Can you say 'NO' without feeling guilty?

[Perdita]

I have a problem with saying 'No' to people when they want me to do things for them that I don't really want to do. I feel that I am being taken for granted a lot of the time but just feel soo guilty if I refuse, so I end up doing the favour, although deep down I feel so hacked off about it too, especially when I know that there are quite a few other people who could do the job as well. :crying: :angry: Anybody else feel like that?

[Katy]

I have a massive problem with saying No, i never want to let anybody down, or like you say feel guilty if i refuse. I think i am getting a bit better though, after i did let people down by taking on too much this freshers week, i am sort of learning my lesson.

My mam is the same though, she cant either.

[Siobhan]

I am just as bad... I feel guilty at the times I do say no and end up doing it in the end... I have a full calendar everyday and still can't tell anyone "sorry but I am busy"... if you find out how to say no without feeling guilty.. please please let me know

[Perdita]

I said this morning that I am busy, so the guy just said: "I'll drop it off in the office on Monday then". There is just no way I could have told him to *bleep bleep bleep* which is what I really wanted to. I know I will do whatever it is on Monday, don't even know yet how much work it is.

[Siobhan]

I was like that last Thursday.. manager sent me a email asking if I would be focal for something or other... course idiot that I am said yes.. had a call on Friday about the Project and it seems that I am going to be doing nearly a second job on top on what I am doing now... Have about 36 documents that need to be written and approved in 2 weeks..

[Perdita]

Poor you, hope you manage it. If you don't see any more posts from me after Monday, you'll know that I am buried under a mountain of paper :D

[Abbie]

It depends on the situation to whether I feel guilty or not

[Abigail]

I generally can't say no. Sometimes if it's one person who continually asks or expects me to do things for them then I will say something but if I don't have anything else to do or I have the means to do it, I will.

[Kirsty :]]

I'm terrible at saying no. It's that bad I've been told on numerous occasions that I have doormat written on my forehead... not good.

[Katy]

;687002']I'm terrible at saying no. It's that bad I've been told on numerous occasions that I have doormat written on my forehead... not good.

Same, It really sucks! but i just cant help it :wall:

[Kirsty :]]

I know me either. I just like helping people, we care too much for everyone else and forget about ourselves that's what it is :p

[Katy]

;687007']I know me either. I just like helping people, we care too much for everyone else and forget about ourselves that's what it is :p

It must be!

[Chloe O'brien]

It has to be a female thing as I'm exactly the same at work. I only work part-time yet I do more work for the lecturing staff than some full-time members of staff. It's because I'm a soft touch and I hate to say no to them.

[Kirsty :]]

I always used to do it at work, covering everyones shifts for them because the way I see it and always have done.. and probably always will, is treat people how you want to be treated.. doesn't always work though lol

[Katy]

i think it must be a female thing as my dad always says well its easy just say no the them and then you wont be stressed, I do! Its like not that simple to do

[Abigail]

I couldn't say no today. I got roped into handing leaflets out for a cause I don't believe in but as nobody else was around to do it, I had to.

I went to the union to send an email and ended up spending eight hours being a general dogsbody.

[Kim]

I couldn't today either. I ended up lending money to someone who already owes me money.