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[Jess Rulz]

my mate has got a bf and since she mee him she has changed, he wont let her go out with her mates or do anythin she wants and now she has had a row with her perents and she has said that she is movin in with him x x

i am scard of loseing her as we have been the best of friends for 5 yrs x
what can i do ??

[CrazyLea]

have you tried talking to her? tell her how you feel maybe, and that your worried about her. it might not do any good, but its worth a try

[samantha nixon]

yeah what lea said and how old is your friend and is there an age gap between her and her boyfriend as if so she might be scared to go out as she doesnt want to tell him she wants to

[Jess Rulz]

well she is 16 and hes 15 so there is not much of a gap x x

[shannisrules]

you should talk to her, get her on her own tell her straight that this guy isnt giving her as much space as she may need tell her how you feel about it and how all her other friends feel about it good luck xxx

[feelingyellow]

That happened to my mate, she just got obsessed with this boy and was always ditching us for him and now we don't see her no more because all she does is go round with him, though he'd probably be perfectly happy for her to hang out with us though...
I'd just talk to her... I never told my mate the way I felt, and now it's like we're not even friends.

[leanne27]

good luck hope everything turns out ok :)

[Jess Rulz]

well i have tried to but she just says that she "loves" him and without him shes nothing but i dont thin so x x x but i just dont know what to do ???

[shannisrules]

maybe you could organise a day out with your friends just your friends and make sure this guy doesnt go then you can show her what shes missing and what it used to be like withut him you could show her how to have a good time without him then maybe she might realise that she doesnt need him as much

[stacyefc]

if you wanna stay friends with her your best not slagging her fella off cos then you will fall out. if i was you i would try and stay friends with her and go out with her when she will come and all you can do really is hope that she will se sense

[stacyefc]

also the more she knows her parents and friends hate him the more she will rebel

[Jess Rulz]

thank for all the advice x x

my friend is pregnant !!! she seems to be happy but i just dont know how they will cope!!
i mean it will be ok during the pregnancy but after !! its not just goin to go away and i am worried he will just leave her !

[shannisrules]

eeek how old is she? if your friend wontlisten to anyhting you have to say maybe you should leave it for now and just be there for her otherwise she may fall out with you then if/when he does leave her she wont have you to turn to so maybe if you just stay good friends if/when they break up at least you can be there for her

[Kim]

My friend ended up a bit like that, with older boys because she regarded it as cool. She ended up going completely off the rails, and she wouldn't listen to anything I said. I think I pushed her too far by constantly telling her what was right and wrong, so be careful not to slag off this boyfriend and say too much about what she is doing, or she could end up hating you for it.

How long has your mate been seeing this boy?