Your own children Vs Stepchildren

[LUSHLOOKE69]

After watching Corrie and seeing how Debra Stephenson has portrayed her the role of how much Frankie loves her stepson Jamie. I was just wondering peoples opinion on whether you can ever love your stepchild as much as your own child?
I don't have much experience ont his subject but a part of me thinks that there's just some sort of bond you have with your own children that you can't have with someone elses' due to them being apart of you.

[Debs]

i dont have step children but i dont think i could love them as much as my own. maybe it feels different if you actually in that situation

[.:SpIcYsPy:.]

I think that the parents of their own children are more likely to be closer as its their own blood.

[JustJodi]

My sons father married 3 more times after we divorced,, he never had kids with any of the other wives, but he is called GRANDPA by his 4th wifes grand kids,, actually from my sons observations his dad is a better dad to those kids than he was to him( we divorced when my son was 7 )So I think it depends on the situation,, When i remarried my hubby had never married nor had kids ( that he knows of ) so I never had the experince being a step mom to some one elses kids,,

[Chloe O'brien]

I don't have any step children but I do know that if I could not love someone else children as much as I love my own daughter then there is no point in being in a relationship with someone who has kids. The same goes for any man if he is not prepared to love my daughter as his own then he can forget it cause we come as a packaged deal.

[Rain_]

At the oposite end of the scale i was brought up by my stepfather from being 9 months old. At no time did i feel left out or not as loved as his other children. I guess anyone can be a father but it takes a man to be a daddy.

[samantha nixon]

I don't have any step children but I do know that if I could not love someone else children as much as I love my own daughter then there is no point in being in a relationship with someone who has kids. The same goes for any man if he is not prepared to love my daughter as his own then he can forget it cause we come as a packaged deal.

hi
i dont have kids as im to young but i agree with you, as you should love the children the same

[Behemoth]

Moving to 'Pregnancy & Family'.

[hazey]

At the oposite end of the scale i was brought up by my stepfather from being 9 months old. At no time did i feel left out or not as loved as his other children. I guess anyone can be a father but it takes a man to be a daddy. I totally agree with you. I was married before my present marriage, and my ex was 13 years older than me and had a son of 12,I got on ok with him but I didn't have any,really bond with him,as you do with your own.I did try and was kind to him but the motherly love just wasnt there.

[xXxJessxXx]

I'm not sure. i dont have kids or step kids. lol. i think you could feel as close to step kids as you do your own if the situation was specific. for exaple if you've been bonding with them for a long time since the child was little or from an early age. or if you are a close family like if you life with them day in and day out.

the bond between Frankie and Jamie is very close. i couldnt image it to be like that in real life but i wouldnt know its how i would imagine but after seeing that this week its changed my mind. an other example is Keith and Mickey in Eastenders. Keith has a close bond with his own kids Demi and Darren and a relationship just as strong with step son Mickey although the relationship with step daughter Dawn isnt as strong. i think it helps if both the parent and child are willing to accept the fact they are a family and that the step parent could be seen as their real parent. some kids are rude and horrible to step parent swhich is not suprising but if they have an open mind i think it can work. i think its even strong if the real parent ie Mickey's dad and Jamie's mum isnt around and has walked out ect. the child can think about giving the role to someone else. it depends what you've beeen through with the other person too, like if you've confinded in a step parent ect.

they all say blood is thickier than water. but is that really true. if you work up a bond between un blood related people it can be really strong. and if you strike up a bond between two blood related people who have never met or havnt seen each other in years it could be uncofortable and they'll automaticly have no bond. i think it all depnds and comes down to how well you get on, and on the personalities of the people are. some parents dont get on with their real kids etc visa versa.

it all depends on the situation.

[Rain_]

[QUOTE=xXxJessxXx]

they all say blood is thickier than water. but is that really true. QUOTE]

I don't believe so...I live by the rule "Friends are family we choose for ourselves"

[dragoneye454]

I am a step-child and from my experience. People do love their own children more or they show it more, no matter how much they try not to

[Jojo]

In my family, there is absolutely no difference in the way in which our sons are treated. We came as a package and if people were not going to accept that then I wanted to be on my own. If anything my eldests gets and got a lot more attention than our youngest - as someone said before - anyone can father a child, but it takes someone special to be a daddy and that is exactly what my husband is.......

[Angeltigger]

As I don’t have children-I would love someone else children as the children are theirs and I would love them (the daddy) but I would not love them as much as my own, but then I think it depend on the age- as with Frankie loves her stepson Jamie she has known him such he was little as she was his babysitter, but it might have be different if he was older when she meet him. She also loves him as his father had an affair with Danny girlfriend so Frankie and Jamie are kind of going thought the same thing

[Trinity]

At the oposite end of the scale i was brought up by my stepfather from being 9 months old. At no time did i feel left out or not as loved as his other children. I guess anyone can be a father but it takes a man to be a daddy.

This is so true. For those of you who think that blood ties are all - remember all the child abuse cases. Just as many blood relatives harm children as step parents.

When you have one child you think that you could never love another child as much. Then when number 2 comes along you realise that the love grows to encompass you family and it doesn't run out. Love is not a cake with only a limited number of slices.