What would you do?

[happychick]

Hi,

I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice about what to do. A couple of months ago I met a guy and we hit it off straight away. He then phoned me the next day and again during that week, we met up again on the following Sat. nite and we talked, he told me that he had been in a relationship with a girl for a few years but it didn't work out as she didn't know what she wanted and she kept messing with his head.

We were stil seeing each other and phoning each other, when last week he phoned to tell me that his ex called up to see him and he doesn't know what to do. He said that he couldn't see a future for the two of them but it did arrange to met her at the weekend to talk things over.

So I went out on Sat nite and I done the one thing that I promised myself I wouldn't - I texted him, as soon as he received the message he phones me and more or less said that he wanted to make a go with me, but he didn't want to hurt his ex. I haven't heard anything from him.

I know that I probably should forget about him but I can't as he both socialise in the same spot regulary.

[Abigail]

This is just my opinion, but why did he meet up with his ex when he couldn't see a future with her? From what you've said it doesn't sound like it was a social visit and they've been split up a while now so why did he need to see her?

I'd ring him and see if everything is OK and he still wants to be with you. It sounds a bit ambiguous him saying he wants to make a go of it but doesn't want to hurt his ex. Is he just using that as an excuse to split with you or is he really saying what he means? There's no other way of finding out unless you ask him.

If he doesn't want to be with you then you have to accept that and move on. Just because you socialise in the same area doesn't mean you have to speak to him.

[Chloe O'brien]

Tell him to sling his hook. He wants to have his cake and eat it. If he didn't want anything to do with his ex he should have told her not making lame excuses. If you like him and you want to be in a relationship with him, tell him to sort his self out and decide its either you or his ex.