Your sexuality?

[feelingyellow]

I was curious...

I'm 14... I know one bi person at my school, she's quite cool and she does actually seem bi. I know some emos... who like aren't bi but say they are cos well they're attention seekers :rolleyes:

Ooo and another emo girl at my school is apparently a lesbian though she's not like saying she is... people think she's in love with her best mate, bless lol.

I'm not bi, even if I jokingly say I am :p

I know one girl, who has kissed two girls - she was drunk apparently... :rolleyes:

And another who had a girl come on to, but she apparently 'isn't' :hmm:

And also another one who apparently kisses both girls and boys when they're drunk cos they come on to her... but she's not drunk herself... :rolleyes:

So what sexuality are you? :D

Ooo btw this is my first poll! :eek: :D

[shannisrules]

im staright have been all my life :D and no im not going to change and no im not bi :p

[feelingyellow]

im staright have been all my life :D and no im not going to change and no im not bi :p

You never know hunni, one day it could change... just like Sonia in EE :lol:

[CrazyLea]

I know one girl, who has kissed two girls - she was drunk apparently...
I was drunk off my face, both times lmfao :p


And another who had a girl come on to, but she apparently 'isn't'
Yeah Nic ;-)

But yeah, i'm straight :)

[shannisrules]

You never know hunni, one day it could change... just like Sonia in EE

well luckily we're not in the land of soaps are we , and i might change later in life who knows

[xCharliex]

Im very very curious so i wont put Bi because i have never been in that situation before, yeah snogged a few girl pals but who doesnt, most of my close friends know i fancy girls! I think everyone has a tiny crush on abother girl, normally a celeb! So yeah im curious :D ive put not sure even though im closer to bi lol

[feelingyellow]

I was drunk off my face, both times lmfao :p


Yeah Nic ;-)

But yeah, i'm straight :)

Lmao Lea... now everyone knows it's you :p And sure you were :rolleyes:

Stop blantaley pointing everyone out haha :p

[CrazyLea]

yeah snogged a few girl pals but who doesnt
See Emmie, everyone does it!


I think everyone has a tiny crush on abother girl, normally a celeb! So yeah im curious
I agree, Emmie, you have a girl crush on Kelly Clarkson, don't deny it :p Although with people it could be just admiration, but i'm not so sure lol!

[shannisrules]

Stop blantaley pointing everyone out haha

yes i thought we siad no mention of names!

[feelingyellow]

Im very very curious so i wont put Bi because i have never been in that situation before, yeah snogged a few girl pals but who doesnt, most of my close friends know i fancy girls! I think everyone has a tiny crush on abother girl, normally a celeb! So yeah im curious :D ive put not sure even though im closer to bi lol

Lol aww yay, our first bi... sort of :D I have a bit of a 'girl crush' on Kelly Clarkson... but never snogged any of my mates or anything... we're just the sort lol, well more they're not haha :p

[feelingyellow]

See Emmie, everyone does it!


I agree, Emmie, you have a girl crush on Kelly Clarkson, don't deny it :p Although with people it could be just admiration, but i'm not so sure lol!

Except me :( :p

Lmao I'm not... :p Yeah it is just admiration... nothing lesbian about it! :D :p

[Tori]

i'm straight and haven't had a reason to question it, although i could later on but well... no guys seem to like me so not really had a reason!

[feelingyellow]

i'm straight and haven't had a reason to question it, although i could later on but well... no guys seem to like me so not really had a reason!

Yeah I haven't actually had a boyfriend well like proper... ever tbh lol, I've fallen for guys... maybe they've fallen for me haha - but never anything proper so for I know I could be lesbian, bi... but I haven't been in a serious relationship so I don't really know at the moment.

[Cornishbabe]

Im bi and proud of it. Ive been out with both guys and girls, I tend to fancy females more than I fancy males. but I seem to have relationships with more guys/

[leanne27]

i voted bisexual for me even though im pregnant i just ended up with a guy that's all even though im actually not with him anymore either! lol

[feelingyellow]

Im bi and proud of it. Ive been out with both guys and girls, I tend to fancy females more than I fancy males. but I seem to have relationships with more guys/

Wow, I would never have expected you to be bi... you've always seemed quite straight to me, lol. Hmm I thought it would be more relationships with girls as they're the same sex as you so they're easier to relate to than guys. :hmm:

[feelingyellow]

i voted bisexual for me even though im pregnant i just ended up with a guy that's all even though im actually not with him anymore either! lol

Lol, so have you actually ever fancied/done anything with girls? If you don't mind me asking ;)

[leanne27]

i have had quite a big crush on a girl before and made out with a girl - but ive always been attracted to relasonships with guys more i see them as being something permananant whereas with a girl something more like flings and only temporary.

[feelingyellow]

i have had quite a big crush on a girl before and made out with a girl - but ive always been attracted to relasonships with guys more i see them as being something permananant whereas with a girl something more like flings and only temporary.

Ah right, yeah I suppose as with guys they can start a family with you. Girls can too... but not like a proper one as it would have to be adoption.

[leanne27]

yeah exactly actually my family still dont know I've never gone public with it really just something i always knew deep down but decided to just keep quiet.

[feelingyellow]

yeah exactly actually my family still dont know I've never gone public with it really just something i always knew deep down but decided to just keep quiet.

Aww, if you ever were in a proper relationship with a girl would you go public and tell your family?

[leanne27]

probably but certain members would definately disown me - they have very old fashioned views about things

[feelingyellow]

probably but certain members would definately disown me - they have very old fashioned views about things

Aww how stupid! :mad: Do you think they'd eventually come round?
My parents aren't too keen on gays, bis and stuff... I don't know if they have anything against them or they just think I'm too young to understand.
Just remembered, I know a guy who's gay but I think he's probably bi... I used to be friends with him years ago and he always seemed a bit gay... but like a bit straight too.

[leanne27]

my mum isnt homaphobic but she doesn't approve of lesbians which is weired as she's fine about gay blokes:searchme: i dont know why, and then my Gran would totally hate me im currently in a new casual relasonship with someone dark skinned and she even disaprooves of that! which is totally ridiculas! :angry:

[feelingyellow]

my mum isnt homaphobic but she doesn't approve of lesbians which is weired as she's fine about gay blokes:searchme: i dont know why, and then my Gran would totally hate me im currently in a new casual relasonship with someone dark skinned and she even disaprooves of that! which is totally ridiculas! :angry:

OK your mum is a bit weird... and grr that's so racist of your gran! It's not about what colour the person is or what sexuality they are - it's actually the person themselves!

