this going around these days. The amount of people who are now putting make-up on in lessons and breaking rules with hairstyles, shoes and trousers is unbelievable. There's so many people that spend the lessons talking to their mates about what they will wear out, which half the time, is ridiculous.

[no1abbafan]

I saw this child and her parents on Richard & Judy yesterday and was frankly horrified - I have a girl almost 10 and the thought of her thinking the way this child thought frightened me. When asked why she was so into clothes etc.. she said, she would have more friends and be popular if she looked good - how sad is that - and the mother agreed with her.

[Kim]

I agree with that, too. Because it's become more and more common these days, those that don't dress like that are seen as different. No wonder there is a school uniform to establish equality as far as possible.

[CrazyLea]

I think there's far too much of this going around these days. The amount of people who are now putting make-up on in lessons and breaking rules with hairstyles, shoes and trousers is unbelievable. There's so many people that spend the lessons talking to their mates about what they will wear out, which half the time, is ridiculous.

I was in work the other day, and there were a group of girls about 6 of them. One of them had a birthday badge saying 13, which means the others were around 12/13. I was shocked.. they ALL wore these really small tight white t-shirts, and really short denim skirts on. I call them skirts, they were more like belts.. and I just thought.. "Oh my god". They're supposed to be 12/13, and I know that I would never have dressed like that then.. not even now. That's just asking for trouble in my opinion.. I just don't see how their parents let them go out dressed like that. Mine wouldn't have, that's for sure.

[Kim]

Mine wouldn't, either. I hate those types of tops, and think they look far from cool. Some skirt lengths are so short and made in such sizes as if children of that age are being encouraged to wear them. My shortest skirt isn't a length that I would call a belt, and my mum barely approves of that.

I think some of them are all 'boys, boys, boys.' One girl in my school took her French exchange partner (who was a boy) around the estate with a bunch of other girls, all with short tops on, some with skirts.

[Chloe O'brien]

I'm lucky at the moment with my daugther as she lives in tracksuits when she is not at school. At the moment she is going though a faze thinking that all the girls on the american shows shown on nickeloden are more prettier than her. I tell her its because their faces are caked in make-up and false tan.

I think its disgusting that parents are encouraging or forcing their kids to wear make-up and revealing clothes, whatever happened to letting children have a childhood. As for clothing companies they should not be producing thongs, low-cut tops or micro mini's for children. 9 and 10 year old girls may think they look hip at the moment but what happens in four years time when these girls are anorexic because they won't eat as they must stay skinny to be popular.

[Siobhan]

That is the problem.. clothing companies, media are give false images of how young girls should be. I wouldn't let my daughter out in half the clothes on the market now.. and like you Kath, charley is always saying about how other girls on Nick are prettier than her and I say "well yes and you would be too if you were plastered with half the makeup they wear".. Charley has the most beautiful blond hair but she want to dye it.. she is 5 !!!

[Kim]

Yeah, it's definitely got something to do with the media. I read something a newspaper a few years back which told of the top aimed at girls as young as 8, I think it was; bearing the slogan, "So many boys, so little time." It was a good job they took that off of the market, but they shouldn't be allowed to aim such short tops at such young girls.

[Chloe O'brien]

The governenment have to enforce a school uniform only code to both primary and secondary schools, to ensure that no children turn up at school with make-up or body piercing. As long as there is no concrete rules on how children dress for school some parents are going to let them leave the house in whatever outfits they like.

[Trinity]

The governenment have to enforce a school uniform only code to both primary and secondary schools, to ensure that no children turn up at school with make-up or body piercing. As long as there is no concrete rules on how children dress for school some parents are going to let them leave the house in whatever outfits they like.

Although this is a great idea at my son's high school I have been told by the headmaster that all they can do is 'strongly encourage' wearing of school uniform. There seems to be some City of Edinburgh Council dictact that prevents them enforcing this rule.

I have a friend who works in a high school in West Lothian and they send kids home if the are inappropriately dressed - and keep a stock of 'spare' school polo shirts for those kids who 'forget' to where the correct uniform.

This difference is what makes me think it must be a local authority issue in Scotland.

[Chloe O'brien]

Trin I think that Edinburgh City Council are just a bunch of cowards too scared to enforce rules so they get around it by saying that they encourage children to wear a uniform. That way they can put the responisblity onto parents rather than trying to work with them to ensure that children go to school properly dressed. Near to the college where I work there is two schools on one site. St Joseph's and Broomhouse. for the parents who's children who attend Broomhouse school if they purchase a school sweatshirt they are given one free to encourage the children to wear the school uniform, but this is not mandatory among all the schools.

When I was at school the uniform was mandatory and if you turned up for school without it on you were sent home again. If the schools had the authority to do that today parents would soon get sick of having their kids sent home everyday.

[Abigail]

I read in a newspaper magazine a few weeks ago about girls as young as two having manicures and facials because if they don't they will look ugly. One parent even allowed her five year old daughter to have her legs waxed! Who in their right mind would allow their child to have their legs waxed? A seven year old boy has regular spray tans because he didn't like being white. He looked like he had been dunked in a vat of the stuff. His sister (9) spends £200 a month having her hair highlighted and cut. Their mother's response: "I can afford it and it doesn't hurt them to learn how to look good. People won't talk to them if they don't look nice."

I find people that are more interested in their appearance than others shallow and boring.

[samantha nixon]

I read something about that in the free mag you get on a sunday, and the kid who got her legs waxed i dunno if its the same one your talking about but the girl has now said she wont do it again because it hurt and the step mum said the reason why she let her have them done was because she wanted her to see what it was like and to make her own desicion whether she wanted to do it again

[JustJodi]

Well does any one remember the JonBenet Ramsey case in America,, the 6 yr old Beauty queen that was murdered....Mom and Dad were suspects, media started accusing the MOM cos they said she was jealous of her daughters innocence and beauty,,, ok that is a bit OTT..
Stage Moms, are just as bad as beauty pagent moms.. they push push push push.. till the girls believe every thing that they hear is gospel. and they are poles apart from kids their own age...its so so so sad...

[Siobhan]

it is a really sad suitation.. I had to stop calling my little girl a princess cause she would get really upset if anyone said she wasn't plus she developed a major complex. Now I have to say to her that she is MY princess and I will always think she is beautiful.. Kids develop complex so much quicker these days cause of friend who's parents say they should look a certain way and if other kids don't "fit" they are picked on