How easily do you make friends?

[Abi]

How easily can you make new friends?

I find making friends really easy. I went to Oxford on Thursday, with 1 other friend on an Open Day. We were split up, so because i didn't want to stand there like a melon on my own, i scanned the room, and picked someone out. I just went over to him, and started chatting. Spent the rest of the day chatting to him (Only asked his name after an hour though :rotfl: ). I'm chatty, so i find just randomly talking to new people really easy to do.

[DaVeyWaVey]

Nope, i can't really make friends that easy really..i do find it hard to meet new people and chat to them. I get incredibly shy, i wish i didn't though. I think i've built up confidence though, when i first started school, i found it incredibly hard to make friends and struggled to fit in, but now i have plenty of friends which is good, but i still find it difficult to meet new people (i find it easier to meet new people online weirdly) I just struggle to go up to someone and introduce myself..and get chatting etc, i am determined to become a bit more confident though.

[CrazyLea]

Hmmm.. I'm in the middle. I've gotten better. I'm like Dave, haven't got much confidence. Example.. last year at College, I was on a course with my mate. So only made one friend on our course. We were too shy to talk to anyone lol. But this year, cause I'm on a course on my own, I made a point of talking to someone, I was lucky that I was the second one in, so I spoke to the girl that was there, then we spoke to others. I now have 5 college mates on my course :p And talk to some others. And last year at work I made a few mates :D so I'm getting better. Without my mates it's better for making mates though.

[Jessie Wallace]

i don't most people hate me. But i am who i am, i try to be nice and good, and polite. And in my book that's what counts.

[Siobhan]

I had to learn to overcome shyness as most of the stuff I have done in life I am always the new person. I have never been to college, school or anywhere where a mate has come with me.. So I make friends easily but only very few. I have many people I know and talk to but very very few friends (close friends)

[Footie_Chick]

I find it quite hard to speak to people face to face, especially people i don't know, so it make take a while for me to go over and talk to new people. I come across as quite a shy person which is completely different to everyone else in my family as my sisters are very opinionated and can talk to anyone. But once i have people i know i feel comftable with i come out of my shell and knowone would never know how low my confidence levels were in the first place.

[Abigail]

It depends on the situation but if I'm on my own I tend to talk to people more because I don't want to stand there like a loner. If I'm with friends then I probably won't make much of an effot because I'm comfortable with who I'm with.
I'm going to an open day in June on my own so I guess I'll have to talk to people or spend 7 hours on my own.

[Katy]

I know what you mean, it depends on the situation, but i find it really easy if there is something you have in common with the people. So for example at the sailing opens i find it really easy to talk to other sailiers and the same at music events, or in Irish bars. But if theres nothing in common then its more difficult.

[Emma-Lou]

I am quite a shy person but as i have gotten older i have got better as i was really shy when i was very young.I don't like going up to people and just start talking to them i prefer if people approach me for example when i go on holiday i do not make any friends as i will not go up to people as i want them to come to me but i am trying to work up the confidence so when i go on holiday jsut with my friends when i am older i will find it easier to make new friends.I have got better since starting high school as when i realised none of my friends were in some classes in 1st year i went up to some to talk to them which is good for me.I do fing it easier over the interenet as i am not face to face but even still sometimes i do not like to join conversation incase i am interupting or something like that.

[Xx-Vicky-xX]

Im no good a making friends at all, im so quiet with people i dont know until i get to know them then i am fine but its just the initial conversation with people at first thats difficult, for example a person who i now would say is probably my best friend when we first met i didnt now anthing about her, didnt even know she existed and suddenly i was having to go out with her just because my other friends wanted to well i didnt say anything to her for most of the night unless she spoke to me (which she wasnt so it was even worse) but since that night we have become good mates and if im with her now im fine with her.

[Jojo]

You wouldn't know it but I find it very hard to make friends. I don't generally talk to too many people. Some think I'm a snob because when I used to go to baby and toddler groups I used to play with the children instead of drinking coffee and ignoring what they were doing etc, although since Ci has started school, I talk to more mums in the playground, but only have one friend that I regularly have coffee with.

[Chloe O'brien]

I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have I have known for years. I think I get on better with men rather than woman because I am not into bitching about others and I hate holding grudges once an argument is over that should be it but some females just don't give up. When I went back to college I never knew anyone and I was in a room with other people all of different ages, some where mature students like me, some where aged about 18 & 19, but I knew I was going to be with most of these people for 3 years so I made an effort to try and get along with them. I was surprised to find out that most of the group were as nervous as I was. Out of the class of 24 only 8 of us completed the three years and we still keep in touch.

[pookie1968uk]

i find it hard to make friends as i am quite shy and not very confident. i am going to a wedding in may and will be on a table with 3 other couples, two being my husbands work colleagues and the other the managing director and his wife. i am dreading it!

[Katy]

I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have I have known for years. I think I get on better with men rather than woman because I am not into bitching about others and I hate holding grudges once an argument is over that should be it but some females just don't give up. When I went back to college I never knew anyone and I was in a room with other people all of different ages, some where mature students like me, some where aged about 18 & 19, but I knew I was going to be with most of these people for 3 years so I made an effort to try and get along with them. I was surprised to find out that most of the group were as nervous as I was. Out of the class of 24 only 8 of us completed the three years and we still keep in touch.

Thats like me, i find it so much easier to make friends with men. Like none of the girls like me very much in my form as i have never made and effort with them as i just dont have anything in common and they are so perfect, well they think they are any way, but the lads bar one are great, we have great conversations in form and about other things as well as football.

[Abbie]

Hmm I dont know im good sometimes and other time sIm rubbish, Like well this is going to sound strange bt its easier on the internet like on forums like these, but its harder when your face to face. But then again I think it depends on the type of situation your in when you make friends.

[Chloe O'brien]

I share an office with 12 men and yes there can be a lot of sexist coments and foul language, but most of the time they are a great bunch to work with. I do talk to a number of women who work in the college, but some of them can be really snooty and snobby, if you are passing them in the corridor and say good morning or good afternoon they look at you as if you have 2 heads. I'm sorry I was not brought up to be ignorant and I won't pass anyone at work without a smile or a hello. but if you say hello to a male they will say hi back. Maybe it's me as most of the jobs I have had since leaving school have been in a mainly man dominated environment that I feel I get on better with men than women.

[Abigail]

I find men easier to have a conversation and a laugh with than women. Men don't bitch about people or start arguments for no reason. They never get PMT and seem to take criticism better than women. Women are always in competition with each other which I hate.
Men are easier to make friends with as well.

[Kim]

I'm no good at all. Everything at school has taken away my confidence and I even try to avoid approaching the teachers to ask them for something. I started speaking to a mate of a mate on MSN once, spoke to her for 2 months before it was our mate's party, but there was a girl much more chatty than me there, and I hardly said anything.

I think it's easier on forums too Abbie, that way people speak to you before they judge you, which is the problem I have at school. People at home say I'm really loud but those at school think I'm really quiet, it's the whole confidence thing.

[di marco]

i think ive definitely got a lot better at making new friends but my confidence still means that i dont really like talking to new people. i got better once i started uni as i didnt know anyone there and most people are in the same boat as you, but it still scares me talking to new people for the first time

[Abbie]

I think I have improved over the years as I find that Im more comfortable talking to people and it mainly improve when I moved but also at dancing cos there are so mnay new people joining and just generally at school I find myslef talking to people more often that I dont really talk to, or dont know that well.