Would You? 2 - Little Mo [Archive] - Soap, Drama and Spoiler Forums

Bryan

14-10-2005, 08:41

i wouldnt have as billy would have been the love of my life, and graham is nothing but a monster, i wouldnt want a baby that remined me everyday of such a horrible time in my life, and that could split me and Billy up. I'd rather stay with Billy and loose the baby, becuase we could have babies when we want and theyd be our own and strengthen our relationship.

Luna

14-10-2005, 08:45

uuummmm im not sure with this one

I agree with all the things mo said when she was tellng everyone she was keeping the baby but i also can see the other side as to would you want to bring up a rapists child.

Flozza

14-10-2005, 09:05

keep billy xx

sarahwelford

14-10-2005, 09:39

keep the baby no body knows what they would do unless put in the situation

Florijo

14-10-2005, 10:03

I said 'don't know'. I can understand wanting to keep the baby as it is not the child's fault but then I don't know if I could keep a baby who's father was a rapist. To be honest, if I was ever in that situation, I hope I would take the morning-after pill so I would not get into that situation. It always confused me why Mo never took it after being raped in 2003, as she took it the day after being raped by Trevor in 2001.

crazygirl

14-10-2005, 10:16

you have no choice you have to get rid of the baby it would tyear any family apart
im still with the father of my daughter and me to get raped and keep the baby would not be the right thing to do, the baby would be a constant reminder
aparantly when you get raped it takes a long time to get yourself right so i dont think anyone needs anything there to constantly remind them of what happened

Angeltigger

14-10-2005, 10:22

I don't know as it never happened to me but than it the baby fault that you got raped..

sarahwelford

14-10-2005, 10:34

When you are raped you go into shock maybe mo did nt want to face up to what happened to her. The first time with trevor she could handle but being raped another time and by some one you trusted.
I know from a family member what its like to be forced to choose the baby or your partner and she has come threw it with a gorg little daughter and she know has a new bf

Angeltigger

14-10-2005, 10:36

i think Little mo only did it as she prengent in real life.

sarahwelford

14-10-2005, 10:37

you meant the script writters only did the rape storyline cause kacey was pregnant

Angeltigger

14-10-2005, 10:40

you meant the script writters only did the rape storyline cause kacey was pregnant

Maybe, but than this is going off the tread

melanielovesdennisrickman

14-10-2005, 10:52

It's a very hard decision so is said don't know.
I would have understood if she got rid of the baby,because it would maybe remind her of Graham,and she would lose Billy the love of her life,but i also understand why she kept the baby,because it's not the baby's fault what happenned,and it's a real person inside you,and it must be really hard to get rid of it.

BlackKat

14-10-2005, 11:12

I would keep the baby. I'd never have an abortion, unless it was for a medical reason. I don't think that women who do have abortions are wrong, but it's my choice that I wouldn't have one, and if my husband couldn't understand that I wouldn't want to be married to him anyway. I'm not saying I'd expect him to be able to play happy families or call himself the baby's father or anything, but just understand and respect my decision.

JustJodi

14-10-2005, 11:13

I feel she should have given the baby up for adoption,, no one wants a constant reminder of being raped,, but again thats me.
She should have taken her marriage into consideration, but again the choice was hers and hers alone, she must have FELT maybe Billy would change and love the child any way, we all know what happened after she brought the baby back to Walford, and how Billy reacted... nuff said

Florijo

14-10-2005, 11:22

The first time with trevor she could handle but being raped another time and by some one you trusted.

I don't understand this. She trusted Graham but not her husband of 6/7/8 (can't remember how long they were married) years? I have no experience of this but I would have thought that being raped by someone who said they loved you would be harder to handle than being raped by a stranger. Especially as she had to live with Trevor after it happened.

Anyway back on topic.

hazey

14-10-2005, 13:59

I think she should have choosen billy, being raped, thats a long time to get over and then to have the child that would always be a rimnder. I think she should have either had a abortion or put it up for adoption.In real life you are offered the morning after pill, which is the best solution in my opinion.

CrazyLea

14-10-2005, 14:33

i dont agree with abortion unless under extreme cases like this one but i wouldnt have worried about losing my husband though if you get what i mean

hayley

14-10-2005, 22:09

i dont think i'd want a rapists child but then i couldnt have an abortion!

JustJodi

14-10-2005, 22:19

i dont think i'd want a rapists child but then i couldnt have an abortion!

I think that is what every one thinks, here, she should have gone away, had the baby, put it up for adoption and gone back to Walford and try to salvage her life and her marriage... but hey !!! EE writers didn't ask us so ....

.:SpIcYsPy:.