[Kim]

I'm straight. Wasn't sure a year or so ago as I didn't fancy anyone but now I fancy a couple of boys that are in some of my classes.

[Cornishbabe]

Wow, I would never have expected you to be bi... you've always seemed quite straight to me, lol. Hmm I thought it would be more relationships with girls as they're the same sex as you so they're easier to relate to than guys. :hmm:

No not really I dunno why. Most girls i like either only see me as a mate or we decide that it just wouldnt work properly.

[feelingyellow]

No not really I dunno why. Most girls i like either only see me as a mate or we decide that it just wouldnt work properly.

Ah right, well maybe one day you'll find the right girl who it will work out with :D

[feelingyellow]

I'm straight. Wasn't sure a year or so ago as I didn't fancy anyone but now I fancy a couple of boys that are in some of my classes.

Yeah a couple of years ago I just didn't really fancy any boys and all my mates did, so I wasn't sure... but then I got more into my teens and started liking everyone lol - though tbh I'm not really one who goes for looks, more personality. :)

[Cornishbabe]

yeh:) i hope so. tho i know illl eventulary end up getting married to a guy coz i want kids so much

[feelingyellow]

yeh:) i hope so. tho i know illl eventulary end up getting married to a guy coz i want kids so much

Ah yeah... what would happen though if you fell really deeply in love with a girl who was perfect for you? What would you do about kids then?

[Cornishbabe]

prob have a sperm donation. coz i know i want kids so much.

[shannisrules]

Ah yeah... what would happen though if you fell really deeply in love with a girl who was perfect for you? What would you do about kids then?

you could always do that sperm donar thing i believ its called the sperm bank too lol the just use one of your eggs and bingo out pops the baby....not quite like that infact i havnt a clue how they do it but you know.....

[feelingyellow]

prob have a sperm donation. coz i know i want kids so much.

Ah right, but what if you both wanted the kid to be yours? Who's egg would you use? Or can two eggs be in one sperm or something :hmm:


you could always do that sperm donar thing i believ its called the sperm bank too lol the just use one of your eggs and bingo out pops the baby....not quite like that infact i havnt a clue how they do it but you know.....

Lmao Nicole! They take a sperm and insert it into the mother, she gets pregnant and then 9 months later the baby pops out :p I think that's how it happens lol.

[Cornishbabe]

lol you can have a baby each:)

[feelingyellow]

lol you can have a baby each:)

Lol so you'll have one... and she'll have one? Is that correct or have I made everything confusing? :lol:

[Jessie Wallace]

Not much point in me typing this as i think most of you know that i'm Bi-sexual anyway :-)

[feelingyellow]

Not much point in me typing this as i think most of you know that i'm Bi-sexual anyway :-)

:eek: I didn't know! You've never mentioned boyfriends... or girlfriends though... I just never would have thought you bi-sexual - always thought you had to be straight... you just seem it lol.

[Jessie Wallace]

Wow, someone who didn't know! Now Emmie i thought you knew everything!

I don't have a boyfriend or girl friend now, haven't for a long time, but my last was a boy.

[Rach33]

I'm bi-sexual most of my mates know, my brother knows but I haven't told any of my other family members I've had relationships with both men and woman I'm just not too fussy I guess

[emma_strange]

I was curious...

I'm 14... I know one bi person at my school, she's quite cool and she does actually seem bi. I know some emos... who like aren't bi but say they are cos well they're attention seekers :rolleyes:

Ooo and another emo girl at my school is apparently a lesbian though she's not like saying she is... people think she's in love with her best mate, bless lol.

I'm not bi, even if I jokingly say I am :p

I know one girl, who has kissed two girls - she was drunk apparently... :rolleyes:

And another who had a girl come on to, but she apparently 'isn't' :hmm:

And also another one who apparently kisses both girls and boys when they're drunk cos they come on to her... but she's not drunk herself... :rolleyes:

So what sexuality are you? :D

Ooo btw this is my first poll! :eek: :D

Wheni was at school i didnt know many bi/gay people, but now i'm at college i would say half my friends are bi/gay/lesbian. I don't thik you can tell if people 'seem' bi or gay. There just the same people really.

I don't think you can really tell if people are just saying it or not either. Sure some people might be, but someactually might, and just dont have a boyfriend/girlfriend, and because of this are judged to be just saying it because there not with anyone.

I dont really see anything wrone with kissing girls (or boys) when drunk, its just the same as kissing boys (or girls) really. I'm straight, but never say never really. I don't think anyone should rigidly state their sexuality, because you can never tell who you will fall for. I mean, i'm sure we've all fallen for people who we wouldnt normally.

[willow]

i am straight, i have done the kissing my mates when drunk though quite a few times!!!! its just a bit of fun

[leanne27]

OK your mum is a bit weird... and grr that's so racist of your gran! It's not about what colour the person is or what sexuality they are - it's actually the person themselves!


I know its weired, not only them but other older members of the family would be disgusted by it as their totally a different generation and view things so unfairly no sex before marriage that sort of thing

[feelingyellow]

Wow, someone who didn't know! Now Emmie i thought you knew everything!

I don't have a boyfriend or girl friend now, haven't for a long time, but my last was a boy.

I thought I knew everything too... it turns out I was wrong *feels ashamed*
Oh right, just out of curiosity what do you prefer to have in a relationship - boyfriend or girlfriend?

[feelingyellow]

Wheni was at school i didnt know many bi/gay people, but now i'm at college i would say half my friends are bi/gay/lesbian. I don't thik you can tell if people 'seem' bi or gay. There just the same people really.

I don't think you can really tell if people are just saying it or not either. Sure some people might be, but someactually might, and just dont have a boyfriend/girlfriend, and because of this are judged to be just saying it because there not with anyone.

I dont really see anything wrone with kissing girls (or boys) when drunk, its just the same as kissing boys (or girls) really. I'm straight, but never say never really. I don't think anyone should rigidly state their sexuality, because you can never tell who you will fall for. I mean, i'm sure we've all fallen for people who we wouldnt normally.

Hmm I like to think I can tell if people seem stuff or not, cos it makes me sound smarter :lol:

Yeah my mate thought I was a lesbian just because I've never had a boyfriend (I lied there... I have but they were years ago with some guys I still go to school with - rather embarassing) which really made me mad, cos I don't want a boyfriend - if I like someone I'll ask them out or wait til someone askes me out.

Yeah I suppose, but sometimes when someone is drunk they reveal the real side of them as they have no idea what they're doing, whereas when they're sober they do and they stop themselves...

