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$sTaCeY$
10-06-2005, 14:15
Hi
I just became a teenager yesterday and i was wondering....
Is it true you get teenage moodswings?
Anyone got any tips on being a good teenager :) not that i am a bad teenager
Hi
I just became a teenager yesterday and i was wondering....
Is it true you get teenage moodswings?
Anyone got any tips on being a good teenager :) not that i am a bad teenager
Post this in the pregancy chat.. that is where you will be able to chat to Mum/Dads of teenagers..
I was a terrible teenager.. major mood swings but I never got into trouble outside the house and I never hung around in a gang..
Yeah i was the same i was always really moody in the house.
Never really thought i was that bad at the time but now when i look back :wall:
Yeah i was the same i was always really moody in the house.
Never really thought i was that bad at the time but now when i look back :wall:
I don't know how my mum coped.. she had 9 of us, 7 in a row so she had seen all the moody swings and excuse for been out late etc.. 6 girls all hormonal.. my mum is a saint :rotfl:
I had my moments when i was a teenager! My mum still don't know about 1/2 the stff i got up to! :hmm: :thumbsup:
I had my moments when i was a teenager! My mum still don't know about 1/2 the stff i got up to! :hmm: :thumbsup:
Parent never do.. I have a lot of teenage nieces and they tell me everything that they won't or can't tell their parents.. it is nice in a way as I can keep an eye on them without betraying their trust.. that is a good thing to do, talk to an aunt/cousin or someone about your moods and feelings, it will help you Stacey
I don't know how my mum coped.. she had 9 of us, 7 in a row so she had seen all the moody swings and excuse for been out late etc.. 6 girls all hormonal.. my mum is a saint :rotfl:
I dont know how they coped either. I suppose if they have been though it all before it's easier. With me i'm the youngest and the next one up is sixteen years older than me so it was probably a shock to be back in that position again.
I am going mad with my 13 year old's mood swings now, he is so moody every now and then for no apparent reason at all. I wish that he could tell me why but he says it is nothing.....
I was a mentalist and still am :D
$sTaCeY$
10-06-2005, 17:47
does that mean care for the mental?
God, it was in the dictionary!
mentalist - way of thinking, mental endowment
I was an awful teenager - started smoking at 14 (though managed to give up through hypnotherapy last year :cheer: ), fell pregnant at 17, did certain recreational stuff and was a complete bi*$& to my mother. Even ended up having counselling about it all. But in ways it is now helping me with my eldest (12 this year) who has started with the mood swings etc, and we are more friends now and talk about everything, instead of talking about nothing, like I was with my mum. And its surprising how much we realise is going on as parents - I instinctively know when my lad is up to something, or has something on his mind!!
.:Kitz:.
11-06-2005, 16:12
I have mood swings, all the time. Me and my mum are constantly at each others throats. My door is this close to coming off its hinges....lol:D
Mum says i'm sulky and that only say a few words at a time, i'm not sulky, i just don't want her to know everything about my life!!
My mum thinks I was a good teenager, but it helped that she was relaxed about me going out and what time I was in, she said she would rather know what I was up to than me sneaking off. She still doesnt know the half of it though!!
$sTaCeY$
11-06-2005, 16:14
I have mood swings, all the time. Me and my mum are constantly at each others throats
Same here me and my mom are always at each other
$sTaCeY$
11-06-2005, 16:15
She still doesnt know the half of it though!!
tell us :) lol
Just the normal stuff, nothing major though!! Didnt smoke, drink, take drugs or get arrested. Just used to hang out in a park!!
.:Kitz:.
11-06-2005, 16:19
Same here me and my mom are always at each other Ususally i start it by shouting at my mum, nothing rude or anything!! She's really laid make i.e i'm allowed to swear (he he) slam doors, wear make up, get my hair done, belly button peirced (but i don't want it done) pluck my eyebrows (some of my mates aren't allowed to do that!!) my mum's really laid back but she's up tight about other things tho......
I did though JudeJude :lol: I didn't get arrested though. Maybe its the air in the SW!!! :lol: Seriously though, I don't think it helped that I couldn't talk to my mum - I even had to write her a letter to tell her that I was on the pill, and when I asked about sex and stuff, she shoved a medical dictionary in my hands and told me to read it. Promised myself I wouldn't be the same with my children.
.:Kitz:.
11-06-2005, 16:21
Didnt smoke, drink, take drugs or get arrested. Just used to hang out in a park!! I never smoke or take drugs or drink. Ever, sometimes there are lads down there smoking and they offer us one but i say no, there's no way i'd ever do any of them. Ever. :thumbsdow
My mum was great about stuff like that she came with me whan I got the pill at 17, so not that younge really.
