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[lollymay]

my mum and my dad separated in the summer.today at my dads i was looking for some paper and i couldnt find any. he told me not to go in this draw but i went in it anyway looking for the paper and i found a christmas card to him from one of his 'friends'. i no i shouldnt have looked at it but i did and it had something written in it like 'ill always love you'. me and my brother have been suspious that they have been together but the card proves it. the main thing is that my dad has lied to me about all of it. should i confront him?

[~charlie-lou~]

Awww Lolly you poor honey :(

As to what you should do, I have no idea. What I'd do would no doubt not be very productive, I have a very, very hot temper and tend to open my big gob before I think everything through and no doubt I'd go to him and start bellowing my head off and it would end up being a big old family feud, me being temporarily disowned, lol, my sisters getting all huffy with me and blaming me, my Mum crying and asking us to sort things out and not argue and me yelling at everyone that I'm sick of them and why do I always get the blame and I hate being the oldest and I'm sick of the lot of them..

... well that's what always happens LMAO but IMO, leave it until you get more evidence. I wouldn't personally but what I do always ends up becoming a world event so that's my advice.

:) Good luck :)

[Lisa321]

Hmm a tough one, you say you an your brother have been suspicious, maybe you should confront him or, try an catch him out, then he'll have to tell you. Or you could try and give him an opportunity to tell you. Like 'Don't you get tired of being alone?' Or 'Meet anyone last night'
Obviously its up to you hun, just talk it over with your brother.

xXx love lisa

[lollymay]

i think im going to end up shouting tomorrow at christmas i just no it cos i cant keep my big gob shut at all

[.:SpIcYsPy:.]

I think you should wait till the New Year finishes because you will end up fighting both ways... 1) With yourself and your brother. 2) Your brother, you and your dad... if you don't say anything yet you might enjoy christmas.. whereas if the truth is out.. then you will be fighting and thinking about it.. if you plan to tell after new year.. well new start and everything and you can sort it all out and decide..

Sorry if this is not helpful but Im not in your shoes to know how you feel etc. Just do whatever you think is best hunz :( xx

[~charlie-lou~]

i think im going to end up shouting tomorrow at christmas i just no it cos i cant keep my big gob shut at all

Oh no, this is all my fault!!! :( Lol!

[Jade]

You may be reading into it too much, i've written things similar (ok not as bad) things in cards to my good male friends. Thats the trouble with snooping, you sometimes find out things that you dont want to, but dont worry we've all done it!!!!

I think you should ask him about it you dont have to mention the card if you already think they may be involved. Its better these things are out in the open, although its not great timing with Xmas.

Also if your Dad is now technically single he may not have done anything really wrong.

Another thing is, although he may have lied to you or not told you about this relationship he may be doing it to protect you as he's not sure about it lasting etc. Some of my friends who have been married then seperated dont tell there kids about every boyf/girlf they have in case it doesnt last and the children get attached, after all its hard enough for kids when their pearents split up.

Familys eh!!!!!

Good Luck

Try not to let it spoil your Xmas. :)

[lollymay]

Oh no, this is all my fault!!! :( Lol!

no it aint i just dont like to see him lying to people

[lollymay]

for anyone that is interested i managed to keep quiet over christmas

[.:SpIcYsPy:.]

for anyone that is interested i managed to keep quiet over christmas
That's excellent!! Did you still enjoy Christmas though? Hope you did!! x

So when are you planning to let it all out?

[lollymay]

it was ok until my auntie turned up andwe had a bit of a fight, just words nothing else. im going to see what its like at the new years eve party and what they're like then and if nothing happens i think i'll speak to him

[samantha nixon]

ah i hope it turns out ok

[shannisrules]

good luck with talking to your dad if its any consolation i know how you feel .about 2 years ago my dad had a realationship with somebody and didnt tell me so i asked him if he had a current girlfriend etc. and he told me but the reason he didnt say anything to me was because he had only been going out with her for a week and wanted to make sure he had feelings for her etc. so in the end everything was ok now they have split up it didnt last long lol hope it all goes well xxx

[xxloopylauraxx]

aww if not i no every one saids this but write a letter xplaining all your feelings and everything and it will make you feel so much better! i have been goig nthrough something similar to you shannisrules. my mums been seeing a lot of this 'friend' and this has been gettign worse over the last couple of months sneaky txts and that but the thing that realli bugged me was a txt i read saying did she wanan go over there that night nad her reply i was planning too but im too tired now. that got me miffed all night and i hardly slept a wink thinking she was goign to go off in the middle of the night. so i wrote a letter to her but havent given it to her yet im going ot wait untill after the new year and go from there. the thing is though i think she knows i know because i keep dropping hints thanks to hollyoaks( when becca snuck out to see justin i said that it was sick and she seemed to be quiet about it all) but anyway writing a letter helps you even if you havent given it to them. hope this helps

[lollymay]

i no i shouldnt have but i went back into that draw and found the card again and read it properly. it said i love you etc and this is the last year we will be apart.

[samantha nixon]

try talking to your dad but would you have a problem ith him seeing this lady and if not explain that to him and say that you want to talk and not keep secrets

[lollymay]

i get on fine with her - i just want them to tell the truth

[samantha nixon]

explain that to youre dad

[xxloopylauraxx]

i get on fine with her - i just want them to tell the truth thats what hurts me the most too. how someone who loves you ans you love them so much can lie to you. i dont understand it at all. :wall: its not like its doing you any good health wise.

[lollymay]

i spoke to my dad about her

[.:SpIcYsPy:.]

How did it go?

[lollymay]

i asked him if he was with her and he said no they are just 'mates'

[.:SpIcYsPy:.]

Did you say anything about the card?

[lollymay]

no i didn't dare say anything cos he would go completly mad at me

[.:SpIcYsPy:.]

Awww :( Least he may think about saying something to you soon if anything happens... since you are like 'onto him' sort of thing..

[lollymay]

yes i hope he does because its really doing my head in now

[.:SpIcYsPy:.]

What does your brother think?

[lollymay]

he doesnt think they are together anymore but he doesn't know about the card

[samantha nixon]

could you not tell youre bro about the card cause then at least you can talk to someone about it

[lollymay]

No because my brother will tell my mum and things will go really wrong.

[samantha nixon]

will he deffinetely tell her if not keep giving hints to youre dad

[lollymay]

yes he will cos he can't keep his mouth shut. i'm going to keep hinting because we are going out with them again tonight

[samantha nixon]

yeah and youre dad might tell you soon in youre hints let him no that you dont mind if he is seeing someone otherwise he might not be telling you as he doesnt want to hurt you

[lollymay]

true but he is hurting me now by lying to me

[samantha nixon]

then youre dad must no something about it as you have asked him so he might talk to you about it is the lady going out with you tonight

[lollymay]

yes she is we are going to a football match because one of her sons is playing

[samantha nixon]

could you not make a point and say something like she is nice or something like that and see if he says something like she is isnt she

[lollymay]

yes thanks ill try that one tonight

[samantha nixon]

its ok hope it works for you