Yeah although I'm sure I'm straight at the moment, I think that could change in years to come as I'm still quite young and one guy/girl could change your sexuality...

[feelingyellow]

I know its weired, not only them but other older members of the family would be disgusted by it as their totally a different generation and view things so unfairly no sex before marriage that sort of thing

Ah right, so stupid - the world has changed a lot since their day.

Will you just keep your secret forever?

[CrazyLea]

Not much point in me typing this as i think most of you know that i'm Bi-sexual anyway :-)

I never knew either :p you've never mentioned it lol :p but cool!! hehe!

[leanne27]

Ah right, so stupid - the world has changed a lot since their day.

Will you just keep your secret forever?

my best friend has knows, but no one else i dont know i dont find it that much of an issue as yet seen as ive never had a proper relasonship with a girl and am contented enough dating men, its more fantasies of women than wanting to be in relasonships with them if you get what i mean

[Jessie Wallace]

I thought I knew everything too... it turns out I was wrong *feels ashamed*
Oh right, just out of curiosity what do you prefer to have in a relationship - boyfriend or girlfriend?

It depends on who the person is. I can think of a few men and woman i'd like to go out with!

[Jessie Wallace]

I never knew either :p you've never mentioned it lol :p but cool!! hehe!

Deary me, have you been asleep too! I talk to you about things all the time, i can't believe you never knew.

[alan45]

Dont knock bisexuality



It doubles your chances of a date:D

[diamond1]

Dont knock bisexuality



It doubles your chances of a date:D

oh my gosh that was funny :lol: :rotfl: :lol:

[Jessie Wallace]

Dont knock bisexuality



It doubles your chances of a date:D

Shame it never seems to help for me, man i must be really ugly! lol

[diamond1]

if it helps dear diedre has a dating page up and running but theres some ight weirdo's on there screw sexualty changes I think after a visit on there people will change to beastilalty :thumbsdow

also theres faceparty and stuff im sure you know all this but you know I thought id come up with a few suggestions:)

[CrazyLea]

Dawn you're pretty enough, you don't need to use no dating website :nono:

[Jessie Wallace]

I won't be using a website hun, don't worry, if i'm meant to be with someone, they will turn up, there's no hurry.

[Siobhan]

I won't be using a website hun, don't worry, if i'm meant to be with someone, they will turn up, there's no hurry.

good woman yourself.. when you are good and ready the right person will turn up.. it always happens when you are not looking and least expect it for some reason :searchme: but at least you double your chances

[Jojo]

I won't be using a website hun, don't worry, if i'm meant to be with someone, they will turn up, there's no hurry. I'm a firm believer in that there is someone special out there for everyone hun - that special someone will come along when you least expect it :D

[Jessie Wallace]

I'm a firm believer in that there is someone special out there for everyone hun - that special someone will come along when you least expect it :D

Here hoping huni, but there is only so much hope one person can have! lol

[Jojo]

Here hoping huni, but there is only so much hope one person can have! lol You're still young yet !! Plenty of time for them to find you :D

[Jessie Wallace]

We'll see huni, we'll see, but i doubt it.

[diamond1]

as the discussion is started...how did everyone who this applies to realize they where bi or gay I mean did it just happen or over time?

like you saw your best friend walking towards you and your heart started racing and felt butterflys lol

I really find it intresting because it must be really weird at first to adjust for anyone whos experienced it.

[Skits]

as the discussion is started...how did everyone who this applies to realize they where bi or gay I mean did it just happen or over time?

like you saw your best friend walking towards you and your heart started racing and felt butterflys lol

I really find it intresting because it must be really weird at first to adjust for anyone whos experienced it.

yeah i'd like to know too. i know lots of gay men and they seem to have always been gay but i know a couple of lesbians and they only found out when they were in their early twenties.
i'm straight. i voted in the poll earlier but forgot to post.

[feelingyellow]

Good question diamond1, it's hard enough knowing whether you like someone of the opposite sex let alone the same!

[Rach33]

I don't know when i first realised I was first Bi it just sort of crept up on me that I was attracted to both men and women, the relationships I have with them are very different

[diamond1]

aww wow (sorry that must sound odd)

so im assuming you've gone all the way with both genders this is really personal so please feel free to give me an online slap but honestly men or women whos the better lover? its a question a lot of us will never know :lol:

I think if i was a lesbian I would be terrified to say anything anyway to those who matter to me

[Cornishbabe]

In my opinion women are the better lovers. You know more about what makes each other happy and that. well tahts just my experience

[alan45]

I agree I would rather make love to a woman than a man. (not that I have tried any men:sick: )

[leanne27]

i kind of always knew i was bisexual - i always felt slightly different to other people and kind of realised why when i was about 13, i remember watching a programme and one character was a lesbian in it and had a girlfriend and i remember thinking how i would maybe like to have been that character - silly things like that made me realise.

[crazygirl]

im straight but i dont have a problem with people who have flings with the same sex well my best mate he is male and gay

[diamond1]

yeah i have no problem with anyone whos gay or whatever. Ive spoke to quite a few gays and things i really dont have a problem with anyone and just treat them how I would like to be treated
if I was in their position...besides anyone who mocks might not realize that those gay people are most likely happeir than most people because it takes years for people to truly understand themselfs even then its not 100% and people who have come out must have some guts and they must have found alot more of themselfs to actually go through with it and bi sexuals must be the happiest best of both worlds (I actually remember sbbb kyle saying that:rotfl: )


.....and I watch sugar rush as well :lol:

[hannah-mj]

Right, Ive just read this whole thread, Just for emmie!

And right, Dawn I didnt know you were bi!! For starters lol.

Right, I have no problem ATALL with bi or gay people, I have 4 bi girl mates, 2 bi boy mates, who i suspect are just gay... [so camp] and i love them all to peices.

Im not bi..whatever emmie thinks! Lols.
Some people think i am bi, because when im with lads [yes even my boyfriend] and bi girls, i dont mind saying if a girl is nice looking or whatever, so some people think that weird, but im just comfortable with my sexuality. =]]

Emmie says i have whats called 'girl crushes'. I dont think i do...can someone explain what this is lol?


I dont know, one day i may be bi.. i doubt it.. Highly, but if i was, i wouldnt mind =]] T'is cool x

[Jessie Wallace]

Ok, your not the only one that didn't know, it would appear!

[pip_kin]

im straight i think i have got off with most of girl mates when we have been drunk its just a laugh really i dont think its the same as getting with a guy either! one of really good friends is bi though and i think my best friend might be a lesbian lol all to their own i say!!

[suziesangel]

I'm bi and proud of it. I've been with my girlfriend nearly 7 months and i'm really happy.

[Mr Humphries]

Ok, I am sorry for starting a new thread !!

Well its official then I just voted and I am the only Gay on the board !!

:lol: :cheer: :lol: :cheer: :lol: :cheer:

[crazygirl]

please take no notice of Mr H he is a very confussed man he dosnt know wht he wants.....personally i think he might be bi has he seems to have a thing about mrs Slocombe's pussy!!

[Mr Humphries]

please take no notice of Mr H he is a very confussed man he dosnt know wht he wants.....personally i think he might be bi has he seems to have a thing about mrs Slocombe's pussy!!

I have to admit, I am a complete fan of Mrs Slocombe's Pussy, and I can safely say that is has tickled the fancy of half of England over the years, Are You Being Served's play on words is simple great. The changing of words is completely weird.

For example in the 50's and 60's Queer meant to feel ill and now it means homosexual.

Gay meant, happy then meant a homosexual and now if you say don't be gay it means to be weird or stupid !!

Mrs Slocombe's Pussy is her lovely Pussycat ! If anyone finds it offensive, then you should not, because it is not meant in that way.

And how very dare you Crazygirl imply I am Bi-Sexual ! Is a vicous lie

[crazygirl]

i cant answer back because im laughing too much :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
i will answer when i have calmed down

[Scorpio_Girl]

What a curious thread. And what a coincidence, I was at the city centre today and in the toilets there were these two young teenagers practically snogging the face off eachother. Oh did i mention they were girls?

I was in shock, they were just so young.. eh, what do i know.

[Mr Humphries]

What a curious thread. And what a coincidence, I was at the city centre today and in the toilets there were these two young teenagers practically snogging the face off eachother. Oh did i mention they were girls?

I was in shock, they were just so young.. eh, what do i know.

Trust you to find this thread ! :rotfl: :rotfl:

It's a funny old world, but girls do that to empress boys these days!

No one should do anything if they feel uncomfortable with it or be forced to do something just to get someones attention!!

[crazygirl]

:eek: omg :eek: how young were they? what did they do when they saw you?

[Mr Humphries]

:eek: omg :eek: how young were they? what did they do when they saw you?

Oi ! Make the shepherd's pie !

Don't :eek: either !

[Scorpio_Girl]

:eek: omg :eek: how young were they? what did they do when they saw you?
That's the thing- I was expecting them to move aside (I was just fixing my hair looking at the windows) but they were like hurrying themselves up. One of them was just like giving a few more kisses over the other's face.. They looked like 14-15 year olds.

This was in a Girls' public toilets- so they weren't doing it for any guys.. :confused:

[crazygirl]

oh my goodness gracious me that is young but at that age curiosity gets in the way!!
but you would think they would be embarrassed when they saw you and run!

[Jada-GDR]

no reason for them to be embarrased :searchme:

[crazygirl]

because personally i would blush

[Mr Humphries]

no reason for them to be embarrased :searchme:

Its funny because I would be embarrased if I saw two blokes, but not if I saw too girls ! Weird I suppose

[crazygirl]

Its funny because I would be embarrassed if I saw two blokes, but not if I saw too girls ! Weird I suppose :confused: you would be embarrassed if you saw to blokes kissing but not if you saw 2 girls kissing?

[Scorpio_Girl]

Its funny because I would be embarrased if I saw two blokes, but not if I saw too girls ! Weird I suppose
I find it even more weird that you think that WITH the signature 'The only Gay on the boards' :p

[X~xLaylax~X]

im straight ! but might change as im only 14 , i dont think i have ever been curious either . well actually i was a little bit at my idol but im not gonan say who that is lol but found out it was juts that i thought she was amazing and pretty . girls can always say to there friends ohh ur so pretty i wish i was you or something but guys would never say that would they .i think girls wouldnt take it as an offence if someone jokily called them gay but lads would !

[Mr Humphries]

im straight ! but might change as im only 14 , i dont think i have ever been curious either . well actually i was a little bit at my idol but im not gonan say who that is lol but found out it was juts that i thought she was amazing and pretty . girls can always say to there friends ohh ur so pretty i wish i was you or something but guys would never say that would they .i think girls wouldnt take it as an offence if someone jokily called them gay but lads would !

Oh completely agree, girls don't care, but boys get totally mad, if you call them Gay !

[crazygirl]

Oh completely agree, girls don't care, but boys get totally mad, if you call them Gay ! guys do get mad if you call them gay but i think its because secretly all men have a streak of gayness in them they just wont admit it :lol:

[Mr Humphries]

I have to say that half of the men I have had relations with, have been Straight! Just remember boys, your two pints away from it !

[DaVeyWaVey]

I'm feeling quite confused at the moment...this is the first time i've ever revealed that to anyone..but i am quite curious...i don't know!

[CrazyLea]

Quite natural Dave.. think we've all been there.. right? :cool:

[Jessie Wallace]

Don't worry about it Dave, there's nothing wrong with that. You can't help how you feel. Now all you have to decide is, if you want to do anything about it or just leave things as they are.
I think most people go through this stage tho, wether they are willing to admit it or not.

[Amber]

Just like Dave, I've never admitted it to anyone but I am unsure. I do believe that you can never say that you have a definate sexuality. I mean, you can never know who you're going to fall for, so why choose a category to put yourself in and restrict yourself?

Sorry if it doesn't make sense. I understood it in my head.. :p

[Tori]

Just like Dave, I've never admitted it to anyone but I am unsure. I do believe that you can never say that you have a definate sexuality. I mean, you can never know who you're going to fall for, so why choose a category to put yourself in and restrict yourself?

Sorry if it doesn't make sense. I understood it in my head.. :p
I too am unsure at the moment, like Davey and Amber and I think you never can have a definite sexuality because before some things happened a few weeks ago i was sure, but things can make you think and reconsider, and i believe this will always be true.

[DaVeyWaVey]

Just like Dave, I've never admitted it to anyone but I am unsure. I do believe that you can never say that you have a definate sexuality. I mean, you can never know who you're going to fall for, so why choose a category to put yourself in and restrict yourself?

Sorry if it doesn't make sense. I understood it in my head.. :p

I understand what you mean Amber and i do agree with you, and i agree with Vikki too, some things happen which make you question your sexuality and i think this is what has happened to me.

[Pinkbanana]

I've never admitted it to anyone but I am unsure. I do believe that you can never say that you have a definate sexuality. I mean, you can never know who you're going to fall for, so why choose a category to put yourself in and restrict yourself?


