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leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 15:29
i am planning on having sex with my boyfriend for the first time soon. what advice can you give me on this subject please. :confused:
Aunt Sally
03-09-2005, 15:35
i am planning on having sex with my boyfriend for the first time soon. what advice can you give me on this subject please. :confused:
well firstly, are you sure your ready for such a big step- remember its illigal for under 16's to have sex in this country.
have you spoken to your doctor or family planning clinic? i would highly reccomend this as they will be able to give you all the information you need about STI's and concraception
don't feel pressured in to anything....if he is really worth it, he will wait
be safe, use protection
i'll try and find some site's
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 17:19
Have you been with your boyfriend long?
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 18:59
yes we been together for three months but we've liked each other for about a year. he has been my best boy mate for two years we have been out before for six months aswell.
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 19:07
May I ask, how old are you, and are you genuienely ready?
Its a big step think carefully
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 19:53
I agree.
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 21:03
i'll be sixteen in a few months. i am ready and i love him.
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:05
Can you not wait? If not, make sure you use contraception. Have you spoke to your GP about going on the pill?? It's confidential, so everything is between you and you doc. :)
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 21:09
yes i want to go on the pill, but i don't want my dad to find out cos he will kill me if he found out cos ma boyfriend is older than me
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:10
He/she won't, but as you are 15, the doc may recommend you tell your parents, but at the end of the day, he/she won't tell them.
I really do think you should wait and if your bf loves you he will respect your views
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:11
How long until you are 16?
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:13
Oh, by the way, depending on the GP, as each on varies, they may ask to chat with you and your parents together...
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 21:15
6 months. i really want to do it with him. WHAT! they cant tell my dad ma boyfriend will be murdered. Ma dad dont like him because hes a bit older than me. Hes a virgin aswell.
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:18
I think you are doing the right thing, regards to wanting to get contraception. Talk to your GP, explain it. They may ask you to go away and think about it, but at the end of the day, they WONT tell your parents.
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 21:23
yer me and ma boyfriend have talked about it and we both want me to be on the pill and use condoms too. ma mates have been saying it really hurts the first time - i hope not.
whatever you do take precautions
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:26
yer me and ma boyfriend have talked about it and we both want me to be on the pill and use condoms too. ma mates have been saying it really hurts the first time - i hope not.
You are thinking about it wisely, and it's obvious you have talked about it. Use both, as you don't want to become pregnant or contract any STD's. Go and see your GP. The first time is, uncomfortable, for the majority.
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:26
whatever you do take precautions
Agreed! :)
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 21:28
yep i will do and ill make him come with me
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:29
Excellent idea! As your GP will probably want to talk to him too, to make sure it's the right thing for the both of you. How long have you been thinking of this?
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 21:33
thinking of what exactly
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:34
Having sex?
xXxJessxXx
03-09-2005, 21:35
You really should wait until your ready. if you really think you are then use contraception.
you should also wait until your 16 beacuse if your parents did find out then they could press charges against your Boyfriend. but if you wait till your 16 then they cant.
you should really think about it as once its done the time cant be turnt back and i've spoken to a lot of people who say they regretted their first time. so just be sure! it seems you already know a lot about it all and have talked it through with your Boyfriend. :)
i am planning on having sex with my boyfriend for the first time soon. what advice can you give me on this subject please. :confused:
My advice is DONT have sex but MAKE LOVE there is a huge difference
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:36
My advice is DONT have sex but MAKE LOVE there is a huge difference
Again, I agree! There's a massive difference.
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 21:40
yer true there is. we been thinking about it since about a couple of weeks ago when we were on holiday together.
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:41
Can you not wait, hun?? I know you feel like it strongly now, but you may regret it.
If you were on hols together and didnt then you can wait a bit longer
xXxJessxXx
03-09-2005, 21:44
If you say you have both talked it through and really love each other and you both think you are ready you should wait just in case for safty and personal reasons. if you feel close to him then he should respect your decision to do wait if you really wanted to or he isnt worth it.
I myself think that there is a legal age limit to having sex for a reason. i'm not saying that if you do it younger its wrong or anything but i just think its that age because of a reason... they must have had reasons for making it 16. which makes me think any age below could be a bit... well i dunno, but thats what i think. lol not very good at explaining my self am i.
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 21:45
the thing is i really love him and he loves me. i know i should wait till im sixteen but i don't think i can
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:46
:(
If you saw you have both talked it through and really love each other and you both think you are ready you should wait just in case for safty and personal reasons. if you feel close to him then he should respect your decision to do wait if you really wanted to or he isnt worth it.
I myself think that there is a legal age limit to having sex for a reason. i'm not saying that if you do it younger its wrong or anything but i just think its that age because of a reason... they must have had reasons for making it 16. which makes me think any age below could bit a bit... well i dunno, but thats what i think. lol not very good at explaining my self am i.
You are good at explaining youself :)
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:47
the thing is i really love him and he loves me. i know i should wait till im sixteen but i don't think i can
Why, is it you who wants to forge ahead, or him?? Bearing in mind, we don't know you, be honest.
xXxJessxXx
03-09-2005, 21:49
the thing is i really love him and he loves me. i know i should wait till im sixteen but i don't think i can
You've waited 15 years, you've got that far... whats an other 6 months! its not long when you think about it really. if you do decide to wait he'll under stand, you said he loves you so he should understand and respect your decisions.