14-10-2005, 22:19

I wouldn't have a rapist's child.. no way.. I would think of it as like no child there in the first palce as its only TINY shall I say.. embroyo or whatever its called :p

But No.. It would bring memories.. No way.. sorry..

Angeltigger

14-10-2005, 22:21

The person who played mo had to leave as she was having her baby

Abi

14-10-2005, 22:23

I'd keep Billy. If he was the love of my life, then i would know i would probably have kids with him. sure the baby did nothing wrong, but i wouldn't be able to throw away my future with my husband, and the hope of having more kids, for a baby who i didn't want.

Debs

15-10-2005, 22:13

YEAH I WOULD KEEP THE BABY . it wouldnt have been concieved in a ideal way but it would still be part of me and i just couldnt go throiugh with an abortion.

i_luv_dennis

16-10-2005, 09:36

i said yes because it is not the babys fault what happend and the baby dont need to no who the dad is

Jojo

16-10-2005, 09:56

I have said don't know, as unless you are in the situation, you really don't know how you would react - I can see both sides of the equation - on the one side it isn't the baby's fault, but on the other, you may be constantly reminded of what happened to you when you looked at the child :hmm: its a difficult one for which a decision wouldn't be able to made in haste about...... Thats my view anyway..

BlackKat

16-10-2005, 10:18

I wouldn't think of it as a "rapist's child." It would be my child, and no way would I give it up.

Debs

16-10-2005, 11:55

I wouldn't think of it as a "rapist's child." It would be my child, and no way would I give it up.

i wouldnt either it would be mine and only mine! i just couldnt get rid

xXxJessxXx

16-10-2005, 12:28

I wouldn't think of it as a "rapist's child." It would be my child, and no way would I give it up.

i wouldnt either it would be mine and only mine! i just couldnt get rid

I agree with both of you on this one. ok i think it will be hard to bring up a baby who's father put you through so much pain and fear and being reminded each time you look at it. But its also your baby, your flesh and blood so its like terminating a baby that you have with someone who didnt rape you. its still getting rid of [I]your/I] baby.

its not the little baby's fault, its not your fault either but its doesnt deserve to not have a life beacuse of what some twisted man did to you! no matter how early on the embryo/fetous whatever is still gogin to grow into a person and i dont think its fair to get rid. i think its better if you cant deal with it then put it up for adoption, dont let the baby suffer because of what happend.

it would obvisouly be hard for the husband to see his wife bring up a baby that isnt his. men do it all the time but i know its different knowing what that man did to your wife feeling partly respnsible and shut out but if your relationship is that strong i think you can survive it. if the man can put the differences aside like the women has to each day then i think they can be a family like all the others out there. dont let the man who did this win but tearing you all apart.

if he wanted access i dont think i would be able to hold it together. i dont think i could really be sure what i would do as im not in that sistuation and dont know what its like or feels to be raped etc. but form what i believe now i would keep it. it would be hard on everyone but i think i would.

Kim

16-10-2005, 13:23

I wouldn't have kept Freddie.

Debs

16-10-2005, 14:47

I agree with both of you on this one. ok i think it will be hard to bring up a baby who's father put you through so much pain and fear and being reminded each time you look at it. But its also your baby, your flesh and blood so its like terminating a baby that you have with someone who didnt rape you. its still getting rid of [I]your/I] baby.

its not the little baby's fault, its not your fault either but its doesnt deserve to not have a life beacuse of what some twisted man did to you! no matter how early on the embryo/fetous whatever is still gogin to grow into a person and i dont think its fair to get rid. i think its better if you cant deal with it then put it up for adoption, dont let the baby suffer because of what happend.

it would obvisouly be hard for the husband to see his wife bring up a baby that isnt his. men do it all the time but i know its different knowing what that man did to your wife feeling partly respnsible and shut out but if your relationship is that strong i think you can survive it. if the man can put the differences aside like the women has to each day then i think they can be a family like all the others out there. dont let the man who did this win but tearing you all apart.

if he wanted access i dont think i would be able to hold it together. i dont think i could really be sure what i would do as im not in that sistuation and dont know what its like or feels to be raped etc. but form what i believe now i would keep it. it would be hard on everyone but i think i would.

have just asked my hubbie what he thinks

he said that yes it would be a horrible thing to happen and yes he would hate to see a child concieved in those circumsatnces but that he would support me keeping a baby concievd in this way and that he would brinf iyt up as his own the baby would know know different and dave would be the daddy!

SoapRach

17-10-2005, 11:46

I have ticked the I Don't Know, but i think that realistically I wouldn't keep the baby.

This is just my opinion and i don't judge the other opinions that people have put forward, so I hope people don't judge me.