I think you can have a definate sexuality and I am and have always been straight. I think there are different types of love you can have for people...and sometimes, especially when younger you can get these (feelings) confused, it becomes blurred.

I think lots of peeps at one time or another are confused about their sexuality and their identity in general...who they are. Discovering and being comfortable with yourself....it comes together as you grow up (both mentally and physically).:)

BTW if the above doesnt make sense, its because Ive overdosed on the recommended dosage of the ol' covonia cough medicine...:sick:

[DaVeyWaVey]

What your saying makes sense PB, i'll wait a while i think and then see what happens from there...:)

[Jessie Wallace]

What your saying makes sense PB, i'll wait a while i think and then see what happens from there...:)

Good idea, there;'s nothing wrong with waiting. But in the end your heart will lead you to the right path. It might not be the right path in the long run, but for that time, it will be.

[DaVeyWaVey]

Just thought i'd give you an update guys. I am confident i know where my feelings lie now. I'm gay and just thought i should tell you all, i'm so glad to get it off my chest now.

[CrazyLea]

Awww nice one for coming out Dave :D Got your eyes on anyone in particular? :p

[DaVeyWaVey]

I'm so glad i've done it Lea! I was so nervous telling you lot on here, but yeah, i fancied this guy, don't see him very often, but when i do, i feel something that i've never felt before!

[Jessie Wallace]

Wooo runs and hugs Dave, it takes a lot to tell people huni. So now expect all us girls to come asking you for advise, and does my bum look big in this questions, coz gay men are the best with all that :D

[alan45]

Dont know you Dave only on here but well done for making what must have been a difficult decision for you:clap:

[Abbie]

Awww good to hear that your sure of your sexuality and told us all, must of toom alot to be able to do that :)

[Siobhan]

Just thought i'd give you an update guys. I am confident i know where my feelings lie now. I'm gay and just thought i should tell you all, i'm so glad to get it off my chest now.

good for you Davey!! and I am glad you have the confidence to say who you are!!

[Debs]

Just thought i'd give you an update guys. I am confident i know where my feelings lie now. I'm gay and just thought i should tell you all, i'm so glad to get it off my chest now.

Well done Davey for telling us all and good luck with your 'hopefully' new man, let us know how it goes xxx

[Skits]

fair play to you davey for making your decision and telling people.

[Meh]

Wooo runs and hugs Dave, it takes a lot to tell people huni. So now expect all us girls to come asking you for advise, and does my bum look big in this questions, coz gay men are the best with all that :D

You don't need to be gay to tell you that.

Its huge btw :lol:

[Jessie Wallace]

Wooo runs and hugs Dave, it takes a lot to tell people huni. So now expect all us girls to come asking you for advise, and does my bum look big in this questions, coz gay men are the best with all that :D

You don't need to be gay to tell you that.

Its huge btw :lol:

Straight me are usless at wheather things look good on a woman, and yes it is TM, so is there something your not telling us!!! :p

[littlemo]

Can i ask u guys a question?

I've thought i was bisexual/lesbian for a while, but i just didn't want to put a label on it cause it's scary, and it's difficult to take back if you say that you are something, that your not.

But the thing is I have this gay friend. He's my best friend, we've become really close, but i'm not sure whether i feel more for him than just a friend.

This is gonna sound like a ridiculous question, but is it a possible to be a lesbian, but still have feelings for a bloke?! I don't really know how i feel.

[Jessie Wallace]

I have similar problems littlemo, that's why i tend to label myself bi-sexual, rather than straight or gay.
I've only ever had relationship with a woman - well if you can call it a relationship!, and a few with men, but i usually find myself looking at women more than men on tv and stuff, but if i'm out in a pub then i tend to look at the men.
So basically what i'm want to say is just follow your heart, yor you'll never really know and it'll bug you for ever.

[littlemo]

Yeah thanx very much for for the advice. :)

What do you or anyone else think about this friend of mine? I know everybody's different, but... I don't have sexual feelings for him at all. Unless he actually touches me (in a playful way obviously cause he's gay). But sometimes when im with him, i feel something. I can't explain what it is. I find it easy to ignore it at the moment. But i do feel a kind of jealousy, when he's hanging out with his other friends. And i'm not included. Which i also think might be a friendship thing, that any normal person would feel.

I just don't know.

[Chloe O'brien]

Just thought i'd give you an update guys. I am confident i know where my feelings lie now. I'm gay and just thought i should tell you all, i'm so glad to get it off my chest now.

sorry to be a bit late on this post, but good on you dave for standing up for your feelings. I hope that this lad has feelings for you as you are a wonderful young man and we will always adore you on here.

[Bryan]

lol talk about dragging up an old post!

erm yeah, dont really know how to put it, i'm curious i suppose, and i have to admit i find some men attractive. couldn't imagine myself being in a relationship with a man at all, that's just not for me really. so dunno really wouldn't know if i should say im bisexual, don't really believe in labels and all of that

[CHARITY]

I Think women are beautiful and sexy, but i am only sexually attracted to men.:cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:

[hannah-mj]

Right, Ive just read this whole thread, Just for emmie!

And right, Dawn I didnt know you were bi!! For starters lol.

Right, I have no problem ATALL with bi or gay people, I have 4 bi girl mates, 2 bi boy mates, who i suspect are just gay... [so camp] and i love them all to peices.

Im not bi..whatever emmie thinks! Lols.
Some people think i am bi, because when im with lads [yes even my boyfriend] and bi girls, i dont mind saying if a girl is nice looking or whatever, so some people think that weird, but im just comfortable with my sexuality. =]]

Emmie says i have whats called 'girl crushes'. I dont think i do...can someone explain what this is lol?


I dont know, one day i may be bi.. i doubt it.. Highly, but if i was, i wouldnt mind =]] T'is cool x

Well, how things change
I must've wrote this message over a year ago i assume, from the way i typed lol.

"I doubt it highly" I now far from doubt it highly.
It just goes to show that one person can really change your view on things, whereas some people are born bi/gay/lesbian, some peoples sexuality can be altered from what happens during there life.

Last year when i wrote that, i think it may have been even longer ago, but yeah, i had never even kissed a girl, and didnt think i would. I didnt see anything wrong with it, and was willing to try it, but just didnt think id ever 'get round to it'. But now some time on, i have definately kissed a girl, lot of girls infact, and so on..

