View Full Version : Stay at Home or Go To Work? What Do You think is best??Rec
Recent Reports have said that Children do better when their mums stay at home instead of working
what do you think is best??
I've done both and both my boys are the same - it depends on the parent - years ago when my eldest was small, I didn't have the patience to stay at home with him and needed work, now as I am older, I am a lot more patient with them and enjoy them far more, so I don't honestly think it makes too much of a difference - as long as you give them all the love they need when you are around them, working doesn't harm them....
Im a stay at home mum, i refused to work after having connor and always said i wouldnt until he goes to school. I think he is best at home with me im his mum and i know how to look after him the best, Dave 100% supported my decision to stay at home he didnt like the idea of some nursery looking after our child
Also i am a nursery nurse so what would have been the point for me to go to work looking after other peoples kids and sticking my son into nursery, my wages would have paid his nursery fees! that seemed pointless to me
connor loves being at ho,me woth me we do everything that he would do at nursery but it with me not some stranger. he is happy to go to preschool in morning and then spend time having fun with me in afternoon
although am dreading next year when he gpes to school, and i finally have to get a job again!!
definatley home.i dont see the point in having children if you are goin to go back to work,i know sometimes it cant be helped but i just couldnt do it
Well, you never know Debs, you might (hopefully/fingers crossed) conceive by then, so you can not go back again for a few more years!!
I had to work with my eldest as I was only 17 when I had him and didn't want to be tarnished with the "having a child to get a house" brush but with my youngest we could just about afford for me to stay at home and then they were handing out redundancies so I took it. Then we started our own business, which means I can sit at home, work, spend time with the kids and get paid for it!!! Best of all worlds thats for sure...
Well, you never know Debs, you might (hopefully/fingers crossed) conceive by then, so you can not go back again for a few more years!!
I had to work with my eldest as I was only 17 when I had him and didn't want to be tarnished with the "having a child to get a house" brush but with my youngest we could just about afford for me to stay at home and then they were handing out redundancies so I took it. Then we started our own business, which means I can sit at home, work, spend time with the kids and get paid for it!!! Best of all worlds thats for sure...
:rotfl: yeah that what i always say ill have them every four years?!! that way i will never have to return to work LOL
Thats why mine are timed like they are - as one starts preschool, the next is on its way!! :rotfl: Will have to get a dog next seeing as he won't let me have another baby after this one!!!
Thats why mine are timed like they are - as one starts preschool, the next is on its way!! :rotfl: Will have to get a dog next seeing as he won't let me have another baby after this one!!!
:rotfl: a dog? maybe i should try that
.:SpIcYsPy:.
04-10-2005, 15:45
Im a stay at home mum, i refused to work after having connor and always said i wouldnt until he goes to school. I think he is best at home with me im his mum and i know how to look after him the best, Dave 100% supported my decision to stay at home he didnt like the idea of some nursery looking after our child
Also i am a nursery nurse so what would have been the point for me to go to work looking after other peoples kids and sticking my son into nursery, my wages would have paid his nursery fees! that seemed pointless to me
connor loves being at ho,me woth me we do everything that he would do at nursery but it with me not some stranger. he is happy to go to preschool in morning and then spend time having fun with me in afternoon
although am dreading next year when he gpes to school, and i finally have to get a job again!!
Same as my mum :)
xXxJessxXx
04-10-2005, 15:46
I think its best for the mums to stay at home with their children. That way you can watch them growing up and spend time wiht them instead of shoving them off to some nursery. I think its gives a real bond for both and is an enjoyable time.
although some mums dont have the choice, they need to work so have to send their child in a nursary etc. but i think if you can then stay at home. worling mums could be come tired after a days work and then not want to or dont have time for their children,
The nursary my cousin goes to is all day from 8 - 5 and they can eat breakfast, lunch and dinner there, that means only a short time actually at home which a lot of their time is spent asleep. it does set children up for school though. but i think the early stages of a child life are important for a mum to be a part off.
Same as my mum :)
whats the same as your mum spicy???
I think its best for the mums to stay at home with their children. That way you can watch them growing up and spend time wiht them instead of shoving them off to some nursery. I think its gives a real bond for both and is an enjoyable time.
although some mums dont have the choice, they need to work so have to send their child in a nursary etc. but i think if you can then stay at home. worling mums could be come tired after a days work and then not want to or dont have time for their children,
The nursary my cousin goes to is all day from 8 - 5 and they can eat breakfast, lunch and dinner there, that means only a short time actually at home which a lot of their time is spent asleep. it does set children up for school though. but i think the early stages of a child life are important for a mum to be a part off.
yeah i understand when mums have to go back to work, there nowt wrong with working if that what suits you best. My Sister works 4 days a week and i look after my nephew 4 mornigns for her, he is great on a monday morning but tuesday he becomes a bitg rotty like he is really missing hi smummy and clings to me i guess as im the one who has him most, he at nursery 2 afternoons, his gran has him one afternoon amd then my mum and dad have him the last afternoon! i love looking after him though!! Thats my job!!
