I feel he is gay/bi, married to 'do the right thing' and now has been alone so long he is reluctant and unsure of how to behave with a partner?

I had a gay friend who said her greatest regret was not finding a husband and having 2.4 kids? As to be 'normal' would have been so much easier and accepted

This was in the 90's where even in London, shouting at , spitting at and a bit of roughing up of gay women was the norm from men? let alone what it must have been like for gay men?