the pill with teens

[leanne27]

i actually need some advice my niece who has just turned 16 told me today she has been thinking of going on the pill, however she is still a virgin and hasn't even got a boyfriend but has become very good friends with this boy the same age as her, he is apparently always at her house, in her room, she says nothing has happened and i believe her but she just said she wants to be prepared incase anything ever did, her and this boy have become evry close and she tells me they often discuss sex in a flirty way she asked if i would go to the doctors with her,

do you think i should try and delay her choice or support her i suppose she is being responsible especially if this boy is regularly in her house and her room, she just said she wants to be safe instead of sorry incase anything ever did happen what do you think i should do?

[squillyfer]

I think you should go with her she is trying to be responsible and chances are she will sleep with him whether you go with her or not so better safe than sorry

[Kim]

I'd go with her, she might start saying you don't respect her if you don't. She is showing some maturity by making this choice as some her age are naive enough to think they can have sex and the concequences will never happen to them.

[Luna]

go with her deffo so that way she knows that if theres anything else she needs you for she know she can come to you. Even have a quiet word with her mum if you can and if you think she wouldnt overreact.

[hazey]

I would go with her and at least she is 16, and is still a virgin,which sadly seems to be rare these days.

[leanne27]

i guess its good that she chose to trust me but her and this boy are not even an item but her mum told me he stayed till 12.30 the other night and she walked in to find her sat on his knee lol (aw young love) lol so they are obviously getting closer.

[pookie1968uk]

you also need to tell her that going on the pill wont stop her catching anything else if she does sleep with someone.

[Kim]

you also need to tell her that going on the pill wont stop her catching anything else if she does sleep with someone.

I'd recommend to her that she goes on the pill and they use a condom if and when something happens. You hear so much about contraception failing these days.......

[leanne27]

she is quite mature for her age and understands that the pill wont protect her from STI's i think i will tell her to have a couple of more weeks think about it and then i will go with her to the doctors if she still wants me to do you think that is fair enough?

[Kim]

Yeah I think so but if she tries to get you to go before then and you think she might have sex regardless then I would go beforehand.

[emma_strange]

Go with her. Even if you do't she may go alone, and it's always better to have someone with you. I'm 17 and can talk to one of my aunties about this kind of thing, and i love that i can, because i know im going to get an honest response, not a response from my friends that may not be what i need to hear. So support her, she'll thank you for it.

[leanne27]

My niece has decided to go on the pill and has told her mum who actually agrees with the idea the boy stayed over one night last week so its better to be prepared thanks for all the advice though everyone :)