I didnt have to worry to much about money and stuff when i gave up work as dave had a good job and could support us all now he off sick i still cant go to work anyway as he not fit enough to look after connor!! we dont own our house or anything, if we did then i would have no choice but to work!!
I think it is best for mum to be at home, I know its not always possible for some. I gave up a high paid job to be at home with my son, and learnt to manage on the lower income.I watched him crawl,I watched him learn to walk, I was there to put plasters on his knees. he was reading like a 10 year old by the time he was three. I struggled on just my husbands pay. But looking back I am glad I did it. my son and I are more like best mates.Fate worked it that within a year of me returning to work my hubby was medically retired, but my son works he spoils us and makes sure that with my wages we live well. So it worked out in the end.
I think it is best for mum to be at home, I know its not always possible for some. I gave up a high paid job to be at home with my son, and learnt to manage on the lower income.I watched him crawl,I watched him learn to walk, I was there to put plasters on his knees. he was reading like a 10 year old by the time he was three. I struggled on just my husbands pay. But looking back I am glad I did it. my son and I are more like best mates.Fate worked it that within a year of me returning to work my hubby was medically retired, but my son works he spoils us and makes sure that with my wages we live well. So it worked out in the end.
They do so much dont they that i really didnt want to hear it through a nursery nurse!! if my nepew does something new with me i dont tell my sister so iwhen he does it home it like she saw it first!
we survived on daves wages and then benefits just like we are doing now! but we mangaed connor still gets everything he needs and we still do family things!
I loved the job i had before connor but not enough to rush back to it
Well, you never know Debs, you might (hopefully/fingers crossed) conceive by then, so you can not go back again for a few more years!!
I had to work with my eldest as I was only 17 when I had him and didn't want to be tarnished with the "having a child to get a house" brush but with my youngest we could just about afford for me to stay at home and then they were handing out redundancies so I took it. Then we started our own business, which means I can sit at home, work, spend time with the kids and get paid for it!!! Best of all worlds thats for sure...
i totally understand what you mean,luckily for me(i was 17 too) we were very lucky and rented our first house for a year and then bought it.not everyone is so lucky though.
i totally understand what you mean,luckily for me(i was 17 too) we were very lucky and rented our first house for a year and then bought it.not everyone is so lucky though.
i dont understand the whole have a baby to get a house thing? we have loads of girls doing that down here but the houses are awful and in really bad areas so i woudl aviod tehm like the plauge we could get a falt off council evn more so now dave is ill but there is no way id accept one!!!
that makes me sound snobby but im not it just i would havte connor to grow up in ta bad area and turn into the horrid kids thatlive near us!!!
.:SpIcYsPy:.
04-10-2005, 21:03
whats the same as your mum spicy???
What you said as I quoted.. she thinks and does the same like you..
She dosen't go to work she stays home and looks after my lil :angel: Now he goes to lil school for 2 hours and she stays home and does cleaning and she's planning to get a job when he goes full time.
What you said as I quoted.. she thinks and does the same like you..
She dosen't go to work she stays home and looks after my lil :angel: Now he goes to lil school for 2 hours and she stays home and does cleaning and she's planning to get a job when he goes full time.
it the best way! when con at school i look after my nephew and clean my house leaving the afternoons to devote to connor and when he busy with his dad i come on here and chat away!!!!
i dont understand the whole have a baby to get a house thing? we have loads of girls doing that down here but the houses are awful and in really bad areas so i woudl aviod tehm like the plauge we could get a falt off council evn more so now dave is ill but there is no way id accept one!!!
that makes me sound snobby but im not it just i would havte connor to grow up in ta bad area and turn into the horrid kids thatlive near us!!!
spose they dont care as long as they get a house,thats what gives young mums a bad name as they get pregnant on purpose or knowing theres no way the dad will stick by em but they dont care as they know they will get a house given to them and benefits to live on.
spose they dont care as long as they get a house,thats what gives young mums a bad name as they get pregnant on purpose or knowing theres no way the dad will stick by em but they dont care as they know they will get a house given to them and benefits to live on.#
but they dont at first down here they get a room in ahostel!! why would they want that????
Very true debs, when i split with my ex her nan died who she lived with and then she was moved to a 3 bed house in a rough area in Reading which she had to share with 2 other mums and 2 other children as well as herself and our daughter.
Not much of an incentive!! But i can see what chance is saying, some people think its the way to easy street, how wrong they are!
Very true debs, when i split with my ex her nan died who she lived with and then she was moved to a 3 bed house in a rough area in Reading which she had to share with 2 other mums and 2 other children as well as herself and our daughter.
Not much of an incentive!! But i can see what chance is saying, some people think its the way to easy street, how wrong they are!
They are very wrong, whjen i had connor we lived in a one bed really manky flat, which was not at all sutiable and we couldnt afford to move into a 2 bed so we put ourselves oncouncil waiting list! They refused to move us, we had mouse infestation, mushrooms growing in our bathroom and fron room, damp, it was awful we managed to get out whren con was 18 months! we said we were gonn have anotyher baby so they would have to move us but the woman at the council told us if we have a girl thats fine they would move us before con was 7 but if we had a boy then they wouldnt have to"!!
Absolutley disgusting
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