But I still would not define myself as Bi, but as during the course of the last 1 or so years, i fell in love with a girl, totally out of my control. My experience truly does define the quote ''its not the gender you fall in love with, its the person'' and ''you cant help who you fall in love with''. I became very close to a friend, we fell in love, well i fell in love with her, not because she was a girl, but because i loved everything about her personality and who she was, i still do, but we are now no longer friends, i am not entirely sure why, heartbreaking it was/is, though. But i know that without meeting her i wouldnt have questioned my sexuality as much as i have done. Now i think is it just her? Or is it girls that i like? I know that i like boys, well i think i do. But i do question whether i like girls also.

The reason i would not class myself as bi though is because, I see being bi as more of a ''i like boys and girls'', whereas i would put myself in the open-minded category as i am more ''if it happens, it happens''.

[Chris_2k11]

well im sure alot of you already know about me, lol dunno why ive actually never said it on here just never felt the need to i suppose. seeing a guy at the moment and its going well, early days tho lol

[Jessie Wallace]

Good luck Chris, hope it goes well for you.

[DaVeyWaVey]

That sounds really sweet Hannah. I'm sorry she didn't feel the same way, but I think it is true that people feel they can't be labelled.. as you say, some people fall for the person because of who they are and their personality, and gender doesn't come into it. For other people, gender does come into consideration which is why these labels exist.

Hope things go well Chris with this guy. :)

[hannah-mj]

That sounds really sweet Hannah. I'm sorry she didn't feel the same way, but I think it is true that people feel they can't be labelled.. as you say, some people fall for the person because of who they are and their personality, and gender doesn't come into it. For other people, gender does come into consideration which is why these labels exist.

Hope things go well Chris with this guy. :)


Yeah.. i reckon she did feel the same, it was just getting i dunno.. too much i suppose, and she really didnt want people to know atall. I reckon thats why we ''fell out'' she thought of a friendship related reason to fall out, because she couldnt handle her feelings towards me. This is what everyone thinks anyway! I kind of hope she did have feelings towards me, if she didnt, god she lead me on.

I hope things go alright too with Chris and your Guy :)

[Abigail]

How are things going with you and your boyfriend Davey? Have you told your parents yet?

[Bryan]

the problem i'm facing atm is whether or not to tell my friends that i also like men, becuase it feels like im not being entirely honest with them. then again i dont want them judging me any differently, i dont know if i should becuase i'm not sure anything would ever happen with a guy anyways, so it might just all be unecessary to tell them

dont think i'd ever tell my family unless i actually was in a relationship with a man, just becuase my family are very traditional in a lot of ways, and it's not worth all the drama unless there's a reason for it. dunno really...

[Siobhan]

the problem i'm facing atm is whether or not to tell my friends that i also like men, becuase it feels like im not being entirely honest with them. then again i dont want them judging me any differently, i dont know if i should becuase i'm not sure anything would ever happen with a guy anyways, so it might just all be unecessary to tell them

dont think i'd ever tell my family unless i actually was in a relationship with a man, just becuase my family are very traditional in a lot of ways, and it's not worth all the drama unless there's a reason for it. dunno really...

don't tell anyone until you are ready.. but also remember it is nothing to be ashamed of either. You are who you are and people will like you for you and not your sexuality.

[Debs]

the problem i'm facing atm is whether or not to tell my friends that i also like men, becuase it feels like im not being entirely honest with them. then again i dont want them judging me any differently, i dont know if i should becuase i'm not sure anything would ever happen with a guy anyways, so it might just all be unecessary to tell them

dont think i'd ever tell my family unless i actually was in a relationship with a man, just becuase my family are very traditional in a lot of ways, and it's not worth all the drama unless there's a reason for it. dunno really...


If they are real friends hun, they will take it really well, your still you no matter you are attracted to.

i recently had a friend who i went to school with tell me she was gay, it was a big thing for her and i think now she feels a lot better its all out!

Good luck hun xx

[Jojo]

Bry - you don't have to tell anyone anything until you WANT to! Its your life, your decisions and unless you are in a relationship with someone, why worry about telling anyone? At the mo, it seems you are curious more than anything, which I think is something pretty much everyone goes through in life (including myself).

And if you fall in love with another guy, then be proud and shout it from the rooftops - true friends will always be there for you no matter what. Those that aren't - they aren't worth it and they certainly aren't friends x x

[Perdita]

I agree with Jojo, talk about it when you are ready and don't worry about those that will judge you on your sexuality rather than personality.

[DaVeyWaVey]

How are things going with you and your boyfriend Davey? Have you told your parents yet?

Things are going alright. He seems to think it's working out but our relationship is very awkward as we only see each other on weekends or once every few weeks, plus he lives a fair distance away and we are having a relationship behind our parents' backs. I still haven't told them and I feel quite upset about that. I feel guilty for not telling them about me or my relationship and going behind their backs, but I have tried telling my mum numerous times but I just can't tell her. I don't want to hurt my parents because I love them both and I really want to tell them, but I just can't. :( I have wrote a letter though as I feel that might be easier, and I might leave it somewhere for my mum to find and go away for a few days, so she can take the news in.

Bry - I echo what everyone else says. I can really understand and empathise with the difficulties you face trying to tell your parents, but with your friends, I personally found it a lot easier, because you can choose your friends and not your family and if your friends disown you for who you are, then they aren't really friends as your sexuality doesn't make you who you are. It's only a small part of you and doesn't change your personality or your overall individuality at all.

[DaVeyWaVey]

I came out to my mum today - she was fine with it. I am so happy. I was starting to get stressed bottling it up but now I feel free in a weird way.. :) She told me she doesn't care who I am but to not label myself too quickly as my feelings may change or I will just feel these things forever... I told her I am sexually attracted to men and think I always will be and she said she couldn't give a monkeys. :p so yay. :cheer:

[StarsOfCCTV]

Well done! :D

[CrazyLea]

Awwww nice one Dave! I'm really glad sh was good about it! So proud of you hun xxxxx

[Perdita]

I think we can all relate to telling somebody something we are not sure about how they are going to take the news, so very well done Dave. :thumbsup:

[Jojo]

Well done Dave. I'm proud of you for finding the courage to talk to your mum, and proud of your mum for her reaction.

:thumbsup:

[Ruffed_lemur]

Well done Dave, and great to hear your Mum's reaction was good! :thumbsup:

[Hollie-x]

That's fab Dave!
Bet that was a huge weight lifted! :D

[Jessie Wallace]

Woop woop Dave, well done huni. If only we could all have some of the courage you do

[Pinkbanana]

Like everyone here, Im both proud and happy for you! I think your mum gave some sound advice too...don't be too quick to give yourself a label....just be you, and see how things pan out!!! :)

[Debs]

well done davey!

