Omg Omg

[twinkle_eyes83]

ive just shouted at paige and told her i wished id never had her i feel like such a cow and she has sore throut and a bit of a cough now ive just given her to her dad and left her screaming her head of she just wont shut up

[Jojo]

twinkle - don't worry - we all get like it - i know i certainly do...

I'm sending you a hug, but children are trying at the best of times - you've walked away from the situation, which is the best thing to do. Just take deep breaths, calm down a bit and when you feel ready (when she has stopped crying) go and give her a big hug and tell her that you love her.

I shouted at ci earlier and felt awful after, so calmed down, then gave him a hug, told him i was sorry and that I loved him. dont worry....

[twinkle_eyes83]

oh i dont no she still with her dad screaming her head of and i cant go near her

[Jojo]

just stay away till she and you settle - can you/have you given her some calpol? let daddy comfort her until you feel better - if she senses you are uptight, she'll get worse - they sense it from a very young age and if you are upset, she will be upset. Go get a drink and sit on here, chat to us for a bit till you feel better

[twinkle_eyes83]

yes she had capol about 3.30, 7.30 and again about 10 minutes ago

[Jojo]

should kick in pretty soon then.......

[twinkle_eyes83]

i dont know it aint yet

[Jojo]

don't beat yourself up though - sometimes when liam is crying i am like - what on earth is the matter - your fed, clean, dry, warm, etc and it frustrates me as i can't have a hot cup of tea, coz he wants constant cuddling or i have to get me 12 yr old to get Ci a drink as I am feeding liam etc, but then i remember he is only 3 weeks old so needs this sort of fuss - but I do still feel like i am getting anxious - its best to just put them where they are safe, in Paige's case, with daddy and do what you have done and just walk away and let daddy deal with it - i bet if think about how many times you have dealt with her when she has been upset like this it has been far more than what daddy has dealt with......

[twinkle_eyes83]

ive tried taking her of garry and she screamed even more for more she hates me now i feel like such a cow

[Jojo]

she doesn't hate you!! She is just not feeling 100% and is crabby like we all get when we aren't too well, and she can probably still sense that you are upset and she is reacting to that....

[twinkle_eyes83]

i hope so but never have i never had a go at my kids like i did her tonight

[Jojo]

has she been tetchy all day though??

[twinkle_eyes83]

from last night but got worse tonight

[Jojo]

don't forget, you have been trying to sort Paige out aswell as sorting out your other children and that is hard enough at the best of times when they are all feeling well, let alone if one isn't well. Plus with xmas coming, the children start getting slightly hyper, you are wanting to make sure everything goes ok on the day and then you are dealing with your littlest being unwell - it all builds up - you have a couple of stressful situations going on at the same time and sometimes you just don't know what else to do - it happens to every parent...

[twinkle_eyes83]

well she has gone to sleep but for how long who knows

[Jojo]

if i were you, i'd either get some sleep yourself now or make yourself a nice drink and just relax for a bit - then when she wakes up, you will be calmer and she will be more likely to want a hug from you...:)

I gotta go as liam wants his first night feed - take care, I'll speak to you soon, but please dont feel bad about whats happened - it happens to us all :D

[twinkle_eyes83]

ok hun thanks for that chat later night night xx

[Jojo]

Hope things are better today twinkle - have a great xmas day and anytime you need to chat, look me up :D I hope I helped a bit...

[willsmummy]

Just read this. Hope you are feeling ok today. Shouting at Paige doesn't make you a bad mum. You are only human, and we all do it at some point. I have screamed at Will in the past when he was crying constantly. You did the right thng by leaving her with her dad. I bet you are a fantastic mum, and the fact that you felt bad, shows how fab you are. xxxxx

[.:SpIcYsPy:.]

How's Paige now? Made up before Xmas :) If not Im sure you will tomorrow since it's Christmas :)

On that note: Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year xx

[~charlie-lou~]

Twinkle, speaking as a kid who is constantly shrieked at and sometimes even thwacked by her father, you are not a bad parent. Neither is he, (he's just a pain!)... you sound lovely and you're only human so don't give yourself a hard time about it :)

I'm sure I'll do the same to my 4/5 children when I have them :D

[twinkle_eyes83]

hi girls thank you for you advice esp jojomum took paige to a&e today and she has bronchiolitis has been given antiboticos and pumps what with jamie having asthama she still crys for me when i try to hold her but hey its my fault but now beth has come down ill for xmas day but hey lmao at least its not all four happy christmas every one and a happy new year

[CrazyLea]

aw hope paige is better soon xx. and dont be too hard on yourself. hope you have a good xmas xx

[twinkle_eyes83]

aw hope paige is better soon xx. and dont be too hard on yourself. hope you have a good xmas xx

aww thanks hunny and you aswell

[Jojo]

hi girls thank you for you advice esp jojomum took paige to a&e today and she has bronchiolitis has been given antiboticos and pumps what with jamie having asthama she still crys for me when i try to hold her but hey its my fault but now beth has come down ill for xmas day but hey lmao at least its not all four happy christmas every one and a happy new yearHiya Twinkle - I was just glad I was online when you were, to be able to chat to you and reassure you that everything that had happened was normal, and it certainly didn't make you a bad parent. I'm sorry to hear that Paige has bronchiolitis - at least it explains the crying, but its always very difficult when they are ill - you know they are ill, but you just sometimes can't do anything to help....

I hope you had a good xmas day though and hopefully the antibiotics will have kicked in and helped Paige a lot. I remember having emergency doctors out for Stephen for his first 2 christmas' to administer nebulisers (sp?) etc, its not fun, but hopefully she is on the mend now...

[willsmummy]

How's Paige now? Is she a little more settled?

[Jojo]

Have the antibiotics helped at all yet Twinkle?? Hope you are all feeling better..

[xStephaniex]

Twinkle your a fantastic mum !! i saw your on cam with paige on your knee the other day and she looked sooooo happy with you !!!! and Em great advice hunni !!!! never give up twinkle! get stressed!, calm down, then kiss n make up with your baby its part of parenting and your fantastic at it !! dont forget it will you. :)

[twinkle_eyes83]

we are doing ebay
item is 1 teething baby
starting price is £1
any takers
:rotfl:

[Jojo]

we are doing ebay
item is 1 teething baby
starting price is £1
any takers
:rotfl:Aww Twinkle - I know the feeling mind - Liam has fed 4oz every hour today!!! And then he is getting belly ache cause of his wind, even though he is having infacol before his feed - i'm gonna have a word with the doc tomorrow, during my 6 week check and maybe phone my HV aswell, as this really isn't right - poor lad is getting so uncomfortable, and there doesnt seem to be anything that will settle him - i have even tried a dummy (which my other 2 had) but he won't take it - its awful when they are crying and there is nothing you can do. I'm just thankful I bought the swing for him as that is the only thing that seems to be settling him at the moment, and even then he has to be in the right mood for it...

[twinkle_eyes83]

aww hun wait till you get to the teething stage :rotfl: :rotfl:

[Jojo]

oh gawd don't :rotfl: Both Ste and Ci had their first teeth appear at 16 weeks but never had any trouble at all, so don't i just know that liam is going to find it hard going :rotfl:

[twinkle_eyes83]

same here none of the others were bad its only paige lol i could kick her to kingdom come at the mo lol after sleeping throuh the night from a week old then waking up at night is a shock

[Jojo]

i've got used to 4 hrs sleep a night now lol

[twinkle_eyes83]

you can defo have paige then if thats the case cos iam not :rotfl: :rotfl: