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I feel bad, i went to the loo earlier and left connor and ,my nephew in sitiing room where they were playing really nicely, jack started screaming as i had left the room and he dosent like it when i leave him so i ran quick but got distracted on way back as was hungry so i got some grapes! jack was still screaming for me so i guessed he was ok! when i got back into front room i noticed that jack was sat on one chair with a greta big red.black bruise on his cheek and connor was sat on sofa.
i knew staright away that con had done something so i asked him he told me had hit jack on the cheek! i took jack throughto show dave what con had done after dealing with connor and when we put light on noticed that there were lumps that looked ;ike bite marks!!
connor finally admitted that he had bit jack so i did something thati never tthoughti would ever do and have always been very anti and i BIT HIM back!!!
now i feel really really horrible and feel like a horrid mum!! all i could hear was my mum saying when you used to bite your brother i bit you and you soon stopped!! am i terrible???
No Debs you aren't - terrible as it sounds, the first time Stephen and Ciaran bit us, we bit them back (obviously not too hard, but enough so they could feel it - controlled was the word i think) and neither of them have bit anyone since. You are a fabby mum, never think otherwise....:D :D I'm sending you a youre a fab mum hug
No Debs you aren't - terrible as it sounds, the first time Stephen and Ciaran bit us, we bit them back (obviously not too hard, but enough so they could feel it - controlled was the word i think) and neither of them have bit anyone since. You are a fabby mum, never think otherwise....:D :D I'm sending you a youre a fab mum hug
thankyou hun!
and just in case anyone thinks it it wasnt a hard bite just hard enough for him to be shocked!
thankyou hun!
and just in case anyone thinks it it wasnt a hard bite just hard enough for him to be shocked!
I believe you... Charley use to bite a lot and I bit her back, she cried more in shock that I did it to her then to how hard.. she never bit again..
Whilst others may not agree - how can con or ci understand that biting hurts if it hasn't happened to them, this is why i bit him - he needed to feel how it felt to be bitten. If you just say, please dont do that, it really hurts (like we are advised to do) they aren't really going to understand that it does hurt as they haven't been bitten - this is how i have done it anyway, and Stephen having only bitten once when he was 4 is now 12 and hasn't never bitten anyone since then - you deal with your child the way you see fit and con looks a lovely chap, so I don't think you should have any worries about your parenting hun :D
you where right to bite him. my nephew went through a phase of that and my sis refused to bite him back. he done it to me once and i warned him, then he done it a second time and i bit him. he's never done it since.
you have to show them in time. i was worried my nephew would do it in playgroup or to his new little brother.
I believe you... Charley use to bite a lot and I bit her back, she cried more in shock that I did it to her then to how hard.. she never bit again..
im hoping it is the first and last time he will ever do it!
Whilst others may not agree - how can con or ci understand that biting hurts if it hasn't happened to them, this is why i bit him - he needed to feel how it felt to be bitten. If you just say, please dont do that, it really hurts (like we are advised to do) they aren't really going to understand that it does hurt as they haven't been bitten - this is how i have done it anyway, and Stephen having only bitten once when he was 4 is now 12 and hasn't never bitten anyone since then - you deal with your child the way you see fit and con looks a lovely chap, so I don't think you should have any worries about your parenting hun :D
connor has never been bitten ( well apart from me of course!!) so yes hhow can he understand whta i mean? poor jack now has too big teeth marks on his cheek which have bruised and now i have to tell my sister how he got them through connor! what is really annoying is that con has been good as gold for 3 weeks while i havent looked after jack and now first day back connor has bitten it starting to make me not want to loo after my nephew!
thanks ems i dont usually ever worry but i felt so bad either dave said i did the right thing but thenalso half hour later came in and said in a girly voice oh im never going to bite connor back like mum tells me too as i think that just shows him it ok to bite and laughed his smug laugh! MEN! NEVER mind that i was feeling bad!
lucily niall was not a biter so i never had to do it , but if niamh starts biting i will do it back
You did well to do it back,or other wise he won't learn,Stephen spat at me when he was about 4,for no reason he just did it,"I said why did you do it." He said" its funny",So I said "oh is this funny "and spat right in his face,he ran upstairs,and didn't come back for half an hour,and said " I am sorry mummy it isn't funny is it". I did the same for biting.He never spat or bite again. So in my opinion you are a good mother Debs.
You did well to do it back,or other wise he won't learn,Stephen spat at me when he was about 4,for no reason he just did it,"I said why did you do it." He said" its funny",So I said "oh is this funny "and spat right in his face,he ran upstairs,and didn't come back for half an hour,and said " I am sorry mummy it isn't funny is it". I did the same for biting.He never spat or bite again. So in my opinion you are a good mother Debs.
sorry hazey but I found this funny myself :rotfl::rotfl: well done I am glad Stephen learnt his lesson
You did well to do it back,or other wise he won't learn,Stephen spat at me when he was about 4,for no reason he just did it,"I said why did you do it." He said" its funny",So I said "oh is this funny "and spat right in his face,he ran upstairs,and didn't come back for half an hour,and said " I am sorry mummy it isn't funny is it". I did the same for biting.He never spat or bite again. So in my opinion you are a good mother Debs.
well this afternoon he came up to me and said mummy let me see your face and i smiled at himand he said oh your not cross anymore! i said no mummy isnt cross anymore but im still crossabout what you did! and then he said i love you mummy!!! i had to explain that just because he was naughty and did a naughty thing i still loved him and would always love him no matter what he did.! i felt really bad then but im glad i did it as he been so loving and kind to his cousin this evening and he told my sisterthat he was soory and that mummy bit me to show me how it hurts!!
well this afternoon he came up to me and said mummy let me see your face and i smiled at himand he said oh your not cross anymore! i said no mummy isnt cross anymore but im still crossabout what you did! and then he said i love you mummy!!! i had to explain that just because he was naughty and did a naughty thing i still loved him and would always love him no matter what he did.! i felt really bad then but im glad i did it as he been so loving and kind to his cousin this evening and he told my sisterthat he was soory and that mummy bit me to show me how it hurts!!Which shows that con understands now how it feels to be bitten and why he shouldn't do it.
Thats one thing I always make sure I do with Ci too, make sure that when he has apologised and understood what has happened, I give him a hug and tell him that I love him and always will, but that he needs to understand these things.
If its any consolation, my hubby does the same with me, compares me to my mum, which he knows i hate lol
My little brother bit me on my hand yesterday when i wouldnt let him have his own way, i was so angry at him that i never thought to just bite him back, i pulled his hair a little bit but he was more shocked than in pain. The thing is he NEVER learns!
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20-01-2006, 20:53
A bit like my brother Gabby :rolleyes:
sj bit me for the first time today,i bit him back,he cuddled me then lol
.:SpIcYsPy:.
20-01-2006, 21:33
:rotfl: What a story!! :p
:D short and sweet,i try not to be a rambler :p
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