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[Tannie]

Lately i've been getting bullied again and last week i nearly got kicked in if it wasn't for my friend but since then i've been really scared about going to school and really the school can't do anything to stop it because she won't stop it but it's putting me down and i snap at my family. But the other problem is my friend's don't understand only a few of them do and my family don't know what should i do?

[hazey]

Lately i've been getting bullied again and last week i nearly got kicked in if it wasn't for my friend but since then i've been really scared about going to school and really the school can't do anything to stop it because she won't stop it but it's putting me down and i snap at my family. But the other problem is my friend's don't understand only a few of them do and my family don't know what should i do? The first thing you do is tell your parents,as this can not go on,also the school such be informed and your parents can go to the school and sort out a plan of action. You mustn't keep this to yourself,as it well make you ill. The bully is only a bully because they can make friends,and only have friends that stay with them,as they are too scared to do otherwise.A bully will only win if they can see that you are frightened of them,even if you are shaking inside,stand tall and walk pass them.

[Tannie]

but i don't know how to tell my family

[willow]

you really have to find a way or it will keep going and going,
please pluck up the courage to sit them down and tell them everthing that has happened to you. if you really can't talk to them try writing a letter explaining how scared you are, then they will come to you and talk to you

[pops110874]

realistically you have three options

1. Tell your parents or a teacher - although make sure all communication from school to parents is via phone. If bullies saw your parents at school it could make it worse

2. Stand up to the bullies and let them know you are not scared. Although if there is a gang this may not be your best bet.

3. Go on being miserable and do nothing.

I went to a pretty rough school, always fights and bullying going on. Is there a reason why they have singled you out? Also is it physical bullying or verbal?

[Bree]

i used to get bullied so i know how you feel hun but i just told my parents it helped a lot its better then bottling it all up inside hun

luv ya bree
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[Tannie]

Thanks for all the advice guys and i get bullied because i'm more easier to pick on then others and i take it deep down and i get upset.

[pops110874]

Thanks for all the advice guys and i get bullied because i'm more easier to pick on then others and i take it deep down and i get upset.

There you go, if you are letting them see you get upset - they will just keep going.

Next time they say something to you, just put up a front of extreme confidence. Shrug off insults with "yeah right whatever" like its boring you. Or even try to laugh it off, with "sorry really dont have time for this today" or something like that.

I know its really hard to be confident when you are feeling low but just think of all your family and friends who love you - and act like how you would round them. Confidence doesnt come easily to anyone and my friend gave me that advice when i went for my first job interview - she just said dont be nervous just think of us lot (our crowd of friends) and having a laugh.

Life is way too short to be worrying about going to school because of insignificant bullies, the people who matter are your mates and family. I know its hard right now but in the grand scheme of things you will probably struggle to remember their names in five years time.

Plus, your school years go in a lot quicker than you realise and before you know it you will be leaving, so try to enjoy this time and forget about those lowlifes.

Hope this helps :)

[Tannie]

Thanks for the advice everyone i really appreciate it.

[pops110874]

Your welcome :)

Just hope that it makes a difference

[Tannie]

It has i mean it when i say i apreciate it.

[crazygirl]

my daughter was bullied it went on for a long time before she told me but when she did i got it sorted out staight away, you must tell your parents dont let this get out of hand just remember this cant be sorted if you dont tell anyone,

[Tannie]

i know and i've been told the girl that was bullying me got chucked out for punching peter. But i don't know if it's true or not.

[Tannie]

Thanks my mum now knows but resulted to me being in tears. But she was angry that i didn't tell her sooner but i didn't know how to. Everybody keeps on telling me she won't touch me but they don't know because if Claire wasn't there last week i would of been in hospital but thanks for all the advice guys i appreciate it.

Love Tanya
xxxx

[LUSHLOOKE69]

Im really glad youve told your mum let us know how it all goes.

[Tannie]

Now all i need to do is tell my dad! I don't know how that's going to go through.