[di marco]

well done davey, and im glad your mum was so supportive :)

[Chloe O'brien]

Well done on crossing that huge hurdle in telling your Mum Davey. I like everyone else is proud of you and so glad that your mum was so understanding.

[soap-lover-xx]

i think i might be a lesbian/ bi ?
can someone give me some advise on how i can be sure ?
thanks

[Tori]

I think there's really only one way to find out: have a same sex experience. I don't think there's really any other way of findong out!

[Hollie-x]

Do you have the same feelings for both sex?
Or do you just think women are more attractive?
Have you ever had an experience with both?

I think as said above you can only be 100% sure from experience.
x

[Abbie]

Well done Davey you must be really pleased now :D

[soap-lover-xx]

:searchme: please someone help me i think i might be a lesbian but im not sure, i have been having feelings for one particular girl recently, what shall i do ?

[DaVeyWaVey]

How old are you? It could be a passing phase but if you have had feelings for girls in the past or you feel really deeply about this girl, then you could be a lesbian. Have you felt anything towards men before?

[Pinkbanana]

:searchme: please someone help me i think i might be a lesbian but im not sure, i have been having feelings for one particular girl recently, what shall i do ?

Don't be sooo keen to give yourself a label......just cause you have feeling for one girl doesnt mean you are going to be gay....when you are young its easy to get all those feelings and emotions muddled up, and trying to define yourself/sexuality isn't helpful....just be true to yourself (ie, be yourself) and everything else will start to slot in to place...:)

[HoneyBee]

I'm straight, and I intend to stay that way. :D

[Hannelene]

I'm a lesbian, I don't hate men as some people think most lesbians do just for the chemistry is not there for me to fancy a man :(
I get along with men on a friendship level and most of my close friends have and are men.
I'm out to my family and friends - it's no big secret as at the end of the day I am just me living my life as I want to hoping to one day to find love just everyone else out there.x

[Trinity]

Ladypink, it is amazing how many old threads have been resurrected since you joined the boards!

I am glad that you are happy in your own skin and that your family accept you for who you are.

[Tori]

I have recently stopped fighting against my own feelings and trying to hide them. So, yeah, the endless hiding has stopped: Just coming out is the worst part of all I feel!

[Hannelene]

I have been going through the boards and I have come across so many interesting topics that have been dormant so I decided to reply to a few.

Thanks for your comment :) Really appreciated

[Hannelene]

I have recently stopped fighting against my own feelings and trying to hide them. So, yeah, the endless hiding has stopped: Just coming out is the worst part of all I feel!

Really? Why?

[DaVeyWaVey]

I have recently stopped fighting against my own feelings and trying to hide them. So, yeah, the endless hiding has stopped: Just coming out is the worst part of all I feel!

I'm glad you've accepted who you are to yourself. I found 'coming out' to be the worst part so if you ever want to talk about it, feel free to PM me if you like.

I'm glad you are happy with who you are Ladypink :)

[Abigail]

Have you told your dad yet Dave?

[DaVeyWaVey]

Have you told your dad yet Dave?

Yeah, I told him a month or so ago. His reaction was "Oh right cool, well are you making a cup of tea?" lol I can't believe I worried so much over how he would react. I count myself lucky as I know some people aren't so lucky when they tell their parents.

[Hannelene]

Thanks Davey :)

I must of been the only person who wasn't worried about coming out. I think because I knew what my parents and friends were like and their views to same sex relationships that I felt at ease. Not all friends were easy going some panicked thinking I would make a pass at them. Until I drummed it into their heads that I don't find ALL women attractive. I'm not a predator and don't make passes at ALL women! I have friends that have not been so lucky and have had to hide who they are. For religious reasons and through fear which breaks my hearts.

I am not one to go in for labels and when I meet people I don't introduce myself and then blurt out what I am. I hope when I meet someone that they meet and accept me - if their is a need for me to reveal my dating preference I do sometimes I don't. I hate to feel like I am forcing my views on someone else.

[Abigail]

Not all friends were easy going some panicked thinking I would make a pass at them. Until I drummed it into their heads that I don't find ALL women attractive. I'm not a predator and don't make passes at ALL women! I have friends that have not been so lucky and have had to hide who they are. For religious reasons and through fear which breaks my hearts.


It's interesting you say that. You wouldn't try it on with all your male mates if you were straight so why should it be different if you're gay?

[DaVeyWaVey]

Thanks Davey :)

I must of been the only person who wasn't worried about coming out. I think because I knew what my parents and friends were like and their views to same sex relationships that I felt at ease. Not all friends were easy going some panicked thinking I would make a pass at them. Until I drummed it into their heads that I don't find ALL women attractive. I'm not a predator and don't make passes at ALL women! I have friends that have not been so lucky and have had to hide who they are. For religious reasons and through fear which breaks my hearts.

I am not one to go in for labels and when I meet people I don't introduce myself and then blurt out what I am. I hope when I meet someone that they meet and accept me - if their is a need for me to reveal my dating preference I do sometimes I don't. I hate to feel like I am forcing my views on someone else.

It's good that you weren't afraid to come out. That's a reaction I find irritating "Oh I don't mind as long as you don't try it on with me or anything" - this is what one of my friends said :rolleyes: as if I suddenly fancy them!

I am the same as you. I don't tell anyone my sexuality, unless it comes up in a conversation and they ask me then I will be honest. Aside from that, what's my business is my business. However, I told my friends and family as they deserved to know and I was comfortable sharing it on here.

[Hannelene]

One of my so called friends thought had such a HUGE ego that when I came out she asked me did I fancy her?. I said NO and she was like - why not?:lol:

I really felt the need to tell my family as I didn't want them to find out from someone else. I felt it was my place to sit down and tell them. I even made a joke of it and said it was their fault for sending me off to an all girl school!

[Bryan]

well the time has come for me to come out to my family. i have found love and i am happy, and this is the last stage of coming out for me.

it is impossible to do it face to face, becuase of the way my family are. so it looks like its going to be a letter (cowardly i know), but im finding it hard to find the words to tell them :(

[Debs]

good luck hun, im sooo glad you,ve found someone great xxxxx

[Bryan]

good luck hun, im sooo glad you,ve found someone great xxxxx

thanks, once ive sent that letter i will be so free, then ive got to wait for the call to hear what they have to say! :(

if its good then i will be on top of the world, out and proud with the best guy in the world with me forever

if its bad, i still have Nick, and we can face it together, and see what happens

i just pray they are fine with it, after all im their son and i still love them. my sexuality shouldnt come into question, but i know with my dad at least it will do! :(

[di marco]

good luck bryan :) i hope it goes well with your family

[Luna]

good luck bry

Hope everything goes well xxxx

[DaVeyWaVey]

Good luck Bryan.