Angeltigger

17-10-2005, 12:05

It depand on what you are like as a person- you might think that you should not keep the baby becasue of what the dad did, but then people are right with saying that it not the baby fault, but if you are strong enought than you will keep the baby, Also even if you keep the baby you will still have thought like when the baby is older enought to understand what happens do you tell them or not and will the baby go in the same front steps of who maked him which is rape someone...

Trinity

17-10-2005, 15:01

If I was raped I would report it and get the morning after pill ASAP, plus the antivirals that can prevent HIV infection if taken early enough.

I would not be able to handle being pregnant with a rapists baby, even though the child is an innocent. It woud totally do my head in, change my life and let the rapist have a hold over me long after the event.

I wouldn't want an abortion later in pregnancy, but I don't know what I would do if the morning after pill failed. I would certainly consider abortion in these circumstances

littlemo

17-10-2005, 22:38

I've said I don't know, but I think I probably would keep the baby. My mum would totally disagree with me and think I was crazy but it is the woman's decision. I couldn't say for definete because I don't know what it's like to be in that situation, and I'm not in a relationship so I can't compare myself to somebody who is. I suppose a single woman has different views on this.

littlemo

17-10-2005, 23:00

I don't understand this. She trusted Graham but not her husband of 6/7/8 (can't remember how long they were married) years? I have no experience of this but I would have thought that being raped by someone who said they loved you would be harder to handle than being raped by a stranger. Especially as she had to live with Trevor after it happened.

Trevor had been saying before the rape that he wanted him and Little Mo to start a family, and then he said afterwards that maybe they had made a baby, it struck a chord with her that she didn't want a child with him. So I think that's the reason she took the morning after pill. I don't know why she didn't take it after Graham raped her, I thought Kate being a police officer she would know exactly what to do in that situation. I'm not familiar with how reliable the after pill is, are there occasions where it doesn't work?

She did seem a lot more traumatised after Graham raped her than she was with Trevor. I think that was because with Trevor she wasn't sure that he had done anything wrong, even though she knew deep down he had. Little Mo believed that a marriage was something sacred, and after being controlled for so long by him, she felt that he was the only person who understood and cared about her, and to believe that he was capable of something like that was unthinkable to her. For a long time she thought (because of what he had told her) that Trevor was well within his rights to have sex with her whenever he wanted, that it was a wifely duty she was obliged to perform. So I can understand why she felt different about that situation than the Graham one. Little Mo should have been able to trust Trevor (her husband) but probably after living with him for 8 years she knew that nothing was predictable.

Jessie Wallace

18-10-2005, 01:49

YES, there's no way i would have gotten rid of it.

Aunty Gee

18-10-2005, 13:10

i said yes because it is not the babys fault what happend and the baby dont need to no who the dad is

:nono: Has any ever spoke to a child that 1. had been lied about their parentage? 2. Found out that they had been concieved through the act of a Rapist (I have to both questions).

:confused: If you had then you will understand that whilst that person is a child, they have no control over their life and they will believe everything that is told to them by the adults that they trust implictly. Remember all family members must then lie also..............lost trust!!!

However, do you know what it does to the mental health of an adult that has been lied to about who and what their real origins. Has it not been said that adopted children that alway knew they where adopted are more adjusted than those who where not informed until adulthood........ie birth certifcate or adoption papers for passports etc.

I said I don't know. I'll be honest, babies do not remain babies for ever but through the selfish act of adults we can end up creating a maladjusted adults who (believes - regardless what we think ) that they do not know their place in the world or who they really are.

I know it was a scene in a soap but someone I know well could not even watch any episode relating to this incident because that was the circumstances of their birth and then lied to for too may years to count after....they have yet to find acceptance with themselves.............

Debs

18-10-2005, 14:58

i would not lie to the child about who thier real father was and when they were old enough to understand i would explain how they were concieved.

littlemo

18-10-2005, 15:00

Yes I agree that a child should be told who their father is, and from what Little Mo has said, it doesn't seem that she has any intention of lying to Freddie about it. She told the truth in court, she agreed to let Deirdre keep in touch with him (Graham's mum), she's a very honest person. If it was me I wouldn't have told Graham, the last thing you'd want is for him to think he had any part in your life. But she decided to come clean, which must have been very hard for her.

I don't think there's any question of Graham getting access because he has been proved a rapist, even if he wanted contact, he wouldn't get it. As far as Little Mo is concerned she wants Billy to be Freddie's dad, and if they could get their relationship back on track, it would be really great. It would provide Freddie with a lot of stability and love. It probably would be easier for Freddie come to terms with, when he's already got a family who love him. I wonder if he will want to see Graham when he grows up? I don't think he'll want regular contact but perhaps it would provide some sort of closure to see him once. But if I was him I wouldn't want go anywhere near him.

Debs

18-10-2005, 15:03