My dad went mad when I got a tatto when I was 20 hadnt been living a home for a year at the time!!!
.:Kitz:.
11-06-2005, 16:24
I even had to write her a letter to tell her that I was on the pill, and when I asked about sex and stuff, she shoved a medical dictionary in my hands and told me to read it. Promised myself I wouldn't be the same with my children.My mums ok talking about sex and stuff, i think its just the problem i have, its just so embarressing hearing your mum talk about sex and condoms and the pill etc etc :sick: I'd rather not talk about it, even tho i know how important communication is!
I never smoke or take drugs or drink. Ever, sometimes there are lads down there smoking and they offer us one but i say no, there's no way i'd ever do any of them. Ever. :thumbsdow
Thats very sensible! it not worth it. I didnt even have a alcholic drink till I was 16.
Trouble is peer pressue can be very hard to resist
My mum was great about stuff like that she came with me whan I got the pill at 17, so not that younge really.
My dad went mad when I got a tatto when I was 20 hadnt been living a home for a year at the time!!! I still can't talk to my mum about that sort of stuff and I'm 30 next year!!! The very sad thing was that I couldn't tell her I was pregnant again for ages until I got my scan date through and needed her to look after my other 2. I think being able to talk to your parents openly really helps you deal with stuff as a teen. Maybe thats why I went down the route that I did?!
.:Kitz:.
11-06-2005, 16:29
Thats very sensible! it not worth it. I didnt even have a alcholic drink till I was 16.
Trouble is peer pressue can be very hard to resist
thank you :D I'd never say i've never had an alcoholic drink, i've just never gotten drunk!! :rotfl: And peer pressure is hard sometimes but the boys who smoke (and reek of it) are ok, there not vandals. To be honest i think they only smoke to look cool and because their mates do it. So, its like you said, peer prressure! :thumbsdow
I think it does help as what you here as a teenager in school is not always accurate. ie - you cant get pregnant the first time etc etc but on the other hand if you have any adult that can calrify things for you it's usefull
thank you :D I'd never say i've never had an alcoholic drink, i've just never gotten drunk!! :rotfl: And peer pressure is hard sometimes but the boys who smoke (and reek of it) are ok, there not vandals. To be honest i think they only smoke to look cool and because their mates do it. So, its like you said, peer prressure! :thumbsdow Thats exactly why I started smoking.....my friends all smoked and the pressure was there to have a try. Like the others say, well done. I fully regret smoking now and I only smoked 10 a day, but it was for 1/2 of my life.
Never smoked when I was a teenager, started at the age of 20 though for a few years, not really sure why either!!!
.:Kitz:.
11-06-2005, 16:36
i never want to smoke, i take to much pride in my hair and nails!!
It not that thats the problem!! It your lungs you have to watch out for!!!!
.:Kitz:.
11-06-2005, 16:42
It not that thats the problem!! It your lungs you have to watch out for!!!!yeah, but its the damage of the smoking on the out side that puts me off!!! lol :D
$sTaCeY$
11-06-2005, 19:17
i thought about smoking, as you say it's the pressure of everyone else smoking around you it makes you want to smoke
di marco
11-06-2005, 20:59
i have thought before, i wonder what it would be like to smoke, but ive never done anything about it as i dont want to smoke and although i just want to try one i dont want to start liking them so its best that i dont try. lots of my mates smoke though but that doesnt really make me want to smoke as they never even say anything to me about it as they know i dont want to so thats good, sometimes i have to walk away from them for a bit if too many of them are smoking at once as i cant stand near all that smoke and the awful smell.
its the same with drugs, well not exactly the same. i dont even want to try them. though some of my mates do drugs sometimes, i dont even go with them when the do it as i dont want to be involved, i think its best that way.
drinking i dont have a problem with, i can be near them when theyre drinking, even when theyre getting really drunk, and it doesnt bother me. ill have a few drinks if im with them and we are out somewhere for someones bday or new year or something but no more than a few. my mum would kill me if i turned back up home drunk anyway!
.:SpIcYsPy:.
11-06-2005, 21:00
I turned into a teen at 13. I always have mini fights with my mum but we hardly comincate much but we are very close and we love eachother very much. I for one don't smoke or drink or dress like some proper tarts like they do at my school.... Nearly 95%?? of my school can I say tried drugs, they smoke and they drink. I was once went to a party with some 'popular' girls and obviously there is like 14 in their 'group' yeah and ALL of them smoke... all leads to peer pressure as I know for a fact. There was this girl who was with me and she never smoked.