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 21:53
we both want to. its not like hes forcing me into anything because i wouldnt have that lol. that makes me sound well controlling. the thing is we have both said that we want to loose our virginity to each other.
Dr. Tangliss
03-09-2005, 21:54
Well, go and speak to your GP, together. :)
Its not like it will do any harm waiting for a bit, untill you are 16 though. If you both do love each other, and i'm sure you do, then whats a few months?
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 21:59
ye i will do that thanks for your advice
xXxJessxXx
03-09-2005, 22:00
good luck what ever you decide to do. remeber be careful! use contraception!
As nacy said in hollyoaks : You dont wanna end up with a rash... or worse a rugrat! lol
or regreat it when ya older!
:)
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 22:02
yer i will do. thanks to everyone for there advice
If you set about planning it for a certain time then it will be a disaster and memlorable for the wrong reasons - go on the pill and just let it happen some night with no pressure i guarantee you will both enjoy it more
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 22:08
yer then i supose we wouldnt have to plan it
xXxJessxXx
03-09-2005, 22:11
ignoe this, double post... sorry!
xXxJessxXx
03-09-2005, 22:11
If you set about planning it for a certain time then it will be a disaster and memlorable for the wrong reasons - go on the pill and just let it happen some night with no pressure i guarantee you will both enjoy it more
Oh my god i forgot about that lol. heard loads of stories about that and it actually happend to my mate. she'd kill me if she knew i was telling lol.
its right if you do plan it and everything its bound to go wrong and most propbably hurt a lot more. the settign of the scene wont be right, the atmosphere wont be right etc.
if you just wait and go with the flow it'll happen much more naturally and will hurt a lot less and be more memorable.
*By the way, love your little pic in your sig. alan45, lol very funny! :lol:
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 22:15
do you think it hurts then first time
xXxJessxXx
03-09-2005, 22:20
I dunno... i've heard it does but then i wouldnt know. i think if your not ready and its planned then it will.
If you really like the person it eases it a little too i think. and if it just happens naturally and with the flow. if its planned your both gonna be nervous and shaky etc and it wont work. Disaster alert! if your ready it will be less hurt full to i should imagine. but then again i dont actually know! lol.
i just think it should happen natural, like the person, be prepared with contraception etc.
a good site to look o i came across is bbc teens, i dunno if you've seen it but they've got loads of advise and pages on there baout all sorts of things like this. take a look.
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 22:22
ok i will
leo~is~fit
03-09-2005, 22:23
thnx
um just wondering doll but how much older is your boyfriend and you? and also it may hurt but onli painfully if your not relaxed
leo~is~fit
04-09-2005, 17:00
hes only a year older than me
yer me and ma boyfriend have talked about it and we both want me to be on the pill and use condoms too. ma mates have been saying it really hurts the first time - i hope not.
didnt hurt me but everyone is different
It will be the most memorable 30 secs of your life!
On another note, brook advisory centres are good for younger people, male and female its all confidential and as they are used to dealing with teenagers/younge adults. http://www.brook.org.uk/content/
It would be a sensible idea to wait until you are 16 as most people have already said.
its more just an uncomfortable feeling, if you take your time, if you try and move things too fast it will hurt, just relax and take your time but I'm with the ones that think you should wait until you are 16, there's no rush.
brenda1971
07-09-2005, 10:40
If your boyfriend loves you then he will wait until your 16.But I agree if you want to talk to someone go to the family planning clinic as they have advice on various types of contraception.
leo~is~fit
09-09-2005, 20:45
i'd just like to say thanks to everyone who gave me great advice for this. We went along to the doctors today and its thanks to people on here that i went.
please make sure you are ready,and have got reliable contraception.
i say this from experiace as i got pregnant with my son the first time,
as long as you are sure this is what you want
eastenderfan_91
09-09-2005, 21:41
yer make sure you think about it and use protection and that you really love each other it sounds like you do to me but make sure as he will be your first time good luck anyway
Eastenders_4ev@
14-09-2005, 13:33
I think you sould wait but, if you think your ready and have contraception, then you should be ok, but dont rush it lol.
How did you get on at the doctors? (if you dont mind me asking)
leo~is~fit
14-09-2005, 14:43
i dont mind tellin lol. the doctor has put me on the pill and told ma boyf to be careful n uses condoms.
Eastenders_4ev@
14-09-2005, 14:46
if ya dont mind me asking again lol.
Have you done it ?
leo~is~fit
14-09-2005, 15:12
nah i dnt mind people askin lol
yer we did it last night
Eastenders_4ev@
14-09-2005, 15:38
ok. did it go ok?
leo~is~fit
14-09-2005, 16:03
yer it went brilliantly considering that it was both of our first times
eastenderfan_91
14-09-2005, 16:50
good i dont really know what else to say exceot well done lol
Eastenders_4ev@
14-09-2005, 18:09
well done lol
~charlie-lou~
19-12-2005, 07:21
Well done leo~is~fit, how was it (if you don't mind me asking)?
xx
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