I don't think writing a letter is cowardly at all - it's how you best cope with it. I wrote a letter addressed to my mum but only because I find it easier to express my feelings through writing as everything just flows out of my mind, hence why I keep a diary from time to time as well.

The advantage of writing a letter to them is it gives your parents time to absorb what you have told them and come to terms with it, then it's up to them to take the next step and make contact when they are ready.

If you told them face to face, they would be forced to act on their feelings in the spur of the moment. At least a letter will give them time to think about what you've written down. They will be able to think before they act.

I really hope it goes well for you.

[Kirsty :]]

Good luck Bryan, I think you're so brave and have every ouce of respect for you :)

...I can't even tell my family I'm seeing a guy!... I just don't do relationship talk with them, but it's getting me into really bad bother lately.

So yeah, good luck and I'm sure everything will be fine :)

[Chris_2k11]

Good Luck Bry, im sure it'll all be fine honestly.

[Chloe O'brien]

Good luck with the letter Bryan, I'm sure both parents will support you, have taken the biggets step and they will see that.

[moonstorm]

Good Luck Bry. But the most important thing is you have found love, nothing else matters. I'm sure your parents will be ok with it but if they are not please leave communicatons lines open becuase as time goes on they will be harder to re open. What I'm trying to say is if your parents do freak out then give them time to come round, please don't stop speaking to them because they don't understand straight away.

[Trinity]

All the best with your parents Bry, you have to be honest with both yourself and with them. It isn't right to have to keep such an important part of yourself secret.

As a mother I know that I would love my boys no matter what. Your sexuality is not something that you choose, and it is not something that is optional and I am sure that your parents know that.

(TBH, I would also be a bit sad that it was not something I had noticed - perhaps your parents already know?)

[Siobhan]

well the time has come for me to come out to my family. i have found love and i am happy, and this is the last stage of coming out for me.

it is impossible to do it face to face, becuase of the way my family are. so it looks like its going to be a letter (cowardly i know), but im finding it hard to find the words to tell them :(

Bry.. they probably already have an ikling and just waiting on you to tell them.. you're still the same Bry and they will love you just the same.. Best of luck and let us know how you got on... So happy you found love!

[di marco]

;676419']...I can't even tell my family I'm seeing a guy!... I just don't do relationship talk with them, but it's getting me into really bad bother lately.

lol im the same! i dont lie to my parents about it i just dont tell them, my sis does the same. i dunno why its just always been like that

[Kirsty :]]

;676419']...I can't even tell my family I'm seeing a guy!... I just don't do relationship talk with them, but it's getting me into really bad bother lately.

lol im the same! i dont lie to my parents about it i just dont tell them, my sis does the same. i dunno why its just always been like that

Well when we go out for the evening, or after work and we jsut sit in my car for hours, they ask where I was... so instead of telling them "oh yeah I've been sat in my car with my boss for God knows how long getting up to no good".. I just tell them I've been with my friends at Spoons or the Bowlplex.. but my Nan is cottoning on to the fact that something doesn't seem quite right.. btu I now feel like I'm in too deep to tell the truth ...:searchme:

[di marco]

;676583']

;676419']...I can't even tell my family I'm seeing a guy!... I just don't do relationship talk with them, but it's getting me into really bad bother lately.

lol im the same! i dont lie to my parents about it i just dont tell them, my sis does the same. i dunno why its just always been like that

Well when we go out for the evening, or after work and we jsut sit in my car for hours, they ask where I was... so instead of telling them "oh yeah I've been sat in my car with my boss for God knows how long getting up to no good".. I just tell them I've been with my friends at Spoons or the Bowlplex.. but my Nan is cottoning on to the fact that something doesn't seem quite right.. btu I now feel like I'm in too deep to tell the truth ...:searchme:

hmmm if you dont wanna carry on lying to them just tell them the truth (although tbh id probably just carry on lying!) or wait til it gets serious before you tell them. just say you didnt wanna tell them to start with cos you didnt know what was gonna happen with it so wanted to make sure first?

[Kirsty :]]

Hmm, I could, but thing is.. I don't quite know where it's going myself. I don't think it will get serious, he has this thing about commitment, not sure why... but I think it's quite deep. Anyways, I don't know.. I think it's just a phase... but it's been a 3 month phase already! So I'm all confused.. and I don't need my family on my back about it all too lol

[Abbie]

Sorry its late but good luck bryan!

[Bryan]

well i have the letter written now, and im going to post it once i get back to uni the end of next week. i do feel bad not telling them face to face, but there is no way i have the strength or courage to and its impossible to find the words when your telling them and theyre breaking down in tears or going mad. plus dont really fancy the aftermath with my dad treating me like a lepper.

[Katy]

I think its really brave letter or face to face writing it must have took courage and strength. Hope it goes well for you.

Relationship talk with parents is always difficult, especially for me, i just don't like talking about things like that. my sister can, but i can;t. Its just the way i am i think.

[Chris_2k11]

There's nothing to be ashamed of by writing a letter bry, your not doing anything wrong.

[Siobhan]

well i have the letter written now, and im going to post it once i get back to uni the end of next week. i do feel bad not telling them face to face, but there is no way i have the strength or courage to and its impossible to find the words when your telling them and theyre breaking down in tears or going mad. plus dont really fancy the aftermath with my dad treating me like a lepper.

Bry, you have to do what feels right for you.. if you can't handle telling them face to face then you are doing the right thing with sending the letter. This will give them both time to listen to what you have to say, without interuption and they can then think about how you are feeling. Best of luck Bry and try not to worry about it when letter is sent, you are doing the right thing and what is best for you. So glad you are not been someone you are not just to please others.. xxxxx

[Kim]

well i have the letter written now, and im going to post it once i get back to uni the end of next week. i do feel bad not telling them face to face, but there is no way i have the strength or courage to and its impossible to find the words when your telling them and theyre breaking down in tears or going mad. plus dont really fancy the aftermath with my dad treating me like a lepper.

I would do exactly the same in your situation Bryan. I always find that when I'm put under pressure, it doesn't matter how many times I've rehearsed something; it never turns out the way it was meant to. At least with the letter you could write it as many times as you wanted until it was exactly as you wanted it. Good luck :)

[GossipGirl]

I am a lesbian and 'came out' to my friends and family just after my 16th birthday after my parents inital shock they are gradually coming to terms with it all.