how young do you think is too young?

[tasha_hopkins]

There is a tv programme on at the moment here in wales I'm not sure if its anywhere else in the u.k. But it says wales is the highest place in europe for teenage pregnancies, and it got be thinking how young do you think is to young to have a baby?
I personally think you should be finacially stable and be in a stable relationship but its becoming more and more common, not that there is anything wrong with that but there are 12 year olds planning on getting pregnant which I think is totally wrong. What do you guys think? I find it really interesting to hear your views.

[myra129]

I have to be honest if my little girl told me at 12 she was planning on getting pregnant i'd lock her in her bedroom!

If it was accidental I hope i'd support her but I really hope that she isnt doing the kinda things you need to do to get pregnant before shes at least.... 21 :)

[Chloe O'brien]

every teenager matures differently and as long as they are over the age of 16 then there is not a lot that can be done about young people becomming parents when they are still young themselves. I never wanted to have children when I was just out of school but I know a lot of girls who fell pregnant at 16 and they never regretted it. In today's society there is nothing stable about jobs or relationships

[myra129]

I had my daughter at 17 and my son at 21 and I wouldnt change anything, I just hope that they both wait till their older than i was. Im being hypocritical I know but I know that sometimes having a baby when your not quite a adult yourself is hard.

[Abi]

I think that under 14 is too young myself.

[Carrie Bradshaw]

Obviously, everyone is different and some people may be ready to have a child at a very young age while others are simply too immature. However, you need to remember practical things like will you have time to look after a child. If you are young enough that you are still meant to be in full time education then you clearly can't look after the baby yourself and for the most part, can't afford a childminder.

[samantha nixon]

i think it depends what support there family would give them really

[myra129]

You need family support no matter what age you are though.

[twinkle_eyes83]

well to be honest i cant really say cos i was 14 when i had my 1st baby i

[myra129]

My friend was 15 when she had her first, she didnt even know she was pregnant till the day she had him and hes 9 now and she says theres nothing she would ever change about what happened.

I wouldnt change anything about my kids and my life either.

[twinkle_eyes83]

nor me i had all the support and everything and everyone tellin me to get rid of her but i could not do it if i had no support then prob i would

[myra129]

I didnt have my families support as I wasnt in contact with them but my boyfriends family were brilliant, I only got asked once what i wanted to do and they accepted it.

[leanne27]

I was always maternal when my friends were put off by screaming babies i always adored them, i even secretly planned to have a baby once i was 16 but then realised i was too young and wanted to wait till i was older, and im glad i've waited till now.

[Angeltigger]

i believe under 16 is too young- but if they love each other and want to have the job of looking after a baby then that is their choice. but i think the law says 16- as it when you can make choices and it the time that you can actually look after your baby as you can leave school- but if you have a family that loves you are under 16 and your parent want to look after your baby than i'm sure it will be fine- but than i don't think the child would have a good life as it would not know where the mother is and the father. that is my opions

[xStephaniex]

a girl needs to be mature enough and prepared enough for a baby ! there not dollys!. if a 12 year old if thinking on having one then she's deffinatley not ready !. my friend is 15 and just had her baby a few days ago and i think she's not ready because she has her whole life ahead of her, but she'lll be a fab mum. and plus would you rather be settled in a job earning enough to pay for a baby and with a husband, or teenage years in education with no job and no social life because you have a baby !?

[nicole28]

I agree that a girl has to be mature enough. I am 13 and there is no way that I am planning to have a baby yet! I think that you shouldn't till you have a steady job with an OK pay and a boyfriend or a husband who you can honestly say that you trust!

[hannah-mj]

I think about 16 is the earliest age , but it depends on the individual ....i would never put myself in a situation where i may become pregnant as ...basically i dont want a baby! not yet anyway....
what was good i think is that my mum had a baby around a year ago ( i dont even know how old my sister is!!) and that put me off even more!!

[Cornishbabe]

I think its better if a girl gets an education first. At least then she has qualifications so can get a decent job when the child grows up. It depends on how mature they are

[samantha nixon]

if i fell pregnant now i wouldnt ever get rid of a child as i personally think its wrong to do so but i wouldnt go out and say im gonna get pregnant, but i dont think it matters if a person is still at school and has a child as yeah they might not have a load of money but they still have love

[annaz]

If someone under 14 got pregnant and wanted to have a child they obviously haven't thought it through. If they want to provide a secure home they should wait till they have left school. This is my opinion though

[samantha nixon]

yeah but whats saying they cant have a secure home

[annaz]

Though many girls under 14 are willing to have an abortion...

[samantha nixon]

then i must be different as i wouldnt be

[annaz]

Yeah, I wouldn't have an abortian. If I did, I wouldn't do it behind my parents back.

[samantha nixon]

my mum has said if we ever got pregnant she would like to know so i wouldnt do anything behind her back id talk to her and i know she would be supportive