How Was Your Day? VII

[Dazzle]

Apols Parkerman not familiar with book publishing procedures , thought for a minute you had already written a sequel .

You're not the only one, Glen.

[parkerman]

I can always start on the sequel if there's sufficient demand.

[Siobhan]

Need a big rant before I crack up. Not sure of people views on ADHD but I a sick of hearing that it is made up and just ba parenting. I don't think I am a bad mother and I definitely say no to my kids. My son has ADD with agression and some social issues. It is a real illness and is extremely difficult to live with. I have tried lots of things and even moved my son to a school that deals with these problems. However, it got so bad that the school can't teach him anymore and I had to admit him to a special clinic that provides therapy and testing to see if medication will help or not. My soon must stay over night andI only get to see him for 2 hours 3 nights a week and 4 hours on Saturday and Sunday. It breaks my heart to leave him there so "it is not real" is not great words of comfort to me or my son. What do you say to a child when they ask why they can't be normal and have friends? Sorry son,itis not real I'm just a bad mother.....

Sorry for the rant. I miss my son, am miles from my family and just feeling lost and stressed. Rant over

[Perdita]

I am so sorry, Siobhan, wish there was something I could do to help. If ranting here helps, please feel free to do so. Hugs xxxx

[Dazzle]

What an awful situation for you and your family Siobhan!

Please feel free to rant as much as you need to. None of us who know you will believe for a moment that your son's illness is your fault. It's so unfortunate that there are still people who believe that, what an awful thing for you to hear!

I'm certain that in the case of ADHD there's absolutely NO blame to be laid at your door, Siobhan.

Is there any chance of you moving back to Ireland and your family in the future?

[moonstorm]

I can imagine you must feel as if your heart is being ripped out every time you have to leave him! Never mind what everyone else thinks, just as long as you know you are doing the best you can for you son xxx

[swmc66]

A lot more needs to be done about raising awareness of ADHD. I knew someone years ago who had a child ill with it and not many people knew about it here and people just kept saying her child was just bad and it was an American newly defined illness that did'nt exist. She was an exceptional parent and we helped her establish her charity in support of children with ADHD. Not sure if it still is around. You sound like a good caring parent to me who has lots of love and time for her son. it's not easy for a parent to see their child have an illness. My daughter has been ill for years and you just have to find the strength to be there when they need you. My daughter feels she is loved and it gets her through and she is happy. So all you can do is love him like you already do and get through this together.

[Siobhan]

Big thank you for all your kind words. I just needed to vent. I have to say the help I am getting here in Germany is fantastic. They are looking to see if my son can be transfered to a day clinic so he can be home by 5 every night so it is a step forward. So much stress the last few days with meetings with social workers and therapist. I should stop reading english forums as that is where they say it is not real. What I didn't know is that a lot of people in uk claim their kids have adhd as they can claim benifits..... that's crazy and can understand now why so many claim it is bad parenting. These people who claim extra benefits just make it hard for real cases. My son has had testing done over 3 years before he was diagnose and thankfully is currently not on medication.

[Dazzle]

I'm glad to hear you're sounding better, Siobhan.

It's great that you've got a lot of support, and that your son might be transferred to a day clinic soon. Let us know what happens won't you?

[swmc66]

That is good news.