We went to a restaurant her parents left us. They all (there was 8?? of us) and 6 of them went to the loo every 5-10 minutes?? and kept on having a few fags or two. Me and this girl was sitting there. But this girl yeah... she was planing to try it. She told me herself. They all asked me she said yeah later but I said no thanks. I told my mum before party and she said don't be pushed by them. But they let me off with just me saying No thanks. She of coruse went of later... came back... and we both sat eating our pizza's and....
there was these two ladies (in thier 20's) they turn around and go.. hey so your friends having a few fags in the loo's ey? We was like erm no coz they don't smoke you see... its a bit bate love they said. They turned around. We was like oh god.. they are onto us. Well really everyone except me coz I wasnt smoking was I. Anyways they camed prepared with all the deodrant and millin packs of chewing gum....
.:SpIcYsPy:.
11-06-2005, 21:02
Hmm yeah how does it feel to smoke... but I don't want to go thier either. I may be underage but like 11 year olds do it and even younger so I can ask same thing can't I!! Im not going to try it and I totally agree with the firest bits on not to even try. But the smoke smell I have to say Im sort of used to it in a way.. passive smoking is all around us so yeah used to it but I don't smoke... hmm good in a way I guess.
Drugs is not really a topic. I HARDLY ever hear it. I only here weed, fags and vodka etc. Obviously we have people who came to our school teaching about drugs. I do listen to what they do coz like some of them sheet drugs (forgot lol) they make you think eg. you driving and the steering wheel turns into your worst nightmare - a humoungous tarnrula (sp?). I was like wicked!! But Obiously I don't want to go there!! Trust me I am so not tempted no saracasm whatsoever.
My parents would kill me for anything above.... but hey yeah they know everyone does things but I just feel sorry knowing its going to kill them badly.... *story will come up shortly* I wouldn't mind drinking some drinks very lightly though. Birthdays?? and stuff?? Ocasions only!! I don't want to get drunk, I can't really stand drunk people. My heart pours out when my dad get drunk. But he has to be very cautious now so Im very happy. Im proud of him :D
.:SpIcYsPy:.
11-06-2005, 21:14
I once had a friend, well she used to be my best friend. When she was around my house she told me she smoked. When I found out I of coruse was not angry or suprised - its normal - but I felt very sorry for her. Because she is addicted knowing whats happening to a young and healthy lungs going black is just upsetting. At one point I told her this and said I was upset and told her to stop. of coruse she didn't listen. When them drugs people came I went to have a talk with her. I sat right at the back of the hall and I just sat there waiting for everyone to go by...
When everyone went I went up to her. I said I don't really know if I should be doing this... she said don't worry I won't tell anyone I won't even ask your name so I can't tell no one. So I told her I had this friend and that she smokes and I told her its bad and it could kill her. Then she won't even be there. I will have one close friend less (she is now a friend who I talk to now and then) and I didn't want her smoking. I coudln't say anymore.
Then she said " Well you did your best to tell her to stop but that is the best you can do. You should know that if anything happens to her that you told her to stop and you should be proud of that. Least you did soemthing and thats the best you can do. " And with that I said thank-you and I left...
listen to your mum and dad,i know you think they are wrong and old fashioned but they really only have your best interests at heart.i used to think they were a pain in the bum telling what to do etc ,what time to be back in by but now i have my own children i can see that everything they did was right.
luna_lovegood
12-06-2005, 16:51
listen to your mum and dad,i know you think they are wrong and old fashioned but they really only have your best interests at heart.i used to think they were a pain in the bum telling what to do etc ,what time to be back in by but now i have my own children i can see that everything they did was right.
Yeah I agree with this even though sometimes I want to rebel against my parents for just being right! :lol:
I'm sixteen at the moment, seventeen in August wehay! I think I was more rebellious at 12/13 years olds when I was first becoming a teenager and I was trying to cope with all my teenage hormones. I remember just constantly feeling aggravated by the slightest little thing and I would just end up in a strop running off upstairs and slamming my door :D
Since then though I get on fine with my parents, I've never done anything too rebellious...never taken drugs, smoked a cigerette once just to see what the fuss was about and I hated it :sick:, I drink alchohol sometimes and even though I do get drunk very easily I only ever do it when i'm with people I trust.
I think i'm lucky that I have quite good communication with my parents, I'm rclose with my mum so I've always had no problems talking to her about girls growing up issues and sex, infact my mum once commented that I was to open with her but she would rather me be like that then ignore her :lol:
Obviously I don't tell her everything, I have one issue that I would never tell her or my dad about but i'm just thankful that my best mate helped me through it.
Anyway as I was saying I think that communicating with friends and family was the way I stayed out of trouble when I was younger and is the reason i'm not off the rails now!
$sTaCeY$
15-06-2005, 13:41
listen to your mum and dad,i know you think they are wrong and old fashioned but they really only have your best interests at heart.i used to think they were a pain in the bum telling what to do etc ,what time to be back in by but now i have my own children i can see that everything they did was right.
Parents are a pain in the bum when they keep telling you what to do, I can't go out by myself because of drug gangs hanging around our area, They keep saying its only because we care about you, its totally boring listening to your parents!!
Parents are a pain in the bum when they keep telling you what to do, I can't go out by myself because of drug gangs hanging around our area, They keep saying its only because we care about you, its totally boring listening to your parents!!It is boring, and I used to hate it when my parents used to say the same to me, but it is genuinely because we care about our kids so much and we don't want any harm coming to them. If drug gangs are hanging around outside, they are probably just trying to protect you from a) the drugs and b) the people who are under the influence of them. Drugs make people do very strange things (I know) and avoidance is the best policy!!
I think it does help as what you here as a teenager in school is not always accurate. ie - you cant get pregnant the first time etc etc but on the other hand if you have any adult that can calrify things for you it's usefull
I was told by my gran, mum and all my sisters that the first time you had sex no matter what protection you used you would still get pregnant. Two of my sisters had kids in there teens and they said that's what happened to them because they didn't believe my mum........that scared the hell out of me
I was told by my gran, mum and all my sisters that the first time you had sex no matter what protection you used you would still get pregnant. Two of my sisters had kids in there teens and they said that's what happened to them because they didn't believe my mum........that scared the hell out of me
OMG that is so unfair!!! but very freaky considering two of your sisters got pregnant.
OMG that is so unfair!!! but very freaky considering two of your sisters got pregnant.
Tell me about it.It wasn't until the middle of high school when people started talking about it that i thought that something wasn't right with what i'd been told.
I think they only got pregnant because my mum always said use protection but never actually explained what types there were avalible to us.
that is the problem with telling your kids lies, no matter the good motive. when they find out that you have lied about anything, they may not believe you again even when you tell the truth.
My mother gave me booklets from the family planning centre. the Facts of Life for Kids, the Facts of Life for Adults and Conception & Contraception. This was 25 years ago!
I dont agree with telling your kids stuff like babies come from cabbage patches and things like that. As soon as they start to question you should be totally truthful with them. Makes things easier in the long run
I dont agree with telling your kids stuff like babies come from cabbage patches and things like that. As soon as they start to question you should be totally truthful with them. Makes things easier in the long runI agree, and this is how I am with my eldest. My hubby doesn't really like it, but its better to know the truth now. If I am open and honest with him now, hopefully it will help him not make me a granny at 34!!!!
One of my friends mum's had her at 15 and had loads of support from her family even helped her get her a house a looked after my friend when her mum was working and stuff like that. But my Friend fell pregnant at 17 and her mum chucked her out the house. I never understood this as her mum had been through it all before and even at a younger age. I say if it happens it happens there no point in blaming them and throwing them out the house, they need your support.
One of my friends mum's had her at 15 and had loads of support from her family even helped her get her a house a looked after my friend when her mum was working and stuff like that. But my Friend fell pregnant at 17 and her mum chucked her out the house. I never understood this as her mum had been through it all before and even at a younger age. I say if it happens it happens there no point in blaming them and throwing them out the house, they need your support.Very true Lunalee. My feelings for my kids is complete, unconditional love. When they need me, I am there for them. If they do something thats a bit "daft", I will tell what I think of the situation, but still help them through it. Isn't that what parenting is all about?? If you are dealing with a situation where your child has fallen/helped someone fall pregnant, isn't it better to do your best to support them in what ever decision is made??!!
Very true Lunalee. My feelings for my kids is complete, unconditional love. When they need me, I am there for them. If they do something thats a bit "daft", I will tell what I think of the situation, but still help them through it. Isn't that what parenting is all about?? If you are dealing with a situation where your child has fallen/helped someone fall pregnant, isn't it better to do your best to support them in what ever decision is made??!!
I totally agree thats all they would be looking for support!!! I am not a parent but have a lot of neices and nephews and i know that if anything had to happen to them i would support them all the way.
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